How to respond to...are you gay....??

[Sebastian]

After watching mystery method encyclopedia ive started basic peacocking, necklaces, rings etc......


ive had a couple of girls think this is an indication that im gay, ive tried misenterpreting their comments as a compliment, and also tried to ignore it or dismiss it. Does anyone have any ideas on the best way to respond to this....?

Thanks,

Seb

[Affection]

There's a lot of fun responses:

"Only on weekends."

"No, but my boyfriend is."

"Guess."

"I'm a lesbian."

"Ok, I'll give you a hint... I'm not bi, so I'm either gay or straight... you'll have to figure out which one."

"Sweetie, I am, like, soooo totally not gay."

~~Affection :)

[Sebastian]

so basically is the best way to respond to this, to make a joke of it, and stack onwards....?

[Vincent Chase]

"I try to be, I mean: I think we should all strive to be at our happiest every moment of life. What's the point in striving to feel depressed? That shit's going to happen anyways."

=P

[BonJovi]

Or take a very close look at:

1) how you are peacocking
2) your body language

Are you running routines over the top? After my bootcamp I came across as gay because I was really over the top. I've since toned down my peacocking (two rings, an earing and well dressed) and I come into sets with much lower energy then when I first begin. And I pay close attention to my tonality. I don't have the gay problem anymore.

[Utah]

HB: "Are you gay?"
you: "Yes. [smile mischievously] I've never even kissed a girl before." [credit Style]

Remember, that a girl asking if you are gay is their way to find out if you're available - credit Style for the insight there as well.

hope this helps

[Affection]

I strongly disagree with this. Most of the times, if a girl is asking me if I'm gay, it's because she thinks I might be gay. ;)


Remember, that a girl asking if you are gay is there way to find out if you're available - credit Style for the insight there as well.


~~Affection

[Utah]

Fair call Affection.

I guess it depends on the scenario as to whether they are trying to find out if you're gay or available.

If I got asked that though I would still use it as a way to disqualify myself in a smart ass way.

So I think the response Style came up with above (included in my post) is still a good one.

[Affection]

I do agree with this. :)


So I think the response Style came up with above (included in my post) is still a good one.


~~Affection

[Style]

"Yes...and I've never kissed a girl before."

(Said with a mischevious smile.)

Don't forget that often, saying "are you gay," is an ioi
to see if you're available.
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[Composure]

I get the "are you gay?" question all the time, and I use Styles response and that works fine.

Recently, I've been adding my own spin on it, I tell them that I used to be gay up until 2 months ago and that I need help finding a girl friend.

I get two responses to this, which are:

1) They help you playfully help you pick out a girl in the club for you to pick up.. (whilst at the same time feeling very attracted to you)

2) They don't believe you - If they say this you then you have the perfect opportunity to flirt. You can bust on them for not believing you, act all offended, when the time is right continue with styles line--btw I've never been kissed by a girl.

Composure

[Sebastian]

Thanks for the responses I was allways unsure if it was an IOI or IOD. As for my peacocking its very miner, I'm just smartly dressed with a necklace and a couple of rings. I'll try style's responce next time and see how that goes down.

Cheers.

[JimSmith]

classic neg "If i wasn't gay you'd be so mine though :)" you can say that while flirting.

or what i do is i run a qualifying comment saying "You know what kind of woman would be amazing? ...If she could turn a gay guy straight."

[Levo]

I used to have a bit of a gay vibe (thanks Lyle Stone for pointing that out) and would get asked and take it as an IOI.

Since then Ive played with my delivery and tonality and cant remember the last time I got asked. So check you delivery.

[Affection]

You're so silly. ;)


Don't forget that often, saying "are you gay," is an ioi
to see if you're available.


~~Affection

[BonJovi]

"So what are you like when you're not drunk?"

Was a response I gave last time a girl asked if I was gay. But she was drunk and pulling my shirt out of my pants, when I stopped her she said "oh come on! you're gay!" (as in, its OK for me to do this)

My response shut her down. Try it on a sober girl and let me know how it goes.

[HUGE AL]

"Are you trying to turn me/get me to play for your team?"

"That's it, I'll have sex with you right now." [credit Seinfeld]

Used both of them last weekend in OC when the guy I was winging put off too much of a gay vibe. Had the girls laughing their asses off. We ended up closing the bar down with them.

[Matthew_Paul]

Im a younger newbie so this works a fantasticly with college girls with the parents referance but i don't see why it wouldn't work anywhere on the age spectrum.

HB: are you gay?

Me: Despite what your parents might have taught you about if something sounds to good to be true it probably is... (pause and smile) I'm not gay sweetheart.

[xenos]

Tone down your excitement a bit and neg.

[Slick]

Just say....

"If I was gay... I'd be into you"

(your basically saying she looks like a guy,
works well on hb 9's 10's)

Slick

[Beyonder]

I joined the site to respond to this. I've been lurking for a few months, and studying all of the material for even longer. I'm new to my area, have no friends and still working on my inner game so I wouldn't yet consider myself PUA , but at the same time, I've swollowed the red pill and there aint no going back.

As for the gay question, this is how I would handle it. I never get the gay question but thinking of this kinda makes me wish that I would. Maybe you guys who have more field experience can critique it, try it let me know how it works! I'd REALLY like to hear all your thoughts.

I'm a writer, so I'd write a "Gay story" and memorize it.

She asks, "Are you gay?"

My first instinct would be to kinda handle it like a 'shit test' and blow it off, but it's an oppertunity. I'd look at her dead in the eye with a BIG natural shit eating grin and PLAYFULLY ask, "What do you care?" (Not jumping through her hoop, and throwing out a hoop of my own)

She has one of 3 ways of responding.

1. She just walks away. Nothing you can do about it.

2. She gives a positive response. "I think you're cute and wanted to know" or whatever. You should know what to do, just continue as you would. You're golden.

3. She gives a negative answer. "I DON'T CARE to tell you the truth!", or "You seem gay. I was just curious." Whatever...doesn't matter.

I'd respond, "Well in that case, I am gay as hell. Flamboyantly gay!, but if I wasn't, little girl, I'd be AL OVER you."

Without waiting for much of a response, I'd go into my "Gay Story".

This story would involve a gay and feminine friend who came to visit and came on an investigation with my team and I. Most of the people who hired us were pretty friendly but there was this one dude that kept making rude comments about my friend.

I'm making this up off the top of my head, but the story would involve DHV spikes with me sticking up for my friend to this BIG neanderthal dude. I'd tell it in a way that didn't look like bragging, and I'd add some things to make the guy and his remarks look really bad. At the same time I would attempt to make that aspect of the story work to NEG the girl who asked the question in the first place. "What kind of person asks such a thing?" or whatever...You guys get my point. (Only if she is "Negworthy")

After that, They'll probably be asking me questions about.. WTF? Team? Investigation? What do you do? Which gives me a chance to talk about myself more and do some more routines.

[rry6961]

throw in some curse words and "dudes" to up your masculinity

[Suav]

I was opened by a gay guy at Hailo (Atlanta) I'm not homophobic by any means, He asked be about my belt bucke that it was so cool, and that I looked like a rockstar, I said cool man thanks, ...chit chatted for about 1 minute and he said, let me introduce you to my friends.....(At that point I'm like great I'm gonna meet some more gay guys!!) but it turned out to be 2 hot chicks 1 a 9 and the other a 7 or so, anyway she imediatly kissed me on the cheak and I whent directly into A3 ...take away your looks, what are 3 things your friends would say about you that are good.....she bought it, and I was curious about the guy who introduced us, and asked her, hey is your friend gay? she said "ARE YOU GAY!!!" my response was "Hell no" I'm not that built here touch my muscle...If I was more built I probably would be....she said oh its just that all hot guys are gay...I'm like no I'm straight.....I number closed but there wasn't enough comfort so she didn't text back, plus I was with another girl......and she was from out of town so it would of been an easy lay......lesson of the story don't negate gay guys, because they usually will have pretty hot fag hags......

Later, Suav

[Adamm]

If you're getting this comment consistently, you had better rectify your body language and/or vocal tonality right away.

[ReallyPatheticFatSlob]

Are you gay?

*whispers to her* Is it that obvious??????????? Oh MY GOD!

[doomstick]

"Yes...and I've never kissed a girl before."

(Said with a mischevious smile.)

Don't forget that often, saying "are you gay," is an ioi
to see if you're available.
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ive said this once before, "no...i am not... aren't you lucky..." smile was the key in that situation. most afc's, hell even naturals tend to get offended when girls say that.

[DJ Puff n Stuff]

"Are you gay?"
Response:
"I'm trying to be, but it's hard, I keep slipping into my old ways. There's just something about you women that keeps bringing me back."

[phoenix]

"Are you gay?"
Response:
"I'm trying to be, but it's hard, I keep slipping into my old ways. There's just something about you women that keeps bringing me back."


LMAO Props man.