Eye Contact

[The International]

I'm shitty with it, which is crazy because I'm a ballroom/latin dance teacher. I just had a conversation with a beautiful woman no more than an hour ago, and I can recall breaking eye contact with her as much as possible. I know it has something to do with my Inner Game. What do I do?

[zoner]

I'm shitty with it, which is crazy because I'm a ballroom/latin dance teacher. I just had a conversation with a beautiful woman no more than an hour ago, and I can recall breaking eye contact with her as much as possible. I know it has something to do with my Inner Game. What do I do?
Practice, practice, practice. Talk to random people. Start with just a few minutes. Write down their eye color. (btw, this is from Stylelife Challenge) Then make the conversations longer. Don't just do this with women either. It definitely shows alpha tendency to be able to maintain eye contact.

[Kevin Feng]

Practice making eye contact with other people.

When I first got into the game, I made it a priority to make eye contact with every person I came across and when they met me, I would just say "hi" and I would smile at them.

No harm done in that, if you can get in the habit of doing that, it will help you when you're out in field.

Just remember, as awkward as you feel, you're just being polite and believe me, people will say "hi" back, it's the polite thing to do which is rewarding your behavior.

-Kevin

[ThePlayBook]

I'm shitty with it, which is crazy because I'm a ballroom/latin dance teacher. I just had a conversation with a beautiful woman no more than an hour ago, and I can recall breaking eye contact with her as much as possible. I know it has something to do with my Inner Game. What do I do?

This is what it is, and nobody will tell you this straight out. The fact that you classify her as hot(which she probably is) and knowing that its built up in your mind as so that when you see her, you get nerves/anxiousness. Try to put aside her looks so you can cleanly focus. Maybe even tell yourself meh shes not really that hot.....just so you can clear that up enough for you to react properly.

More proof, I bet any money you can cleanly make eye contact with other people in your day to day life, but because shes beautiful and possibly intimidating you cannot muster up the confidence to keep proper eye contact.

Understand the difference:
-OMFG this girl is a HB 10, big tits, nice ass!!!!= establishing mentally she takes the top shelf which ----->>> Nervous appearance and or possible inabilities to act on said female when shes in your presence.(similar to that of putting pussy on a pedestal)
-Well shes not bad looking, dresses sexy, great eyes= neutral mindset upon her.

^^^Conditioning at its finest.

I always notice too the guys that talk the most shit about womens looks are the dudes who never get laid and almost always cannot handle themselves in front of a really attractive woman..then in turn typically never can date a woman past a certain point of looks(cant nail the hot ones).

[BBraveheart]

This is what it is, and nobody will tell you this straight out. The fact that you classify her as hot(which she probably is) and knowing that its built up in your mind as so that when you see her, you get nerves/anxiousness. Try to put aside her looks so you can cleanly focus. Maybe even tell yourself meh shes not really that hot.....just so you can clear that up enough for you to react properly.

More proof, I bet any money you can cleanly make eye contact with other people in your day to day life, but because shes beautiful and possibly intimidating you cannot muster up the confidence to keep proper eye contact.

Understand the difference:
-OMFG this girl is a HB 10, big tits, nice ass!!!!= establishing mentally she takes the top shelf which ----->>> Nervous appearance and or possible inabilities to act on said female when shes in your presence.(similar to that of putting pussy on a pedestal)
-Well shes not bad looking, dresses sexy, great eyes= neutral mindset upon her.

^^^Conditioning at its finest.

I always notice too the guys that talk the most shit about womens looks are the dudes who never get laid and almost always cannot handle themselves in front of a really attractive woman..then in turn typically never can date a woman past a certain point of looks(cant nail the hot ones).



Bang on.

To get good at it does take practice. I never used to be able to hold eye contact but I would make a point of holding it as long as I could with everyone I meet and now I have no problem holding it with anybody. It gets better as your confidence goes up, and your confidence goes up when you go out and approach sets. If you can't hold eye contact you can't establish dominance -- a key part of the game.

[Macroman]

Eye contact can be a bit awkward for some people, especially if you are not accustomed to using it with strangers. I've also found that eye contact can be more or less difficult depending on the person you are talking to.

Eye contact is really about inner game because it becomes easier the more fine tuned your frame is. If you carry yourself with your head held high, feeling like a million bucks, then eye contact becomes much more natural. People who are not confident do not maintain eye contact.

[-TruTh-]

I use to never be able to.

But the eyes are a key component in seduction.. a simple stare the correct way gives a strong impression.

[yes]

word up on the stare. just fucking stare at one of their eyes. only one. dont change it. i use the her left one. you need to be talking too... or else its just weird. this alone separates you from everyone else. doing it right, and right from the begining, makes her feel like your dominating her already. you can actually see her realising it. haha. her face is like, 'oh shit... why is this guy not looking away... what the hell do i do?' use it like you do kino... when you get that little iod, look away and stop talking for a second. then lock the stare and start talking again. continue this til shes ENRAPTURED BY YOU. haha. just practice on anyone, family, friends, mcdonalds workers... you get some really weird looks from mcdonalds girls... especially when you pause and keep looking at her while your "thinking of what to order"... haha. the best thing i can remember about learning this is the feeling in your stomach, like a nervousness, when strong eye contact is new to you... it feels weird but nice at the same time, cause you know youre doing a good thing. then eventually it goes and it just feels nice.

[gberisha]

i`ve got a very good idea from a friend of mine for you
you dont have to look to her eye`s if you`re afraid to at the beginning
just look between them at the nose !:)
so you`re not so afraid,it really helps:cool: