Girls asking for favors

[johnnybgood]

How do you guys respond when girls ask you to use something that you posess?

For example today I had popcorn and a girl asked me to have some i said no and then offered it to her friend. She then called me a jerk in a complete straight face not playful whatsoever and I gave her some. What are some funny/attractive things that i could say when a girl asks for something that i have?

[CrimsonKing]

This is basically a hoop that she's asking you to jump through. It's okay to jump through one of her hoops as long as you make her jump through one of yours first.

In your example, try something this:
If she asks for some of your popcorn, pick up one piece and say "Only if you can catch this in your mouth." Chances are, she'll jump and then you just toss the piece and have her catch it in her mouth. And if she misses it, bust her on it, and then say "okaaaaay...you can still have some, but we're going to have to work on this later."

Also, dont always be trying to play hoop/frame games. That will turn you into a social robot. Sometimes it's okay just to be nice.

[-Silver-]

Read up on Lovedrop's social vilation theory for awesome insight to this. But making her jump through one of your hoops first was sound advice. You can always keep them simple them though:

Her: Oooo can I have some popcorn?

You: Please?

When she says please, let her have some. If she refuses to say please, she is being a social violator. Your request was perfectly reasonable, and she lowers her value if she doesn't comply with it.

Kudos to Lovedrop for this!

-Silver-

[Abower The Don]

In your example, try something this:
If she asks for some of your popcorn, pick up one piece and say "Only if you can catch this in your mouth." Chances are, she'll jump and then you just toss the piece and have her catch it in her mouth. And if she misses it, bust her on it, and then say "okaaaaay...you can still have some, but we're going to have to work on this later."



Absolutely brilliant.

[EdRose]

That is gold. From now on if any girl asks for some of my food I'm gonna say "only if you can catch it in your mouth" and throw it at her.

fuck yeah!

[Waka]

That is gold. From now on if any girl asks for some of my food I'm gonna say "only if you can catch it in your mouth" and throw it at her.

fuck yeah!

What if a girl asks for some of your drink?

'only if you can... wait, nevermind'

:p

[A.J.]

What if a girl asks for some of your drink?

'only if you can... wait, nevermind'

:p

lmao i dunno this actually made me laugh so hard :) haha

when a girl asks me for a drink i would just say sumthin like :alright but you also have to get me one and we'll trade" then you make it fun trying out new exotic drinks :)

[MikeNYC]

How do you guys respond when girls ask you to use something that you posess?

For example today I had popcorn and a girl asked me to have some i said no and then offered it to her friend. She then called me a jerk in a complete straight face not playful whatsoever and I gave her some. What are some funny/attractive things that i could say when a girl asks for something that i have?

why do you think she reacted like that? but before you answer that tell me why you refused to give her popcorn?

stop being a jerk. these are basic social skills, no PUA magic frame control kung fu shit is necessary.

even though the chances of this happening to you again are very slim i will give you a script to maybe follow or at least use to get an idea of what could work.

her: can i have some popcorn? (hoop)
you: are your hands clean, missy? (small hoop, everyone will say yes to this)
her: yes (compliance)
you: that's too bad i like dirty girls :p (throw-away disqualifier/joke). haha here, dig in..... *start A2*

edit:

This is basically a hoop that she's asking you to jump through. It's okay to jump through one of her hoops as long as you make her jump through one of yours first.

In your example, try something this:
If she asks for some of your popcorn, pick up one piece and say "Only if you can catch this in your mouth." Chances are, she'll jump and then you just toss the piece and have her catch it in her mouth. And if she misses it, bust her on it, and then say "okaaaaay...you can still have some, but we're going to have to work on this later."

Also, dont always be trying to play hoop/frame games. That will turn you into a social robot. Sometimes it's okay just to be nice.

haha even better. i love it. A+

last part is super true. you dont have to game all the time. i give myself permission to act AFC when i just dont feel like "running game" or practicing. usually me allowing myself to be AFC (or just normal) is communicated as me not giving a damn about what i say or do and that scores me point as being unreactive. if you can attract girls by not exerting effort and acting normal, you are def internalizing some of this stuff.

[overstocked]

ha ha some funny shit in this thread. But seriously though, I dont mind doing girls favors as long as she's not taking the piss. But a general rule of thumb, I would say stick to the hoop theory.

[Greystoke]

If a girl or any human being is in great need of your help(lying on the road, after a car crash), it is not the time for you to throw hoops like at her or be an alpha male.

Remember that you are human before everything else. Let your action be guided by good principles, not internet values that some fellow guy with a pointy hat gave you.

... sure, but if you break it, you pay like everyone else.

[cheeky]

This thread reminds me of a point made by David Deangelo.

Basically, he was addressing an issue similar to this one. He mentioned that when a chick wants you to do something, you should treat her like one of your bros. If your boy dropped his shoe and told you to pick it up, you'd look at him like what the hell... If he came to visit from out of town, you'd probably take him out to dinner, etc.

Although I'm sure someone is going to come along and say "Oh that's stupid," I found it to be a great way to approach certain situations. Being playful and fun is always good. But for the newer guys, you might want to keep in mind that these "rules" are far from being actual rules. You need to calibrate the situation and make a judgement call from there. Doing nothing but routines and openers 24/7 can make you look socially repugnant and like a big D-bag. You don't want that.

[Dynamism]

Once I was at the movies and had some cotton candy. This girl I know comes rushing towards me and I very seriously told her that if she wanted some she would have to say please. She refused to say please and kept being annoying so she got none.
After she saw that I was unaffected and didn't crumble or become self-conscious that I didn't give her any (while I gave other people), she still had respect.

[Cedar]

How do you guys respond when girls ask you to use something that you posess?

HB: Can I have some popcorn?
PUA: What's in it for me?
HB: I dunno...what do you want?
PUA: Kiss on the the cheek.
HB: Ok! *kiss*
PUA: OMG, your nose totally wiggles when you talk. It's so adorable. I'm taking you home.... wait... you paper trained?

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