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Arctic
05-09-2007, 06:38 PM
Hey folks.Ive been following the game, and thus have learned many skills like time constraints, negs, etc.Here's a time, however, when I 'did' these things without knowing it. Hope this helps other newcomers see how to apply what you learn. :)

To the FR:I work at an electroics store in a local mall, with a Gloria Jeans literally next door. I never go there, as its always crowded and the coffee's pricey .Until I go to work one Tuesday night, and on the verge of falling asleep from the boredom , grab a 10 minute drink break from my boss.For some procedural reason, I couldn't get a full break, so I step next door to grab something cheap and caffinated, and mentally I stop in my tracks: Ive never seen so much crap on an overhead menu ever, and while on my own I'd probably pick something out, I cant waste my break time choosing a "Cafe Macchiato" from a " Cafe Venti".Plus I was looking stupid standing alone besides the chick behind the counter. So I ask her , verbatim " What is the best drink you got?"
Her: "Oh, its this cafe something or other...."
She goes on for about two minutes describing the drink . Remember I'm looking for something 'CHEAP', as in not $8.50 with tax. I ask, playfully, "So, how much is this super drink gonna cost me? "

"Free"

Huh?Oh snap.....

Using my cocky voice "So what's this drink made of?" ( never was a good listner lol...)
Her: "Its made with love" ( verbatim )

Shizznits.Im standing there , work shirt and pants ,and ive run across a fool's mate.Pity that upon further conversation , Elizabeth was 17 and graduating from high school. I ejected by saying ( truthfully) my boss was gonna have my a$$ for taking 30 minutes to walk next door for a large coffee.

She was attractive in a way that didn't say 17 years old. I give her a 7.8 ( only cause of work clothes lol..) I try to date chicks my own age,and high school age girls can tend to be , ahem, immature.

But the sheer exercise was thrill enough. What I took away from this,in light of what I now know about the game, is this:

In day game with chicks at work,just be spontanious.This is your greatest ally, as on a boring day of work, being exciting instantly distinguishes you and makes you memorable, versus having to compete in a club scene. When dealing with chicks at work, say something cocky about the food , the menu, or whatever. This is where the three-second rule helps, as if I'd given my initial comment."What is the best drink you got?" any deep thought, I would have rejected it as too rude. At that point I didn't really care about being polite, and that pays off in working game. Like Mystery says, if you crash and burn hit reset. Or go to another Starbucks location :D

Another lesson is timing . I had the blessed advantage of being in the cafe on a dead Tuesday night. If youre in the place on a Saturday morning, youre realistically not gonna have enough time to run good game before the person behind you gets pissed and blows you out. So ,to set the battlefield to your advantage, choose a time you KNOW will be dead . Absolutely boring. And while running game, make your time scarce. Using a time constraint allows you to game , and roll.I did this 'accidentally' because of a 'REAL' time constraint, my brief break time. Unlike a club, neither you or she is in control of her surroundings. Cant take her to a different atmospere or place cause she's at work. Best to blow her away, and walk before a customer ( or her boss) comes in and she loses state.Use anchoring as well, one of those ideas that hit me only in hindsight, grab something job-related but innocent, say a sharpie pen or something, and you'll have the advantage of her thinking about you every time she's at work,AKA almost every day.:)

Hope this helps you guys starting out like me.

-Silver-
05-10-2007, 12:43 PM
Welcome to the community buddy! Glad you've got the gist of time constraints then, but it seems more like the girl was just flirting with you, rather than you gaming her if i'm honest :P

Get your Arctic ass back into that coffee shop and game her like you've never gamed before! And post the FR, I wana hear how quickly you got her number.

-Silver-

Arctic
05-16-2007, 10:53 AM
Welcome to the community buddy! Glad you've got the gist of time constraints then, but it seems more like the girl was just flirting with you, rather than you gaming her if i'm honest :P

Get your Arctic ass back into that coffee shop and game her like you've never gamed before! And post the FR, I wana hear how quickly you got her number.

-Silver-


Quite correct my friend.So I got my a$$ back in the shop two days ago , but sadly Liz was not on shift.

So I gamed her older co-worker instead!Same opener, drink reccomendations, but this time I used Style's opinion set about the jealous girlfriend. Her reply was , basically, tough stuff about the ex-girlfriend , and we fluffed about the story .After chatting about clubs and favorite scenes , I tried to number close and got the boyfriend line.She was a somewhat older chick, maybe 26-27, an HB7, and I wasn't intent on sarging her anyways, but was still an awesome experience for getting me out of my comfort zone,plus working on my day game is a priority. ( my work schedule is mostly weekends, hence little chance for night game )

As far as not getting her number, this outcome was due to me under-negging. That and me probably failing the boyfriend line, if it was a shit-test.

ON that subject, how do you know whether she's giving the boyfriend line as a shit-test or if she's legitimately happy?My intuition was that , in this case, HB7 was in a relationship,but still a good ability to determine for future sarges.

-Silver-
05-17-2007, 11:16 AM
Unlike being married, it's not easy to tell if your target has a bf unless she's clinging to some guy's arm and he's touching her up every now and then. The odd kiss or two between them is a good sign they're seeing each other too. Basically, if you run your game correctly, especialy through the attraction phase, you'll be expecting IOIs. If you're clearly impressing the girl, but she isn't giving out anywhere near as many IOIs as you usually get, it may well be because she has a bf already.

Remember to make yourself the prize. If she isn't chasing you after all your DHVs, then maybe she has a boyfriend already. Asking her directly if she has a bf isn't a good move unless you make it cocky/funny after you've DHVd enough. But if you find an appropriate time to ask her what she's doing later on in the day or over the weekend, she may well mention her bf if she has one.

An alternative method: When you neg her about something (maybe how demanding she is if she tells you to entertain her more) then comment 'that must really annoy your boyfriend!' She how she reacts. This should also convey active disinterest.

Great work for getting back in there btw!

-Silver-

tony77
05-19-2007, 02:31 AM
A lot of the time the boyfriend line can be a way of her saying she is not interested or you went wrong somewhere in the approach depending at what stage she mentions him. Try some boyfriend destroying and throw it back at her by saying "well atleast you'll have someone to look after you when I'm not around"