Bf 'barrier'

[strypes]

This is a sticking point lately. In the middle of conversations, this girl keeps bringing up her bf (that's not to mention that I attempted kino escalation yesterday, because it seemed natural, which she responded with positive body language but didnt' reciprocate- I put an arm around her and she leans in, etc..). I know it's an IOI, although at the same time it's effecting cognitive dissonance in her, and she pulls back as a result. She feels that if she starts flirting or being intimate with me, she'll feel bad about hurting her bf's emotions... Suggestions?

Strypes

[BonJovi]

Is she pulling back or leaning in? You said she's doing both.

Most of the time if she is attracted to you boyfriends are a non-issue. You might want to evaluate whether you truly have attraction. Otherwise search ASF for "boyfriend destroyers"

[strypes]

She pulls back when she mentions her bf (that's why it's a cognitive dissonance)... Kind of like an ASD. I'm thinking of shifting to a more serious/personal vibe for a bit, and freeze out with actions.... Then employ that in10se method of talking like I don't care and actually showing that i do... Any other suggestions tho?

[crypticfox]

It depends on the context... it could be her ASD protecting her from the guilt of her attraction to you... IOI. Or it could be a shit-test... IOD.

Microcalibrate your response to cover your bases. I would IOI, IOD, then attempt to get compliance or qualification.

"You were so adorable when you said that! If they put us in a room together we'd do nothing but fight! And yet there's something about you... what is it about you that makes you interesting?"

[strypes]

the fact that it's the first part makes it interesting. IOI definitely... but how do we get rid of the guilt?

[BonJovi]

Gentlemen, if she is attracted to you boyfriends are a non-issue. No need to get technical and over analyze this. Probably half the girls I closed last year had a boyfriend (that I know of) and atleast one still lives with her boyfriend. Usually they are just looking to see if you can 'handle it.'

As I mentioned, searching the fast seduction archives for "boyfriend destroyer" will yield a lot of information. Even searching google yields several techniques. Most of the time ignoring it and plowing works just fine. Remember, most guys are horrible boyfriends. Most girls with boyfriends aren't too thrilled about them. If she had an amazing boyfriend that she would never cheat on, you wouldn't have been able to get into C1 with her.

[strypes]

thanks for the help, guys! I'll just plough on