Laying the smackdown on AA

[-Silver-]

Personally, I want to have my approach anxiety reduced to a minimum by the time I start university in september, and I'm sure that a lot of you guys would be interested in ways to reduce yours too. So seeing as this is a community dedicated to bettering ourselves, I figure we should try something AS a community!

The most important thing I like to convey is fun and excitement! So i want to bring that into this idea. Here it is:

For those that want to take part in this, we set ourselves a challenge regarding approaching sets every day. We all go and tackle this challenge, write a brief field report on how it went, and then a set a new challenge for the following day. I don't want this to be the same old - 'get a number close from a HB7 or above'. We're only improving our approach here, so closing shouldn't be a part of the challenge, just an added bonus if you manage it :P

If you're interested in giving this a trial run then let me know. Hopefully we can get this game up and running! If any of you have ideas you want to throw around about this game then speak your mind.

Happy sarging!

-Silver-

[eros3108]

Definitely.

[sildenafill]

ok i give the first one, and its definitely a golden thing to destroy approach anxiety. that's not actually my idea but its golden anyway, here it goes:

"Go somewhere for an afternoon, somewhere far from what would be a future regular pickup ground for you (like a mall on the other side of town). Go at a time when you know there will be a lot of hot women there. With a smile, walk up to a 9 or 10 and
say the following: “Hi, I have this FEAR of rejection that I really need to get over. So I need you to just REJECT ME as hard and as cold as possible, so I can get used to it. Go ahead, REJECT ME!” If she ignores you, go C&F: “Is that the BEST you can do? Ignore me? Come on, you can do better than that! Say something MEAN!” If she just giggles or thinks you’re putting her on: “What are you laughing for? I mean it!! Be cruel!” When she finally does blow you off badly, thank her and tell her “Only 36 more rejections to go, I have a target of 50”. This routine has two beneficial effects:"

well she doesnt necessarily have to be 9 or 10, do it on everyone. And everyone, heres the goal. Do this 5 times this weekend, and post reports here. and afterwards, reward yourlsef of completing this first mission (that's crucial).

Good luck everyone.

[Savvy]

Love the idea Silver, I would like to get a fresh start myself when univ. starts up again in Sept. As far as your plan goes, maybe I can offer some inspiration. I recently stumbled accross this site (I believe it was linked from the sig of "El Diablo"):

http://actioninaction.com/course.php

For lack of a better description, its been simplified to the difficulty of a video game. There are missions that you must complete and then you can write a quick FR for your own reference. I joined up with this website because I wanted to go back and perfect the basics in order to reinforce my foundations before I continue on further with more advanced techniques. I've had to deal with being a solo flier in the field and for that reason, it makes this site all the more helpful. Its like having a personal coach, but, the coach is yourself :P. I like the challenges layed out so far but i'm curious to see what you could come up with.

Count me in for the AA abolishment project :)


- Savvy

[-Silver-]

@Savvy: Awesome site, it'll definitely come in handy. I reccommend everyone takes a look at that, no matter what your level of experience as it has some pretty hard-core challenges if you're right at the top of your game! (lay 8 chicks in 6 weeks :P)

Now that I have some feedback we can get this going! Glad you're enthusiastic about it, and if anyone else wants to join in, just jump in whenever you want. Sildenafill's idea is pretty good actually, and I think that's a great one to start with. First of all, I brainstormed some brief rules for this game at work today:

1) Every challenge should be measureable. Whether by the number of approaches made, number of seconds an individual approach lasts for, or any other specification.

2) FRs should include the above detail (how many approaches were made/seconds the longest approach lasted for). Don't make-up or exagerrate this guys, no sense in lying to yourselves! :P

3) The PUA who performed the best, as detailed in 2), gets to set the next challenge.

4) Challenges should be a challenge, but for now at least let's keep it to SIMPLY approaching, not closing. They should also conform to accepted social standards. (so no challenges involving 'grab as many girls' asses as you can, and then pretend it was the old man standing next to her')

5) Due to time differences, a challenge will be set with TWO DAYS allowed for completion and posting of FRs. The next challenge will then be set by the winner at the end of the second day.

Any feedback for adjusting or adding to these guidelines are welcome. I can see problems occuring with declaring winners before all FRs are in due to time differences, but we'll see how this goes for now and make ammendments as they're needed.

Let the games begin!

-Silver-

[-Silver-]

Challenge 1

As suggested by Sildenafill:

Approach as many sets as you can with the following opener:

“Hi, I have this FEAR of rejection that I really need to get over. So I need you to just REJECT ME as hard and as cold as possible, so I can get used to it. Go ahead, REJECT ME!” If she ignores you, go C&F: “Is that the BEST you can do? Ignore me? Come on, you can do better than that! Say something MEAN!” If she just giggles or thinks you’re putting her on: “What are you laughing for? I mean it!! Be cruel!” When she finally does blow you off badly, thank her and tell her “Only 36 more rejections to go, I have a target of 50”

The PUA with the most approaches gets to set the next challenge! If any of you manage to get a close with this opener, include it in your FR! We can always add a system to award bonus points for closes.

Screw that AA where the sun don't shine!

-Silver-

[sildenafill]

my addition to these laws (actually a suggestion now, silver decide to take it or not) to include a minimum goal, so when we get back we dont fell like ass. i say for the first challange is to do it at least 3 times (have said 5 upwards, saw its not that easy, 3 is the minimum i say). But you're still free to do more. no borders there.

good luck evryone again.

[-Silver-]

my addition to these laws (actually a suggestion now, silver decide to take it or not) to include a minimum goal, so when we get back we dont fell like ass. i say for the first challange is to do it at least 3 times (have said 5 upwards, saw its not that easy, 3 is the minimum i say). But you're still free to do more. no borders there.

good luck evryone again.

The reason I didn't include a min/max border is because I believe you should be able to set your own borders. Some guys are going to be able to control their AA better than others, and I don't want some guys to feel they have failed if they only managed 2 approaches out of the 3, when really even getting one approach was a big step for them. They should feel succesful for improving on themselves!

You guys know your own limits, so set them accordingly! The prospect of setting the next challenge serves to encourage multiple approaches and a competetive spirit, so push yourself as hard as you can! But know that even one approach is still an improvement on your game, and vital experience that all adds up!

-Silver-

[theshindigg]

hey hwat has happened to this thread? i just read this and its an awesome idea which i would gladly take part in. o and just for repetitiveness' sake good idea silver and good suggestionfor a first mission sildenafill

[-Silver-]

Yeh the whole thing never took off really. Still we can try and give it a kick-start!

First of all, WOAH at Rewok's ideas! Some of them I would definitely consider doing, some I defifnitely wouldn't. For example i'm not sure I'd endorse wearing stained PJ's to school/work. But I do think your day 1 suggestion would be great for a laugh when a friend is with you! I'll definitley try that one out, as well as the karaoke singing so long as it's in a town i'll never visit again in this life OR any future ones.

Ok then, for those that like the idea of riding this wave with me and improving your control over AA, i'll post up another challenge. I NEED feedback if i'm going to post another one though :P otherwise it'll end up as a thread full of my own posts detailing challenges which may not even be helping anyone! To avoid double-posting as much as possible, I won't be the first to post any FRs on the challenges, but I WILL post them if others do (you're not alone!). Ok, feel free to brave as many of Rewok's as you can before the glaring looks from the public force you to search out a small dark hole where you can escape from humanity for the rest of your dying days. Any challenges I set won't be quite so demanding though :P you should easily be able to hide the embarrasment and hold a straight face. If anyone has any ideas for more challenges, feel free to post those as well just like Rewok has, they can only help!

Challenge 2:

Approach a set and use this opener:

Hey did you guys see a Giant Land Tortoise run past this way? I was taking him for a walk but he slipped out of the collar...

Aim is to hold the conversation for as long as you can! Get a friend to time you, and use him to psyche you up! If you change the topic, the timer stops. If you can keep this topic going for more than 5 mins I'll be damn impressed!

-Silver-

[VerbalJudo]

Great Idea Silver. I always prided myself on being cool. But making an ass out of yourself can surley help sometimes. My brother got me looking at this stuff. I seemed to always get cute girls... but they had to appreoach me so i have ZERO experience in an approach. Depending on my mood whether i like how i look that day i am good or horrible. I think im going to try that other websites thing in the Bar tonight ...getting EC. However, ALTHOUGH this is not the topic of the thread who knows some good openers.