Sovereign
05-22-2007, 10:48 AM
There are different types of cold reads used in the field. The primary cold read used in this community are; universal cold reads - they apply to everyone. They aren't reads on that person per se, but they have the appearance of such.
Things such as: You are insecure deep down (who isn't??), you only let a few people close to you and really let them inside (who doesn't??).
You get the picture. A really drunk girl or one that isn't exactly going to win any academic awards in her future will respond to these. It won't touch a nerve with her, but she will see it as a DHV on your part. There is nothing wrong with this type of read, although they have limited effectiveness.
Another type of cold read is one that you use a psychological aid with. The Cube is an example of this. It is not exactly a cold read; the device (in this case a series of well designed questions) brings you to your conclusion. The beauty of these types of routines is that they are usually 75% accurate for everyone. Most will ignore the 25% that is completely off the mark.... Again, it is a DHV for you, simply because you did the analysis, and it helps establish comfort, because no matter how you got there, you already now know more about her then any other guy in that venue. Again, it is potent, but limited. It is a stepping stone to help you transition you into a better stage with her.
Then there is an actual cold read. This is one which you use fairly detailed information to your advantage. You use this information in two ways:
1) To calibrate yourself (based on what you know about her, certain tactics and techniques will fall flat, and others will work better).
2) As a stronger DHV than the two examples above will give you (it is one thing to say she is insecure, it is another to say she is insecure because she is the middle child and was virtually ignored by an abusive father...all of which you gathered from some simple observations.)
So how do you do it? I spent years mastering it, devoting myself to understanding human behavior and in doing so have not only identified what the predictable responses to situations would be, but also picking up on minor clues that people give off that tell you an enormous amount about them.
First, a cold read is NOT cold. It is based on information you are gathering through your observation of her. There are hundreds of minor clues that people give off, that as you get better and better at this, you will begin to pick up and you will be able to do so quickly.
Once you have these clues, you apply them to what you know about people in general. People cluster, it is as simple as that. In statistics, the device used to make predictions is known as 'regression analysis'. In short, if you were to tell me someone's gender and age, I could give you a reasonable estimate of their income (based on what the average income of what everyone in the country of that gender and age make). If you were to then tell me their race, their educational background, where they live, and what religion they are...my estimate of their income would be even more accurate. The more you tell me about them, the closer I will get.
The observations you make with someone, is like this. The more you observe the more information you have to make this educated guess. If you do it right, you will generally always come 'close enough' to the truth. So for example:
You are in a bar and you see a girl sitting there with her friends. She is a HB9. This is what you know:
Being observant will let you know if she is the leader of that group or not. You will also know if she is shy or outgoing (is she talking with her head down and eyes averted, is she loud, does she look bored?).
You will see how she is dressed, are they expensive clothes. Are expensive clothes mixed in with inexpensive ones? Is her hair recently done? Is she able to apply make up well or not (you will begin to notice that some women are very good at make up application and some are terrible at it). What is she drinking, a beer, a mixed drink, something that is without alcohol? Is she wearing any charms, a cross, a little heart around her neck.
Based on how she is dress, is she coming from work? Does the people she is with look like co-workers or friends? If they are co-workers what is her comfort level with them?
Believe it or not, you should be able to sum all this up in less than a minute. When I approach this girl (and this is a real life example by the way), I knew that she was a: Christian (based on the cross), out with co-workers (it was Friday night, she was dressed professionally, as were the people she was with), she is most likely new at the job or hasn’t been out with this group much (she doesn’t seem very comfortable with them, and they seem to be making an unnatural effort to include her in their discussions), I conclude she is new at the job, since she is dressed better than the rest of them (now I could be off here, but I am judging that after working in a place for awhile you start off dressing really nicely and then you notice you are the only one and you start to tone it down, so the way she is dressed combined with how her co-workers and her are interacting I conclude she started the job recently), I was lucky enough to catch when I first saw her, that she was taking her first sip of her martini (looked like some sort of odd martini mix) and that she never had it before (based on the odd grimace from her face), I also noticed everyone else in the group had one…so from that it strengthened my belief that she was new and trying to “fit in”. Her clothes, while nice, were a mixture of very nice high end designers (skirt and jacket were clearly of a Prada level), but the shirt and makeup screamed Target/Drug Store, so she doesn’t come from money, but she uses the money she has to try to look good. She is obviously went to college and is starting her career. She is a bit shy and a bit supplicating. Yet, she also stands by her beliefs (trust me, in LA, wearing a cross out at night is generally something most don’t do) and she isn’t from LA.
All of these observations turned out to be correct btw. And I got this information in roughly 1 minute of looking over there (unnoticed of course).
Now, one minute of effort gave me a wealth of information that gave me a HUGE advantage when I approached. In fact, I was so confident in my cold read at this point that I opened the group with it and immediately put her on the defensive, with coming into the group and saying, “Let me guess, this is ‘take the new girl out and get her drunk’ night” The alpha female of the group laughed and said, “Is it that obvious?” I turned to the new girl and said, “Enjoying your hazing? Bring you back to sorority days?” (another cold read here, I assumed that given her looks, and her desire to please people that she was in a sorority…right again).
Now this girl was very easy to get talking, before I knew it, a few pointed questions (“So where did you live before coming to LA? Atlanta? What made you decide to travel all the way across country, away from family and friends to come here?”) Based on this I assumed she came from a middle class background and wanted to prove to herself that she can break out of her town and strike out successfully on her own, this turned out to be true enough, she was from upper middle class, successful parents who wanted her to go into the family business (they owned around 4 stationary stores). She had left her bf and was trying a long distance relationship. I pounced all over this, and used her desire to have a career as the justification as to why it wouldn’t work, how her bf would hold her back from that, and that needed to concentrate on what she was doing and make a new social circle of friends (she wanted to be in creative advertising).
By the end, she was teary eyed about leaving her family and friends behind, saying things like, “Thank you so much! You’re the first person I’ve really talk to about any of this!” I used a combination of admonish/support and of course cold reads, and she was mine in any possible way I wanted.
So to sum up, cold reads are about gathering information, getting better and better at it over time, making reasonable logical leaps with that information, and using it to your advantage. If done properly it establishes are very strong connection with the target, it allows her to open up (gives her the feeling you known her for a long time), it establishes trust, and it puts you in a position of very high value. Combine this with escalating kino, some basic attraction techniques and there is little you can’t do with anyone you choose. But there is no magic pill here, it takes time and effort and in the beginning you will be wrong, A LOT. Over time though you skills will hone, and you will find that you can cold read just about anyone. Remember, people telegraph who they are in what they are doing, their clues are everywhere. Just like a CSI team can pick up trace evidence of someone’s presence, you can pick up these clues from people. You can not hide who are you, no matter how hard you try, it drips off you…just watch them sweat.
And of course you can game without this, but...what fun would that be??
With love,
Things such as: You are insecure deep down (who isn't??), you only let a few people close to you and really let them inside (who doesn't??).
You get the picture. A really drunk girl or one that isn't exactly going to win any academic awards in her future will respond to these. It won't touch a nerve with her, but she will see it as a DHV on your part. There is nothing wrong with this type of read, although they have limited effectiveness.
Another type of cold read is one that you use a psychological aid with. The Cube is an example of this. It is not exactly a cold read; the device (in this case a series of well designed questions) brings you to your conclusion. The beauty of these types of routines is that they are usually 75% accurate for everyone. Most will ignore the 25% that is completely off the mark.... Again, it is a DHV for you, simply because you did the analysis, and it helps establish comfort, because no matter how you got there, you already now know more about her then any other guy in that venue. Again, it is potent, but limited. It is a stepping stone to help you transition you into a better stage with her.
Then there is an actual cold read. This is one which you use fairly detailed information to your advantage. You use this information in two ways:
1) To calibrate yourself (based on what you know about her, certain tactics and techniques will fall flat, and others will work better).
2) As a stronger DHV than the two examples above will give you (it is one thing to say she is insecure, it is another to say she is insecure because she is the middle child and was virtually ignored by an abusive father...all of which you gathered from some simple observations.)
So how do you do it? I spent years mastering it, devoting myself to understanding human behavior and in doing so have not only identified what the predictable responses to situations would be, but also picking up on minor clues that people give off that tell you an enormous amount about them.
First, a cold read is NOT cold. It is based on information you are gathering through your observation of her. There are hundreds of minor clues that people give off, that as you get better and better at this, you will begin to pick up and you will be able to do so quickly.
Once you have these clues, you apply them to what you know about people in general. People cluster, it is as simple as that. In statistics, the device used to make predictions is known as 'regression analysis'. In short, if you were to tell me someone's gender and age, I could give you a reasonable estimate of their income (based on what the average income of what everyone in the country of that gender and age make). If you were to then tell me their race, their educational background, where they live, and what religion they are...my estimate of their income would be even more accurate. The more you tell me about them, the closer I will get.
The observations you make with someone, is like this. The more you observe the more information you have to make this educated guess. If you do it right, you will generally always come 'close enough' to the truth. So for example:
You are in a bar and you see a girl sitting there with her friends. She is a HB9. This is what you know:
Being observant will let you know if she is the leader of that group or not. You will also know if she is shy or outgoing (is she talking with her head down and eyes averted, is she loud, does she look bored?).
You will see how she is dressed, are they expensive clothes. Are expensive clothes mixed in with inexpensive ones? Is her hair recently done? Is she able to apply make up well or not (you will begin to notice that some women are very good at make up application and some are terrible at it). What is she drinking, a beer, a mixed drink, something that is without alcohol? Is she wearing any charms, a cross, a little heart around her neck.
Based on how she is dress, is she coming from work? Does the people she is with look like co-workers or friends? If they are co-workers what is her comfort level with them?
Believe it or not, you should be able to sum all this up in less than a minute. When I approach this girl (and this is a real life example by the way), I knew that she was a: Christian (based on the cross), out with co-workers (it was Friday night, she was dressed professionally, as were the people she was with), she is most likely new at the job or hasn’t been out with this group much (she doesn’t seem very comfortable with them, and they seem to be making an unnatural effort to include her in their discussions), I conclude she is new at the job, since she is dressed better than the rest of them (now I could be off here, but I am judging that after working in a place for awhile you start off dressing really nicely and then you notice you are the only one and you start to tone it down, so the way she is dressed combined with how her co-workers and her are interacting I conclude she started the job recently), I was lucky enough to catch when I first saw her, that she was taking her first sip of her martini (looked like some sort of odd martini mix) and that she never had it before (based on the odd grimace from her face), I also noticed everyone else in the group had one…so from that it strengthened my belief that she was new and trying to “fit in”. Her clothes, while nice, were a mixture of very nice high end designers (skirt and jacket were clearly of a Prada level), but the shirt and makeup screamed Target/Drug Store, so she doesn’t come from money, but she uses the money she has to try to look good. She is obviously went to college and is starting her career. She is a bit shy and a bit supplicating. Yet, she also stands by her beliefs (trust me, in LA, wearing a cross out at night is generally something most don’t do) and she isn’t from LA.
All of these observations turned out to be correct btw. And I got this information in roughly 1 minute of looking over there (unnoticed of course).
Now, one minute of effort gave me a wealth of information that gave me a HUGE advantage when I approached. In fact, I was so confident in my cold read at this point that I opened the group with it and immediately put her on the defensive, with coming into the group and saying, “Let me guess, this is ‘take the new girl out and get her drunk’ night” The alpha female of the group laughed and said, “Is it that obvious?” I turned to the new girl and said, “Enjoying your hazing? Bring you back to sorority days?” (another cold read here, I assumed that given her looks, and her desire to please people that she was in a sorority…right again).
Now this girl was very easy to get talking, before I knew it, a few pointed questions (“So where did you live before coming to LA? Atlanta? What made you decide to travel all the way across country, away from family and friends to come here?”) Based on this I assumed she came from a middle class background and wanted to prove to herself that she can break out of her town and strike out successfully on her own, this turned out to be true enough, she was from upper middle class, successful parents who wanted her to go into the family business (they owned around 4 stationary stores). She had left her bf and was trying a long distance relationship. I pounced all over this, and used her desire to have a career as the justification as to why it wouldn’t work, how her bf would hold her back from that, and that needed to concentrate on what she was doing and make a new social circle of friends (she wanted to be in creative advertising).
By the end, she was teary eyed about leaving her family and friends behind, saying things like, “Thank you so much! You’re the first person I’ve really talk to about any of this!” I used a combination of admonish/support and of course cold reads, and she was mine in any possible way I wanted.
So to sum up, cold reads are about gathering information, getting better and better at it over time, making reasonable logical leaps with that information, and using it to your advantage. If done properly it establishes are very strong connection with the target, it allows her to open up (gives her the feeling you known her for a long time), it establishes trust, and it puts you in a position of very high value. Combine this with escalating kino, some basic attraction techniques and there is little you can’t do with anyone you choose. But there is no magic pill here, it takes time and effort and in the beginning you will be wrong, A LOT. Over time though you skills will hone, and you will find that you can cold read just about anyone. Remember, people telegraph who they are in what they are doing, their clues are everywhere. Just like a CSI team can pick up trace evidence of someone’s presence, you can pick up these clues from people. You can not hide who are you, no matter how hard you try, it drips off you…just watch them sweat.
And of course you can game without this, but...what fun would that be??
With love,