Daygame AA

[Sparks123]

Over the last couple months, I have been slowly developing my game. I've gotten to a pretty comfortable point at night, but my approach anxiety during the day is still very high. This is especially the case when I use direct openers. Local PU friends have told me how direct openers are more effective during the day and while I agree with them in theory, I just get so nervous using them that appear to be extremely awkward and end up making the girl pretty uncomfortable. When I use indirect openers, I usually get positive responses, but it's difficult to maintain their interest because of various "real world" issues.

Can any one suggest any mental tactics so I can calm myself down and be direct in a smoother manner?

[azazels_wolf]

You're feeling AA, which is a form of fear, because you are anticipating discomfort. Be in the NOW, fully present, focusing solely on the present moment, rather than anticipating rejection or discomfort.

If you do need to anticipate, just briefly think about how positive an experience this could be for you or visualize the interaction proceeding in the best possible way. You can also tell yourself positive affirmations about how attractive and charismatic you are, how successful you will be, etc. Just keep everything as upbeat as possible, push away any negative thoughts, and focus on the present moment as much as possible.

[rAFC]

i get this as well. i think it's because in the day it's not as 'socially normal' to go out gaming, e.g. going to a supermarket to get girls. perhaps you're preconditioned to think there is something 'wrong' with that, i know i am. i deal with this by telling myself that as long as her comfort levels are preserved, there's nothing wrong with it at all, it's just different. and if you freak a couple of girls out, big deal. maybe you should try sticking to indirect, situational openers i have always hooked, but the no 1 thing that's hardest in day game is taking it beyond that, e.g. where do you create the plausible deniability to get an instant date or number, or kino in general. the key thing is to firmly believe that there is NOTHING wrong with what you're doing, and like truth said to me, if she doesn't meet you, "women will be bored otherwise". :)

[Feynman]

I never really go out during the day with picking up girls on my mind. However, if I'm in the store and happen to see an attractive girl, I try to come up with something situational/spontaneous to approach her about. Like always, I find that being cocky/funny in an initial, direct opener is pretty effective.

[Don Pyro]

heres a good way imo....nothing new btw...lol...but jus say to yourself..."yeah i am nervous, so what. fuck it,fuck you brain, i dont need this anxiety shit from you" an just walk up to her...i remember the first time...i was shaking, i could feel slight trembling in my voice, i kinda new what i was doing wrong...but i got a face book address...lol...oh and another thing, ride of the high, soon as you close her or etc. straight out go to another girl or set and open...trust me the less time you spend between sets the easier it is...

[Shred]

sincere direct game. sean messenger. "hey i just noticed you and had to come and talk to you, i cant even remember what i was doing haha, well i just wanted to say i think your unbelievably cute. hi, im shred..."

[-TruTh-]

sincere direct game. sean messenger. "hey i just noticed you and had to come and talk to you, i cant even remember what i was doing haha, well i just wanted to say i think your unbelievably cute. hi, im shred..."

You would be surprised just how hard the direct approach is but it does work if done correctly. -- Truth

[Shred]

i know man, but tbh, that kinda thing will get your confdence up way more than just using the old opinion openers. im big on natural game. i dont approach but that one makes the most sense to me tbh. im going to approach soon, but i wimp out a lot. just remember man, if your not approaching, then youre wasting time. im a time waster, but im trying to change :-p

[Russianstar]

I guess direct approach could work..I mean.. if i opened a 100 sets with, "hi, I'm ***." a few have to hit based on statistics.. but I don't wanna be the guy in the book store creeping a girl out who is trying to read by saiyn, "hi.. i jsut had to come over here and say..." Although it is flattering.. a woman of particular beauty that has been approach a few thousand times.. and get hit on over 10 times a day..would disregard it as a nice compliment but thats all it is..

Thats why indirect works much better in my oppinion.. u open.. non-threatening.. u dnt telegraph interest because ur asking her a question and she jsut happened to be the person u noticed to ask it too. Then u body rock and just "happen" to notice something like the Best friend routine.. or C vs U smile.. or that her nose wiggles when she smiles.. then you DHV.. Because of this.. she is going to be attracted to you way before u telegraph interest in her.. Female to male interest comes before male to female interst i believe.. I believe it was Mystery who said let the woman chase you <-- paraphrased..


about AA.. no amount of trainign/sarging can kill uR AA... u just have to desensitize urself to the environment. a few warm up sets.. and 3 second rule should do the trick

[tony77]

I would never use a direct opener in a confined space such as a small bookshop but I did go direct on a gorgeous tall blonde girl at the station in teh shop. Of course she is goign to feel uncomfortable because even hot women dont' get approached so direct in the daytime. There is absolutely nothing wrong with going direct. Its perfectly ok to state your intention as long as you're confident. Anyone can open with some indirect crap like "who lies more?" ok you've opened but she may have to be somewhere in a hurry. By going direct you get it out of the way quickly.

Direct is more an advanced skill and I know this is not touched upon a lot in the Mystery Method because it conveys too much interest but what the hell is wrong with goign after what you want? In the past I have used canned openers that got me no where. I may have got soem investment but girls are mostly polite and will listen to what you have to say then find a polite way of brushing you off. The fera never really goes away and you will feel more fear apporaching so direct but women will appreciate it even more.

I don't know what is happening in the states but over here in England more guys are using the direct approach. I personally like to open situationally in the daytime and transition naturally. I don't need to use routines or DHV stories, thats just not natural. Its too much to think about and you start to be in your head too much. YOu need to be in the now, not thinking about what stage you are at and when you are ready to move onto the next one.

[-TruTh-]

Statistics prove if you approach 20 girls with the one liner "Want to Fuck" 1 out of 20 will supposedly agree...

AFC Adam is like my fucking hero of Direct game. Youtube him you"ll benefit greatly. -- Truth

[Sensation]

hahah truth that is gold, you can truly blow your AA away with that one, will try it with 20 girls soon haha. i right now have very little AA since i've been desensitized but every once in a while I can feel it creep back in especially in different settings that i am not accustomed to yet i.e. street, train, airplane etc, just do the 3 warm up sets where possible and it will reduce your AA.

[Sensation]

oh and a great statement i heard that boosted my game to approach EVERYTHING is 'if you can't, you MUST'. say that when your AA kicks in and after you DO approach you can tell yourself from 5 minutes ago YA FUCK U i did it hahah

[-TruTh-]

hahah truth that is gold, you can truly blow your AA away with that one, will try it with 20 girls soon haha. i right now have very little AA since i've been desensitized but every once in a while I can feel it creep back in especially in different settings that i am not accustomed to yet i.e. street, train, airplane etc, just do the 3 warm up sets where possible and it will reduce your AA.

You would actually be surprised at how many woman will sleep with you if they know your genuine about at least liking them. -- Truth