The boyfriend badge

[Solus]

This is something that I've been thinking about for a wee while now and although I understand it on one level, on another it just doesn't make any sense to me. I'm hoping to get some new perspectives on it be they male or female.

Why is it that some women consider being single to be a demonstration of lower value?

In conversations I've had it seems to me that a large proportion of women prefer to be in almost any kind of relationship than be single. It's like it's a checklist in their lives that must not be left wanting.

Job. Tick.
Car. Tick.
House. Tick.
Boyfriend. Tick.

Conclusion: I am a successful woman on the right life path!

So when a woman asks me, "Have you got a girlfriend?" I always feel a bit wary.

It's a catch 22 question. A double bind. Neither "Yay" nor "Nay" is the correct response. Worse still, evading the question can make it seem you have something to hide.

Now obviously there's ways of dealing with this type of question and I'm willing to listen to any new suggestions but that's a secondary concern for me. It's the underlying psychology behind it that I'm really interested in.

You see, to my mind it's better to be single than be involved with someone just for the sake of it. In fact, to be involved with just any girl would be a massive DLV for me.

So, since it's already too late to cut a long story short, what's the thinking behind the female 'Boyfriend Badge'?

[Wild Card]

It's an evolutionary thing. Women need a man to survive and replicate, they feel whole and complete when they are secure with man who can provide these values. Don't be worried if a woman asks you this, it is in fact an IOI. however, when I get asked this I tend to leave them hanging anyways, i keep them guessing. Just like when a girl asks me if Im gay, I never tell them, it keeps them guessing because they want to stick around to find out the answer. I'm usually just pretty cocky funny about the whole thing.
you have to think of it in terms that every girl is an AFC and they want to be with a man with all the right values, that's just the nature of things, just like an AFC guy just wants to be with a girl for the same reasons. Most PUAs like being single because they know how this works and why this works, were crafty like that ;)

[BigJohnson]

On top of what Wild said, women seem to be a bit more tied to social status as a motivator for a lot of what they do. So if the question ever were to come up in the context of status, they could at least say their seeing someone, for whatever reason.

Girls will even date low value guys in the event they assume they cannot attract and keep high value guys, just to have someone. It's linked to confidence. Its assumed they cannot attract a higher value man, its their own assumption. Of course until a high value guy comes a long, destroys their "lacklucker confidence" bitch shield, and form a real connection. Even then, due to her initial perspective, she may be always in fear of losing him.

Then again a very high value girl may not settle for low value, and requires a man of higher value to come and blow her mind, body, and soul. A high value man will recognize this subconsciously and stay with her, and she will know this. Then it becomes about more than status, its self satisfaction. In fact, she may actually lose some friends, and drop some of the old things she use to do to merge with his world. Forming a happy relationship. The man, may aslo be nautrally compelled to do the same.

[TheJock]

I would let them dicuss with themselves if i got a GF. I can ask things like "If you only look at my outside, would you think i got a GF?"

If they say YES, i usually begin with the "comfort-section" :D If they say NO, bad luck!