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Crowster
05-11-2009, 01:09 AM
I've been facing a major problem with my game lately that is disrupting the way I feel towards my targets.

Before my transformation into a less needy, more leading, nice-when-necessary alpha male, I used to have a lot of crushes on girls that I turned into "good friends". So the majority of the girl friends that I have right now are previous crushes. And you know, you reach a point where you tell yourself "I've got the skills, confidence, and ability to attract women, so why not work on those past crushes?"

Which unfortunately leads to the rise of those past emotions again. NOT GOOD!

Here's my problem: It ticks me off (and hurts) to hear that a friend of mine got with girl X, who is also my friend and a past crush. For example, a friend of mine told me he got with this chick that I've been gaming for so long (using AFC skills) and who sees me as a friend. I'm visiting the country where she's at this summer and one of my goals there was to game her with my alpha male skills. Because let's face it: Girls are attracted to changed men. But now that got it going, I feel like I lost my chance. This not the only case. It has happened with most of them.

This is also linked to the fact that when I tried gaming some of them, they feel the attraction and they love the change in me but still hit me with "I see you as a friend".

Why is this still happening? Where am I going wrong? I've DHV-ed majorly, applied good kino escalation, and got them to open up to topics that we never spoke about such as sex, male/female attraction, body language...etc.

And why does this shit bother me so much when I am able to attracted other and probably better women? Why am I still emotionally attached to these girls?

I feel left behind and/or missing out. Like some of those girls are ones that I want so bad.

Help me out here because this is truly getting to me big time...


Love,


Crow

Shark
05-18-2009, 02:14 AM
I've been facing a major problem with my game lately that is disrupting the way I feel towards my targets.

Before my transformation into a less needy, more leading, nice-when-necessary alpha male, I used to have a lot of crushes on girls that I turned into "good friends". So the majority of the girl friends that I have right now are previous crushes. And you know, you reach a point where you tell yourself "I've got the skills, confidence, and ability to attract women, so why not work on those past crushes?"

Which unfortunately leads to the rise of those past emotions again. NOT GOOD!

Here's my problem: It ticks me off (and hurts) to hear that a friend of mine got with girl X, who is also my friend and a past crush. For example, a friend of mine told me he got with this chick that I've been gaming for so long (using AFC skills) and who sees me as a friend. I'm visiting the country where she's at this summer and one of my goals there was to game her with my alpha male skills. Because let's face it: Girls are attracted to changed men. But now that got it going, I feel like I lost my chance. This not the only case. It has happened with most of them.

This is also linked to the fact that when I tried gaming some of them, they feel the attraction and they love the change in me but still hit me with "I see you as a friend".

Why is this still happening? Where am I going wrong? I've DHV-ed majorly, applied good kino escalation, and got them to open up to topics that we never spoke about such as sex, male/female attraction, body language...etc.

And why does this shit bother me so much when I am able to attracted other and probably better women? Why am I still emotionally attached to these girls?

I feel left behind and/or missing out. Like some of those girls are ones that I want so bad.

Help me out here because this is truly getting to me big time...


Love,


Crow

if you are clingly and cant let go the girls can feel that. needless to say its a bad vibe to let off.
also your kino escalation is probably done wrong. arm around her shoulder and hugs wont cut it anymore in your situation, because good friends can do that too. so start getting to the more sensual kinos such as smelling her neck and brushing her hair back with your fingers (at an almost slow pace). also, direct your conversations to more emotional and sensual topics. learn some palm reading (kino+DHV).

Crowster
05-18-2009, 04:39 AM
Actually I'm not really looking into hitting on them any more, but more like detaching myself emotionally from them or any other target.

How do I do that?

-TruTh-
05-19-2009, 08:10 AM
Actually I'm not really looking into hitting on them any more, but more like detaching myself emotionally from them or any other target.

How do I do that?

No.

View them as a friend and continue improving. The girl you want will come to you if you actually are doing only for yourself. Nobody is as important in your life as you.. and don't think detachment is a good process of elimination. You kill the heart when severing emotions from people abruptly.