Sunglasses as a microcalibration tool/rapport techniques

[Lyle Stone]

Okay, I've built up my comedy career from scratch and now I'm getting gigs on a pretty regular basis. I've taken to wearing sunglasses because of this more and more often and have found them useful in rapport building and breaking. The following is a few notes on utilizing sunglasses properly in field and in set.

Now if you are going to wear sunglasses, please don't look like the Terminator or Tom Cruise, my sunglasses are red tint Dolce and Gabanna that are very stylish. OI don't look silly or like a tool wearing them in the club, they go with my outfit, my avatar, and my identity.

Also, there is a good story attached to them (The drummer of Skid Row, Phil Varone, gave them to me after a show)

So when choosing glasses, make sure that you can see your eyes through them, and you can actually see out of them in a club situation, because sometimes it gets dark at night (go figure)

Sunglasses inherently are a rapport breaker. I read that Tom Cruise has it written as a stipulation in his contract that extras and crew are not allowed to make eye contact with him. If you think about it, eye contact is very important for building rapport, so this makes sense. If I don't want to have rapport with you, sunglasses are another way of enforcing this.

Now when talking to a set, after I throw her a hoop (A3 for you MM kids) for qualification and I want to reward her for the compliance she just gave me, I might remove my sunglasses and say something to the effect of "really" with a smile.

example:

"What are you passionate about?"

"I love children a lot, being a teacher and all"

*remove sunglasses and lean in*

"Really?", that's so cool"

I'm basically rewarding her DHV (That I forced with my hoop) with an IOI (by removing the sunglasses and leaning forward)

While useful in building rapport, sunglasses are equally as useful in breaking rapport.

Let's say she does something you do not approve of, says something you dislike, or is not compliant with a hoop you have thrown out, you can give her an IOD (Indicator of Disinterest) by putting your sunglasses back on and leaning back.

When she is compliant you can build rapport by removing them and when she is not compliant you may break rapport by dawning them.
It's a great microcalibration tool, one that I hope you guys will utilize.

But wait, there's more.

Sunglasses are also useful as lock in props, so don't forget that.

As well as lock in props, the just look kinda cool.

Best,
Lyle Stone

[Affection]

Removing sunglasses is a great reward for compliance, and personally it denotes a shift between A3 and C1.

~~Affection

[Syren]

Anyone who has met me knows of my specs. They're prescription lenses with a tint, everyone "mistakes" them for sunglasses. I get opened on them a lot because they actually fit pretty well as specs. Usually the hot girls compliment them and the ugly girls make dispariging comments, with the girls in the middle just asking why.

My favorite answer to any question EVER, works pretty well "because Im a ninja". There really is no question to which that can't be the answer. Then I can go sincear "actually Im short sighted I need them to see". Hint of vulnerbility, but I chose style and contraversy over standard.

[DarkPrince]

Usually the hot girls compliment them and the ugly girls make dispariging comments, with the girls in the middle just asking why.

hahaha thats the same rule we use, If we are a 10 we don't open with a neg.. Same thing applies for them, and the hot girls were nice about it(or so i think).. while the UG, Decided to lower your Value by opening you with a neg!


Specs work Really well. they can even be used to lock in your target.

I messed up on this once before by putting them on someone, making them flex and taking a pic on my phone... (idk i though it would help with Rapport and all that good stuff) but thats a diffrent story.

Have fun with the, Espacially wearing them at nights, alphas try to ask you why you are wearing them at night, and just re-frame it and AMOG the guy. Good for social value.

[Levo]

Nice thread.

My local club banned sunglasses as part of their dress code because "only thugs wear sungalsses at night"

[TheCoolerKing]

I have a pair of nice avators that I got some looks with.

Too bad though I wear glasses and I have wear contacts in order to wear the avators.
My contacts annoys my eyes and its just hard to wear them.

But I dont know why people still reference to Tom Cruise.
If anything he should be an example of going to far.
Since now he doesnt really have a career.
See what being an alpha nutcase gets you?

hahaha

[gamble]

clubs here don't let you wear sunglasses either, but I've had similar results to what have been reported when I wore them at a club in a town that wasn't hometown :P

[RedpoleQ]

I almost always go out with sunglasses at night. I used to feel weird about it, but now I feel weird without.

One of the main reasons is that I can leer at the sexy girls without blowing myself out!!!!

I can see AIs much easier(I'm slow) and I can choose to respond or not respond while looking like maybe I didn't notice.

If a girl I'm keen on is AIing me but she's across the room or somewhere difficult for me to approach at the time, I'll lower my sunglasses a bit and look over the top. Maybe throw in a wink and it's on for when I open.

I also use the raising of the sunglasses to give girls IOIs. Especially since they've seen me talking to other people in the venue. When I finally lift my glasses up so they can see my face there is always a BT spike.

[BonJovi]

In Asia and Europe wearing sunglasses at night is cool. Also especially in Japan many of the clubs allow smoking and sunglasses works well to prevent girls from seeing my tired, red eyes.

I don't know how Affection does it. In NYC someone always has something smart to say. And yes, its usually the UG's.


"I'm a Ninja" is sooo stolen.

I've had good results when I go out looking like a music producer wearing aviator sun glasses. But they broke and these days I like to come in a little more under the rader.

I almost always go out with sunglasses at night. I used to feel weird about it, but now I feel weird without.

One of the main reasons is that I can leer at the sexy girls without blowing myself out!!!!

I can see AIs much easier(I'm slow) and I can choose to respond or not respond while looking like maybe I didn't notice.

If a girl I'm keen on is AIing me but she's across the room or somewhere difficult for me to approach at the time, I'll lower my sunglasses a bit and look over the top. Maybe throw in a wink and it's on for when I open.

I also use the raising of the sunglasses to give girls IOIs. Especially since they've seen me talking to other people in the venue. When I finally lift my glasses up so they can see my face there is always a BT spike.

[Affection]

So true... but by increasing the social pressure on yourself, so long as you handle the UGs, the HBs notice and your value goes up.


I don't know how Affection does it. In NYC someone always has something smart to say. And yes, its usually the UG's.


~~Affection

[MrC]

Did everyone change their names from 1 pu site to another. Do you guys make a statement & then post it on all 20 pu websites??

Well, I'm the same Mr. C as on the other sites. The last thing you'll see from me is creating a post & then cut / paste that same shit on every site possible.

Cool . Mr. C right here in KC

[MrC]

No...its not a rant......I just can't keep up with who is who.

Cry two tears in a bucket, fuck it. Mr. C

[Diebold]

MR.C:
Nope, I'm Diebold, plain old Diebold everywhere I go. It should be interesting to see what happens when I release my eBook to the community.

SYREN: I LOVE that line. Going to use it in the future, hope it's not Trademarked! :)
Because.... I'm a Ninja™!

[HUGE AL]

Those of you who know me KNOW that I hate Asian parties. That said, they are the BEST venue to wear sunglasses at. Everyone thinks you're a tool, but they'll always open you. Handle it correctly and it's $$$!