The Cute Co-Worker Digs me.

[Rod Riguez]

Hey everyone, this is my first post so sorry if it sucks or w/e.

I need some advice on gaming a girl at work but first a little bit of my history with the PUA community.

I first learned what a big AFC I was when I was about 16 because I randomly got an email from David DeAngelo's newsletter. After a couple weeks of reading those I absolutely knew this was for real. Well fast forward a couple years and I have finally read Neil Strauss' THE GAME. Which led me to lurking on this site for a couple weeks now. But now I really need some targeted advice so any help would be awesome.


Okay so I've been working at a Big Box Sporting Goods store for a couple months now and I was instantly attracted to this cute HB8 at the orientation meeting for new employees. At first I was acting all AFCish (bad body language, giving her too much attention, stealing looks). But then I snapped myself out of it as I was reading THE GAME. So instead of creeping her out anymore, I made sure I ignored her to break that awkward vibe between us and started doing Alpha male behavior (making her ask me questions twice to get answers, talking over the shoulder to her, busting her balls). Well let me tell you its been working like a charm. And yesterday I finally felt 100% like she was into me, she was kinoing me by punching me in the arm all day whenever i would bust on her and would be leaning her head to the side and playing with her hair whenever talking to me.

Well here's the problem though. I don't know how to "ask her out" or even where to take her if I did. I know dinner and a movie is totally AFCish but I can't think of anything else. And her parents are in Europe for 12 days right now. Is there anyway to casually invite myself over to her place without coming off creepy or too excited?

SIDENOTE: when I first started using alpha male behavior she came to a party with me afterwork one night but it was kind of lame and I got drunk and totally started talking about boring stuff like politics. But I think I've bounced back from that.

So what I'm asking is, how do I go about asking her out? And could I have some ideas about where to go?

[-Silver-]

Where to go
This is something you can work out pretty easily. You're correct in assuming that the cinema or a meal is pretty standard and not the most radical thing a girl will have done, but the most important thing to remember for Day2's is to change location! If you meet up at a coffee house for a drink, then head to the park and get ice cream, then go bowling, she's been to three different places with you. Because of how the mind works, associating images with memories and feelings, she'll potentially have three times as many images, memories, and feelings of being with you. It's a great rapport building trick!

First off, check out your local town. Scout it out for as many possible locations as you can. Not just restaurants and cinemas, but bowling alleys, minigolf courses, parks, riverside walks, boat trips, funfairs, anything you can see. Make a list and then plan out where you would take her. Cinemas and meals are only considered lame and AFC because that's usually the only thing people do when they go out. There's nothing wrong with catching a movie if it's after time spent having fun at the park, or before going on a boat ride through the night-lit city. Be different, and come across as an adventurous guy! But whatever you do don't tell her: 'Heeey! Check this out! I've got our whole trip sorted! We're going to do this, then that, and then walk here, watch this movie, go to that theme park...' you have to act as though a lot of it is unplanned. Big events you probably have to plan due to booking tickets, so tell her about that. But mix them up with simple things like ice cream in the park inbetween.

How to ask her out
The key is not to put pressure on her, or on the concept of 'going on a date.' If you already go to parties with her, then I'm assuming you already have her number? If not, run your standard game on her to #close. When you ask her about it, do so with a high energy level, and convey that it will be fun! That's one step towards lowering the tension and increasing her comfort level. The other idea I employ is telling her to bring her friends along if she wants to, or conveying the idea that this day out is something i'm doing with friends, and I consider her cool enough to come with me.

If she brings friends, then I'm in my element! Not only is she going to feel much more secure, but I get to win all her friends over if I haven't already. They'll do a lot of the work for me by encouraging her to go out with me: 'Aww he's such a cool guy! You HAVE to go out with him!' So long as you're in A3-Comfort during the Day2, her friends will know you're not available for anyone except their friend.

If I plan the event with my friends, and invite her to come as well, then I get to win over any friends she brings, get my friends to act as social proof and allow me to convey alpha personality, and most importantly, I know they will always make an excuse to leave when things are going really well with the girl. That way I still get alone time for at least one of the locations. The best thing about this option is that if she says no for whatever reason (doesn't always mean she isn't interested, she may be busy), I get to have fun with my friends anyway, and take loads of photos to show her the great times she missed out on.

Don't say: 'Would you like to go out with me?', instead present it as a cool day out, where you'll secretly be able to run your game, attract her further if needed, and then move into comfort. What's this? The two of you hooked up at the end of the day? Well fancy that...

-Silver-

[Rod Riguez]

Great news guys!

My testicles finally dropped today and I just got back from a day date with my HB8 cute co-worker.

Let me tell you it was one of the fucking scariest things for me to just pick up the phone and look at her number this morning. But I just did a David DeAngelo exercise and pictured my best self blowing up in the sky and scattering everywhere and I managed to call her up and invite her out. I did a little c/f on her because she was still freaking asleep when I called her apparently. I busted on her and called her a loser for still laying in bed at 11 in the morning. Well I took Silver's advice and did a couple venue changes during the date. (We went to starbucks and randomnly some exotic bird shop)

I made sure I stayed on my game by not falling into bad convo topics like politics and crap like that. I think pretty much the only mistake I made all day was I glanced at her boobs one time while we were eating (she was wearing a really tight t-shirt trying to show off her Ds). But the rest of the date went really well I think.

Something I just thought of though is that I didn't really kino her at all. I guess I'm not in the habit of doing that yet. She definitely felt comfortable around me though because she brushed her body up against mine a few times (def. on purpose).

Like I mentioned in my last post, her parents are gone for 12 days and I see her for an hour tomorrow at work. I think I'm going to try and get her to invite me over to her house to watch Little Mermaid (We were discussing our favorite disney movies at work). If anyone has any advice on this it would be great.

One more thing, I didn't get a chance to kiss her when we went out today but I really want to do it as soon as possible so I can stay away from the LJBF. Does anyone have any routine or thing they do to minimize the awkwardness of the first kiss?


Thanks to Silver for the great advice!