Help in conversations

[AdventChild]

Hi I'm new in the community I actually just joined last week. Any way I have a big problem, I've been starting to try to pick-up women and I already know how do openers and negs but whenever I engage into a conversation I always run out to stuff to talk to and I'm then left stalling and then end up looking like a dork. Can you guys please help me!!!!!

[relics]

Learn how to banter.


Or, you can get a routine stack.

[-Silver-]

At this stage it will help to memorize a DHV story, so that when you do get stuck you can 'throw it' into the conversation. Not only will it give you a new talking point, but it raises your value as well. As far as general banter goes, I used to be in the same boat as you. I couldn't keep a conversation going, I would come across as a boring guy, and couldn't entertain people to save my life. BUT - whenever I got alcohol inside me and I loosened up, I would always turn into an entertaining machine! I would always be able to keep a conversation going, I became naturally cocky and funny, and making girls laugh was just too easy. So one of the first things I wanted to do when I got into this community wasn't to model Mystery or Style, but to model me when I was drunk. And I soon realized that the only differences were a higher energy level, open body language, and most importantly - I just let words and conversation roll off my tongue! It wasn't that I never knew what to say, it's just that I always stopped myself from saying whatever was on my mind.

SO

Try going into a set, and just saying whatever the hell comes into your head, without even thinking. Become detached from the outcome, so if you happen to say 'Damn I LOVE seafood!' or something equally random, it doesn't matter! Just keep plowing! Get it right and it just sounds funny. Keep up a high energy level to make this congruent, throw in your negs to show disinterest in the target until A3, and keep those DHVs ready to generate extra attraction. In doing this, I've found that girls just 'want' to talk with me, because it's always stimulating, and always goes somewhere interesting or crazy. There are times when the first thing that comes to my head turns out to be an insult aimed at something she just said, but through plowing on and keeping it c/f, 9 times out of 10 she'll just laugh with me. So long as you're flipping other switches like pre-selection and high social value by being the guy that talks, gets accepted, and even loved, by other people in the venue, you won't run into problems that can't be dealt with by plowing and laughing.

If you're like me, and open up and become a really fun guy when you're drunk, then I really suggest getting drunk at the next party you go to! A lot of people disagree with it, and I'm certainly not endorsing you get drunk when you're seriously going to game, because it always makes you look half-idiot as well. Just work out what makes you so appealing when you are drunk, and then work out how you can get into that frame of mind without the alcohol. Asides from that, practice makes perfect! Read up on confidence building, there's plenty of posts on this site about that. Get a good style, and have a routine or two ready for use, even if it's just for ease of mind knowing they are there if you need them. Above all - Have Fun! You'll find that your conversation will be a lot more captivating when you have a high energy level. Would you rather talk to the quiet guy, or the guy that really brings his conversations to life? Have fun buddy, you'll love being able to walk away from a group of girls, knowing you just made their day!

-Silver-

[Andrew AM]

What I recommend is getting a book called "Conversation King" by Rachel Davis & look into more in the community about fluff talk. Then just keep on building rapport and everything will help fall into place :cool: