Expanding And Progressing Her Sexuality Techniques

[Bret Rigby]

This may have been posted before but I'm also curious..

From my studies, and I think most would agree, some women cannot orgasm as efficiently as others. Actually, I saw on CNN a few weeks back that women with higher IQ's tend to have more orgasms. I don't know if all that is true but interesting nonetheless.

The beautiful young lady I'm currently seeing has that issue. One thing I found very interesting is the only way she can really climax is through dry humping. I've never met a girl who gets off on that so much. But I believe is a hint that clitoral stimulation is her preferred method.

I don't think it's a matter of my technique because she's always had the same problem with all of her lovers. It may be that her 'gear' is too small to support certain means of climaxing. But I'd still like to try.

With all that said, what is the best way to bring this up in conversation? Or do I modify my technique without even talking about it? Are there any techniques that anyone can reccomend with a high success rate?


Bret

[PUA casanova]

Im a student of David Shade I'm fascintated with sexuallity. So if you have any questions on sexualltiy or anything deeper let me know. I think L.A. Tripp has alot of knowledge on this too, not sure tho.

[L.A. Tripp]

LOL, thanks casanova for throwing my name in there.

Yes Bret, there is definitely some stuff you can do here. And, what I would do is use one particular technique with or without telling her exactly what you are doing. There's a . . . finger technique you can use that will literally send her through the roof. I know casanova knows what I'm talking about already, lol. You do a "come hither" motion with it. It's in David Shade's work so you can be taught this.

The communication between you two will help a lot, you and the girl. There is power in you telling her what you will do . . . exactly, and then . . . doing it exactly as you said. But, don't discount the power of surprising her with something new that will make her . . . absolutely gush . . . all over you, as well.

BTW, this finger technique, when done correctly . . . let's just say you will effectively blow away anything any other guy will ever do to her.

As he said, pm either one of us for more info. I won't go into ALL of the details on the open forum, lol.

[Techno]

dude, the 'come-hither' technique is AMAZING!!!! but in order to do it right, you gotta use ur middle and ring finger. Girls go insane when i do it. def worth a try.

[Rodehard]

Not to be rude, but I hear a lot of guys say the same thing. In college I took a class called human sexuality, a class about sex. The research said that all women can go to the big O. The average is 7 minutes of stimulation. The biggest thing that keep women from cuming is the man. They think they can make her cum by just pounding away. Truth is any man can make any woman O if he takes time to master technique and foreplay. The most powerful orgasims are when the man and woman cum together. I can't count the number of HBs that are in their mid 20s who tell me I am the first guy to make them cum. It is embarassing to us as guys. The come-hither while oraly stimulating her clit and humming will make her whole body shake.

[L.A. Tripp]

Rode, you hear a lot of guys saying what?

I know that a lot of guys claim they are masters in bed, when in fact they don't know shit. You are right in that they think they can make any woman come by just pounding away, which just isn't true. Technique and foreplay truly do carry a ton of weight sexually. However, most guys don't know exactly what all foreplay entails. They don't realize that foreplay even includes words that the guy speaks and the timing of those words.

And you're right, there are a TON of women who have never experienced an orgasm. Not just in their 20's, but in their 30's and above as well. Some of these women haven't even figured out how to make themselves come on their own. Sure, some can do it for themselves but a guy hasn't done it for them. I've been with some of those girls as well, and they couldn't believe they a guy made them cum.

It can be looked at as embarassing for us guys, sure, but it could also be looked at as . . . those guys don't know what they are missing, because when those girls experience those of us that KNOW what to do . . . the girl experiences something she has NEVER experienced, and appreciates us that much more.

[Rodehard]

Rode, you hear a lot of guys saying what?
Sorry I was replying to Bret's Post that (From my studies, and I think most would agree, some women cannot orgasm as efficiently as others.)

To me being a PUA includes being a master at every phase of the game including making her cum. I am not sure if the term fits exactly but being a great lover is like a DHV. Women tend to brag to their friends and if you are honest about "I am not looking for a relationship" from the start, being a good lover with 1 woman gets you laid by her friends.

[L.A. Tripp]

Aahh, gotcha now Rode.

Yep, I agree, being a great lover is a great DHV. It adds to your own self-confidence, because you are sexually competent, and as you said, she WILL brag about it/you, as well.

[Bret Rigby]

Definitely agree about the 'come hither' technique. Both at the g spot and deep spot. The girl I'm with currently told me she's never had that feeling before. However, I haven't had extensive time doing the deep spot(I just did it for a tick tonight to get some feedback from her). But I have been working at the g spot and have yet to get her to orgasm vaginally from it. We went at it for a while each time(probably a total of 3 times) and she got so turned on she told me just to fuck her. And it had probably been in excess of 10 minutes so I figured she wasn't going to climax from it. I know this girl can have a clitoral orgasm. We've done that quite a few times, but the only way she can is if we have our clothes on and dry hump(weird much?). But she's NEVER had a vaginal orgasm.

Anyway, do you guys have any tips on g spot stimulation? Is there possibly something I'm not doing correct? She can definitely feel it and she says she feels like she's right there.. I need help!!

[L.A. Tripp]

Start with her mind. Get her turned on their with your words. Get her relaxed and sexually excited at the same time. Most girls that don't come vaginally either have guys that don't know, or care, what they are doing for the girl, or they just aren't comfortable mentally with anyone. If she's not comfortable mentally and emotionally, that will affect her. Since she's getting right at the edge but not going over, that would be my first thought, is she's not comfortable enough, even if SHE doesn't realize that.

Also, explore her body before you ever get to that point. Raise her excitement level as much as possible.

Some girls even think their twat is broken, so that affects this also. If they don't think, mentally, that they work properly, that will affect how their body actually functions.

Work with those tips then tell us what happens.

[Bret Rigby]

Soooo tried a couple different things. No g spot orgasm yet. But she said she is definitely feeling more of it and it's feeling better and better. Should I keep working at it? Or I was thinking about moving to the deep spot instead. Thoughts?

- Bret

PS: I only have 5 days left until I'm not going to see this girl for at least a month so I at least want to give her something to remember me by..

[L.A. Tripp]

Soooo tried a couple different things. No g spot orgasm yet. But she said she is definitely feeling more of it and it's feeling better and better. Should I keep working at it? Or I was thinking about moving to the deep spot instead. Thoughts?

- Bret

PS: I only have 5 days left until I'm not going to see this girl for at least a month so I at least want to give her something to remember me by..

Why won't you see her for at least a month?

Why stop at one? Do both and see what she likes best.

[Bret Rigby]

Getting out of the military and heading back home. She's still in school and I guess we're going to see how the long distance thing works out. Done it before with no luck but we'll see.

I'll let you know how the deep spot works out for her.

- Bret

[Rodehard]

Should I keep working at it?
You are really asking this question??? OF course keep working at it. The power to make a woman multiple O is a major DHV that she will brag to her friends about. Hang in there and learn every technique you can. If you think its hard now, wait until you screw up and get into a LTR. Its a state of constant and never ending improvement. No matter how good you are, once it becomes common she gets bored and you have to learn more. Stay ahead of the curve. You wife, mistress, and girlfriend will appreciate it.

[L.A. Tripp]

Bret, when you're heading home . . . do you have to head home and leave her behind? I mean, if you really like the girl, is another arrangment possible? Or . . . are you two not that serious?

And, I don't always agree with Rode, lol, but on this post, I definitely back him up. Most guys have trouble giving a girl ONE "O" because they know NOTHING about sexual technique. If you're the exception to that . . . girls WILL be bragging to their friends because THEY have found a guy that can REALLY satisfy them.

ALWAYS be learning more about sexual techniques.

[Bret Rigby]

Bret, when you're heading home . . . do you have to head home and leave her behind? I mean, if you really like the girl, is another arrangment possible? Or . . . are you two not that serious?

And, I don't always agree with Rode, lol, but on this post, I definitely back him up. Most guys have trouble giving a girl ONE "O" because they know NOTHING about sexual technique. If you're the exception to that . . . girls WILL be bragging to their friends because THEY have found a guy that can REALLY satisfy them.

ALWAYS be learning more about sexual techniques.

We're going to wait and see how things pan out. She has school and I have some things I have to take care of. I'm going to go from seeing her once a day to seeing her once every month or so. I don't want to do the distance thing again but my schedule is about to be so hectic it kinda works out a little better than having to deal with a girlfriend everyday.

We'll see.

And I agree as well, I'll keep working at it.

[Zoe]

Soooo tried a couple different things. No g spot orgasm yet. But she said she is definitely feeling more of it and it's feeling better and better. Should I keep working at it? Or I was thinking about moving to the deep spot instead. Thoughts?

- Bret

PS: I only have 5 days left until I'm not going to see this girl for at least a month so I at least want to give her something to remember me by..
I'm new here so I don't have the same credentials as these other folks. I am, however; a girl. I get the sense from reading these that details are a no-no on the main page, so if you want to private message me I can give you a girl's opinion on what actually works and what doesn't. Granted, it varies by girl but I can give you a good sense of what I know from personal experience and from my girlfriends.

Also, what stuff did you try? Did you notice how her body reacted to each thing? If you can remember that, you can probably figure out what particular things actually work for her.

[L.A. Tripp]

I'm new here so I don't have the same credentials as these other folks. I am, however; a girl. I get the sense from reading these that details are a no-no on the main page, so if you want to private message me I can give you a girl's opinion on what actually works and what doesn't. Granted, it varies by girl but I can give you a good sense of what I know from personal experience and from my girlfriends.

Also, what stuff did you try? Did you notice how her body reacted to each thing? If you can remember that, you can probably figure out what particular things actually work for her.

Welcome Zoe. Good to see another girl. No, I'm not one, lol.

It does vary by girl. To an extent anyway. I mean, you all do have different sizes/lengths of your vaginal cannals . . .

Now, watching her body respond to different things is excellent advice.

[HollywoodOV]

ALWAYS be learning more about sexual techniques.

Hey guys, I don't post here often, but I read a lot. I will say one thing, be careful learning too many techniques, you could definitely get too boring and mechanical.

I would recommend, especially for guys who feel like they are lacking a bit sexually, The Sex God Method. It literally discusses 0 techniques, and it helped my sex life quite a lot. Not only do my partners enjoy sex more, but so do I. It really examines the side of sex that most guides leave out.

I've never really even had much of a problem getting girls to climax, but now it just seems more intense for me and her.

It looks at sex through a mostly mental lense, and breaks it up into 4 aspects, Dominance, Emotion, Variety, and Immersion. I found that my weekest point was immersion, and that really helps with developing a comfortable orgasm supporting interaction.

I know the ebook doesn't cost much, and the older editions can likely be torrented, but look into it. It may sound a bit chodish, but it really helped me appreciate sex a lot more, especially when I've got a lot of it available.

[L.A. Tripp]

Good response Hollywood . . . however, for others reading this . . . if learning more sexual techniques makes you too boring and mechanical, you're not doing it right. You're not in the moment as you should be. If this is the problem, you likely have the same issue with the entire pick up process as well. The same principle applys to both. If you're in the moment, there is absolutely nothing wrong with knowing several techniques to bust out with and bring more pleasure to both partners.

[HollywoodOV]

I don't think knowing more techniques is a bad thing, I just think when a guy can't get one thing to work, he goes to another, then another then another, and I think this method of viewing sex can really help make every single technique that much better. I know for me, I was getting a lot of ass, and I started to become a bit less ...interested in sex. Either way, this thread has a lot of advice and I think a combination of techniques and a strong mental understanding (not anatomically) of sex can really help a person ascend to a higher level.

I think the idea of not being in the moment is really helped by this set of ideas in particular.