Bending the Spoon

[acharmingkiddo]

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Spoon boy: Do not try and bend the spoon. That's impossible. Instead... only try to realize the truth.
Neo: What truth?
Spoon boy: There is no spoon.
Neo: There is no spoon?
Spoon boy: Then you'll see, that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself.

In keeping with my ongoing love affair with analogies I would like you to imagine for a moment that the spoon is you. You can be anything you want to be, the world can be anything you want it to be . Perception is reality and faking it till you make it takes a lot less time than you would think.

Have you ever tried on a hat and thought "I really look good in this but it's just not me." The thing is, "you" should be an ongoing work in progress. If you create an avatar for yourself, a new more outgoing personality or are even wearing a new hat it will gradually begin to fit you like a glove.

I remember in Season 2 of The Pickup Artist in the part where they are supposed to create an avatar for their friends, Matt's friend refused to create an avatar saying that "it just wasn't him" and "he liked the way he looked Precisely because his vision of himself was ridged and set it stone.

The concept of your self should be a fluid one - it has to be fluid or you will stop growing as a person.

[:Elan:]

A man after my own heart (and one of my favorite movie quotes of all time).

This is sound advice for so much more than just pickup. This is wise advice for life.


I often think of people like rivers rather than static things: we are constantly changing. Remembering that about ourselves, and engaging that can be very powerful in all areas of PUA-dom but especially with avatar work. I think that a guy should have many facets to his avatar and be able to work them according to his moods, like an artist.

thanks for this post, kiddo.

[Aleksander]

nice analogy

[Argo navis]

This is awesome advice for life indeed - so many of the challenges of the daily are a matter of perception. This is, actually, what NLP is based on, and the seduction community, as initiated by Ross Jeffries before he became spiritualy crippled himself, is based on NLP.

(NLP was a statistical study of the perception of winners - suggesting that their beliefs might be the core of their success. Which is true).

[Darwin001]

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The concept of your self should be a fluid one - it has to be fluid or you will stop growing as a person.

You just blew my mind, I've hit a plateau lately and was actually getting a little depressed (Discouraged is probably a better word). I realize after reading this that I have settled into an identity of myself of a guy who dresses nice and knows how to talk to girls but with no balls to overcome approach anxiety, now I realize by thinking of myself like that I am cementing it and subconsciously making it my reality.

I now realize making identities for yourself is unwise because it creates a role for you to play where you can make rationalizations to justify anti-social behaviors or actions as just "not fitting your personality". It is truly imperative that we don't ever make labels for ourselves, especially negative ones.

As individuals it is imperative that we create our own identity instead of dreaming one up in which we try to live. I find myself thinking,"I'm a Pick-up Artist" but even though that's a great thing, I still find it's a bad idea to categorize my own identity because any negative connotations of a PUA then are also a part of my identity. Really its just a life enriching skill-set and if we don't create labels for ourselves then our identities as people have limitless possibilities to grow and change.

[fair rose]

we're always told that the purpose we are here on earth for is to find ourselves. I say that's bullshit. We're here to create ourselves. We have a little less then 36,500 days to do it. Let's not waste any more time.

[bizzyb1]

Maybe that creating itself is finding who we really are.