Where to go?

[apg96]

Ok so i am getting decent at opening a set and ultimatley getting a phone number or email.

But her in lies my problem. Im trying to keep up my high value, but i never have anywhere to invite them too. Sure i can usually change locations or whatever but usually i use day game to number close and such but then i cant just call them up and invite them to a movie. Thats too AFC.

Im not old enough to get into a bar. And im in college so for right now im living in a dorm.

What should i do? Just take them to dinner?

[DarkPrince]

Dinner is the same thing as the movie really.

My AFC Advice includes:
1) invite them over for a movie and kino escalate.

2) Have her come over and you guys can cook a meal together (my friend did this with a HB 8.5 brought her over to cook breakfast together)

3) have a picnic somewhere, have her bring the sandwiches you bring the desert.


That’ all on top of my head.

good luck
-Prince

[apg96]

i would do the cooking thing, that not a bad idea, but again i live in a dorm at the moment to that makes it a lil harder.

[Mild_Seven]

I think dinner can sometimes be too formal of a thing, if you frame it as a simple date opportunity. You have to frame dinner as you introducing her to the coolest joint in town, or the place with the most kickass milkshakes or hookahs with apple flavor tobacco or whatever. Then it becomes you two hanging out and doing something cool rather than just "going to dinner" and being nervous.

Movies can be good for kino escalation (sitting side by side is good), but you can't talk so I don't do movies until it's already in the bag. A coffee house or cafe with counter seats is good for the same kind of kino escalation.

If you know a cool shop with all sorts of cool shit that you can show her and play around with, then go there. I take girls to this novelty shop where there are all sorts of funny hats we can try on, jokes gifts (like underwear that fits two people) that we can laugh about, etc.

If you know a place with some kind of live music (sometimes those events are at parks or wherever rather than bars).

If there's one of those video game centers where you pay by the hour rather than by the game, you could go there.

You could go bowling.

etc.

If you're running day game, you should have something in mind as an instadate in case the interaction goes really well and you can go straight there together.

[TheCoolerKing]

Why is your sn my full Intials?

[JCMoney]

If you're doing this for daygame, then DEFINITELY instadate. Even if it's just walking somewhere with her u can always stop at some food vendor/coffee shop/etc. and get something. There's you Inst-a-date! The more of these you can do with her, the more solid the illusion that you and her have done "several things together" already. You definitely need something original for a "1st date". I try to have something planned with my friends and invite her to "tag along". Ive had paint ball as a 1st date and it was PERFECT. It got the girl out doing something she hadnt done before...her and I were a "team" trying to hunt people down/escape people...it took her through scared/mean/excited/thrilling emotions...etc. Go play Laser Tag. Go to an amusement park and do that "Swing Coaster" thing or bungie jump, or skydive. Do something off the wall and wild that u KNOW no one else has asked her to do. How many tools invite her over for a movie, or to dinner? Do something new. something exciting. and something you REALLY enjoy. Your enthusiam for it will be contagious.

[Jester]

What should i do? Just take them to dinner?

Depends on your frame. I never do dinner dates until atleast day 4-5.

Goto your local information centre and find out what activity based things there are around your area. Preferably free. This can be anything from mini putt to video games to rock climbing to art shows to museums etc etc you get my drift.

[DarkPrince]

How many tools invite her over for a movie.

JC love your ideas.. but I take offence to the tool comment =P
anyways, I say if it works do it ^_^ :)

Paint balling-good
Lase tag - just as good
highschool concerts - just as well
College Sport Games - not too shabby

I still give the ideas 2 thumbs up! sky diving and bunji jumping i would say would be a bit too costly for a first date especially for a college student!

[Superfreak]

Well paintball can be fun but you can also get some hella bruises from it to. So that might be a deal breaker or mood killer.

You can find all kinds of fun stuff though like make your own pottery places, if not one of those ask around to see if there are any artist in your area that will give you and your date a class.

I am into photography so I might take them out to historical places and snap shots, if you paint or draw well ask to sketch them.

Bowling or shooting pool

Take them to the mall shopping with you just to tag along.

Resturants can be ok, I used to take dates to the first brick building in LA mexican resturant near union station they had mariachi players and such and the prices were not too bad.

Art galleries

One thing is to find something like a hobby that you are really into and share it with them.

I have taken girls to the shooting range, Ice skating, fishing.

The shooting range is awsome, some of them will be like I hate guns then they get to shoot it and you can barely drag them out.

[Hawaii]

Take her somewhere you are already going yourself in your daily routine. For example. "Im going down to Mel's Diner to grab a bite to eat, you should tag along"

[crypticfox]

I once took a girl to Hustler Hollywood (it's an upscale porn shop basically) on a date back in my AFC days. It was a riot... she chased me around and beat me with a giant dildo.

That's one of those things you have to feel out though... how comfortable she is with stuff like that.

[apg96]

i always think about going to the shooting range. I am a member there and i also know my way around a gun which could make them feel safer with me. and i also know some of the guys that work that which could give me social proof.

Would love to do sky diving, but too poor for that.

[DarkPrince]

I got a gut feeling gun ranges isnt a good idea for a first date.

[crypticfox]

I got a gut feeling gun ranges isnt a good idea for a first date.

As do I. I think this could potentially communicate the wrong things early in comfort building. On the other hand, later on I could see it being fun.

[Superfreak]

As do I. I think this could potentially communicate the wrong things early in comfort building. On the other hand, later on I could see it being fun.

Its all in the frame that you do it in, If you do it as a gun nut then yea might not go over so well.

I tell them its something I did when I was in the navy that I thought was cool and that I think they will enjoy it.

I tell them the story of it and build it up a bit. The reason I like it , is its different and also its a rush.

Kinda like how they say woman are more turned on by scarry movies then romantic ones. It works the same way gives them a natural high of sorts.

I usually meet for coffee and then build up a story or something to peak their intrest then I suggest it like it was a whim of the moment thing. Same with rock climbing or anything else. I never give her an option but I always try to have two or three options to choose from.

I also use the well I was going to do this today why don't you tag a long method as well.

[apg96]

i see what you guys are saying. Thanks for the advice.

I also have rock climbed a couple times and there is one of those indoor rock climbing gyms around here.

What about racing go karts? As a spur of the moment type thing.

[Superfreak]

Yea there yea go GoKarts rock , Like I said the thing I do is meet them cofee or whatever and then after we have started to talk and build but before it gets stail and akward I take them on an Adventure, some what planned but to them it comes off as whim of the moment and fun, interesting, whatever... the Ideal is to sweep them up in the moment like in a romance novel. . .

[TheCoolerKing]

Well paintball can be fun but you can also get some hella bruises from it to. So that might be a deal breaker or mood killer.

You can find all kinds of fun stuff though like make your own pottery places, if not one of those ask around to see if there are any artist in your area that will give you and your date a class.

I am into photography so I might take them out to historical places and snap shots, if you paint or draw well ask to sketch them.

Bowling or shooting pool

Take them to the mall shopping with you just to tag along.

Resturants can be ok, I used to take dates to the first brick building in LA mexican resturant near union station they had mariachi players and such and the prices were not too bad.

Art galleries

One thing is to find something like a hobby that you are really into and share it with them.

I have taken girls to the shooting range, Ice skating, fishing.

The shooting range is awsome, some of them will be like I hate guns then they get to shoot it and you can barely drag them out.
I agree with the paintball.
A lot of girls dont care for guns and violence. So I would rule that out.

I would do go-carts.
Then I would try and make her car lose control just like the police do it.
hahaha


But you're a photographer?
So am I.
We should definetly talk.

[Protagonist]

I have done the window shopping date. We meet up at a mall or coffee shop in a mall, then take it from there. Montreal has the underground city which rocks for winter.