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Big Papa
12-29-2008, 02:07 PM
Ok First about me..

Im a 22 Year old, male who has always been overweight, ive always been this way for the last year or so ive been working on myself, and have seen myself go from 450 lbs, to just over 350 lbs, ive never had a hard time with women, i just always seemed to get lucky, however, i have a son living with his mother and so on...

My current "Friend" is gorgeous, and a single mother, I met her one day asked for the number, she came out with me that same night, as i had left it open for such a thing, we saw each other every few days at first, until around two weeks in while we were partying we got into some foreplay and ended up having sex for several hours, She had lots of fun but ended the night abruptly around 2:00 am using her son as an excuse, i mad no real fuss, and she left to go check on him never returning upstairs, so i passed out on the couch, after that, we started seeing each other more regularly, and around a week later, we did this again at my house he woke up and we ended the night but instead both slept next to eachother with the little guy on the other side of her..

Since we've slept together on quite a few occasions, she always wants to talk about it, as she loves it, i however am not quite as open, but i started out making no bones about the fact that i was'nt looking to get involved and i fear now that i do... i think for the first time in my life im falling in love...

But she calls me every morning, when she gets to work, we usually do lunch, and she calls when she gets home, and invites me over,so i am usually at her house, her parents love me, they even bought me a birthday gift and christmas gift, she has met my family as well, and is talking about trying to get the two familys to have dinner at some point, she has told me her mom has said we should get married and such, but i dont know how she feels and i really really wanna know without trying to put a label on this relationship, when people are around we are just close as soon as were alone she is on me instantaneously, everytime, she has the next day off we are together usually ending up in the same bed, ive stayed at her house on several occasions and vise versa, everytime we get intimate, im left with hickeys all over my neck as if to show everyone around me that i just got lucky the night before,She constantly gets that googly stare at me, telling me im gorgeous, and once when i brought her flowers she made the comment next time it will be a ring? lmao, what ne how

How do i not seem weird in finding out how she feels about me, and what kinda things can i do to invoke more public displays of affection from her, i just dont know...

DrDexter
12-31-2008, 10:51 AM
From what you have written here especially the last part it would seem that she feels quite strongly about you. I don't think at this point you are going to scare her away or look like a chump by simply telling her that you are serious about her. She is probably waiting for you to say just that! What is your fear here?

Big Papa
12-31-2008, 11:08 AM
Ive since seen her initiate kino infront of her parents and mine but, i dont really have a fear, i just dont want to take a hard left when we are enjoying the ride the way it is, with tonight being new years we are going to a party im going to have a hell of a time... keeping up i think, she is defineately the life of the party when shes around and im used to being this so its gonna be a challenge, we are going to her friends house for a bit then her house, ill probrably dip out a few times to visit the bar but, i really just have slid into this friends with benefits zone because of my doing and now i want out and i feel like she wants out to but i am not possitive and its a little frustrating feeling this way..

DrDexter
12-31-2008, 12:25 PM
Like you say it is New Years so just relax and enjoy yourself today.:) What makes you feel she may want out of this? It sounds to me like she is waiting for you to lay your cards on the table one way or another.

Sincerelee
12-31-2008, 12:26 PM
Seriously, it sounds like how my marriage went. And, I'd still be married if she hadn't gone psycho.

One thing that will change though, once you get married, is that she won't be as absolutely affectionate as she is before marriage. She'll still love you as much, but won't feel the need to sell you on it any more.

Also, think twice about raising someone else's kid.

Big Papa
12-31-2008, 04:09 PM
It's Difficult for me because she is a single mother so i have her kinda up on a pedestal, she tries to give me money for things, she always tries to pay, i cant let her, she makes 20% of what i do and shes raising a kid, it plays into me hard.

She makes me happy yes, but crazy too, ive never thought about someone all freakin day before and i do now, and im am not the kinda guy thats just gonna show my hand so to speak, I dont like being hurt if i didnt like the girl i wouldnt care, but im at this point where its go big or go home, and tonight i think will way heavily into how serious this thing is, so im gonna go for it i guess... any last minute support for your boy

Big Daddy Caine

Techie_4Life
01-05-2009, 11:53 PM
i just got out of a bad relationship last summer with a single mom that basically went psycho on me. seriously though, watch out for her. how long have you known her? talk to all of your friends and family that have seen you together and ask them what they think of her and this whole thing. Basically try and get all the angles covered. this is a huge step and it sounds like you are getting sucked into her frame and she is taking you for a ride.

remember that if she is that crazy for you she will wait for you and that will give you more time to find out if what you see is really her. Women are very good at hiding the true person of who they really are, men do it too though. My roommate is really good at sniffing out pyscho and drama; which is why i'm backing off and slowing things down on my end.

GL and keep us informed.

Big Papa
01-10-2009, 10:12 AM
Ive worked this out, we are friends with very good benefits, kinda casually fxcking so to speak, i see her often she loves to buy me things, and she loves having sex with me, so its been great, working out good, i think shes falling in love with me, but she says she is fine being my close personal friend at the moment, so we are having fun...

Techie_4Life
01-10-2009, 02:06 PM
good stuff.... as long as you know where you guys stand and there's no confusion that's good.