How to become a good conversationalist

[scorpio37]

Ok,I have a problem with my game which is the lack of conversation that I have whenever I open a set.I know I´m not gonna say the typical,what´s your name,do you come here often? because I know that´s the thing a desperate dude would say.How can I become a good conversationalist and create stories that can give me value in her eyes?
Thanks

[bizzyb1]

Be a man of value, bro. That's the best way. Don't fake your traits; actually have traits that make up a high value male. How do you do that? Look into yourself and find that you are all you need. Don't seek validation from the outside. Don't seek validation period. Routines, stacks, material etc., you have to let go some day. So why not begin by getting on the bike without training wheels. Find your true self.

[bizzyb1]

Go out and have adventures. This is how you get stories.

[Big Papa]

Go have FUN! if you truly have fun, and can articulate this fact you fine....

[BigJohnson]

Drop finding interest in what not to say, and find interest in what was previously overlooked, whats right in front of you. Quite literally anything is a topic for conversation, something to be made light of. Your passion for life, and your deep seeded contentedness fills you with such joy, that its hard to keep a smile off your face. Its hard to hold back that feeling, let is douse your words and bring joy to others.

When your talking to a girl you can do a few things. You can imagine what your saying has been said by hundreds of guys before you, which is probably true. Which will utterly destroy you drive and charisma. Or, you can present the moment with a unique brand of charm that comes directly from you. You can put what doesn't matter in the back ground. The fact that your making light of something, and being distraught by something that is completely out of your control is ludicrous. It doesn't matter if she's heard it before, she's never heard it quite like that before.

Conversation is.. what? Is it.. the art of getting information from someone? No. The actual information being passed back and forth is not the goal. Whats the point of asking a girl where she is from? If she goes to school? What her favorite color is? Is it to have knowledge of these things? Nope! Its to ride the medium of verbal speech, and willingness to express toward a emotional connection. So, this means it is not the words your using, rather the field of energy you create while your expressing. Your field, will cause her field to grow, and grow, and grow with yours. Because she can feel it! Its charm! Its charisma! Its derived from inside you and EXPRESSED through you. Eventually, your able to talk and communicate on a level no one else can be a part of. You create your own connection. This is what women are searching for, an strong, alluring field to merge with! All of it is felt not seen nor heard. :eek:

Trust me.

[scorpio37]

I thank you for the advice.What about the topics to talk about with them?

[Turboorav]

Well..the point is you can talk about everything just you have to live in the present. But if u can't do it then...good topics are relationships, their passions, future dreams (for deep connection). Talk passionately about matchboxes and it just may be the fcking most amazing thing they have ever heard :D

[azazels_wolf]

And we've also got a great thread with tips on having interesting conversations:
http://www.venusianarts.com/forum/showthread.php?t=14503

[DAmdam]

Be interested, be in the zone, I mean, if you are having a good time with this girl, you will be able to just start threads as you speak.
Though it is more likely for you to generate conversations, threads, more easily, if you sarge more, so the more you speak, the better conversationalist you get