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jameson
07-19-2008, 01:59 AM
I have some kind of sticking point I can't overcome and I have no ideas on how to solve it. I've been in the community for about six months. My wing has about the same amount of time and he can't help me either. We both did a superconference/bootcamp.

Anyway this is the problem: I do fairly well yet I can never close! There's always one excuse or another. I open well, neg, build attraction, kino, etc, etc. I've gamed everyone from doormen to hired guns to HBs. We always have fun...(maybe it's just a matter of more time and more microcalibration)but in the end girls always roll off or I somehow lose it. They thank me for fun or meeting us, but there's always an excuse (my boyfriend's inside, I have to go, nice meeting you....) I've tried more kino and cavemaned it. tonight, for example, I had my tounge in this girl's ear, told her it was her pussy, and had my hand on her ass. She loved it! and kept workin up on me. I even stood up to her shit test earlier. She hated me before but I broke though because i played disinterested in her anger and it worked! However, just like all times before, she got on her cell at the end of the night, said something about a boyfriend and grabbed her friend and left us. What?! That's just one example. It's always something.

My guess is that it could be a matter of moving them or bouncing them. But we're outside on the smoking lounge and going inside would be too loud to talk in a club. And we and they are having too much fun to leave the club and bounce while it is still hoppin.

I feel that so much of my game is tight, the doormen I know think we get laid every night, but the truth is that we're never f-closing. What is that piece I'm missing???????

Killer
07-19-2008, 09:01 AM
Comfort.

As you grab her ass and stick your tongue in her ear, is she thinking you only want to bang her?

ganglord
07-20-2008, 07:20 PM
Here are 4 things that it doesn't sound like you are doing.

False disqualification (unless you think that is what negs do)
Push/Pull
Isolation
Sexual Framing

These are things that will help you get into comfort which it sounds like you aren't really getting into.

Most things you would do in comfort would get you blown out or cock blocked if her friends were around.

azazels_wolf
07-20-2008, 09:14 PM
- After you build attraction, do you qualify her in ways that have nothing to do with her body, so she doesn't just think you're interested in sex?
- Do you develop any real rapport and an emotional connection?
- Do you time bridge and #-close with these girls so that you set up a Day 2 BEFORE she leaves?
- Nothing of import is likely to happen in a smoking lounge. Have you tried bouncing her OUT OF THE CLUB to a more isolated setting, and then on to your living room (then hopefully your bedroom)?

There could be other things, but let's start there.

jameson
08-03-2008, 12:48 AM
Thank you all for your posts. I appreciate the help. I've given it a couple weeks to try and improve. Somehow though my mind just can't grasp the method. I hear what everyone is saying....but just like some things (opening, negging, kino, etc) come so naturally, the complete opposite is true of the rest of the game. For the life of me I can't seem to make it happen (close) with anything good. I'm as frustrated now as I was AFC. I won't quit, but I'll admit it's stupid to just go out and do the same thing over and over and get the same results over and over. I won't waste everyone's time...but if anyone has some other possible ideas to add, please do.

Aleksander
08-11-2008, 12:25 PM
Are you the prize, or is she? Make sure that you are the prize, not her. Also, throw in some jelousy plotlines, make her jelous.

Buld
08-13-2008, 02:09 AM
I think you have the same problem I had (and still have to some degree). I read all the community info and listened to all the tapes. Everyone was saying I need to be unattached, unaffected and not into her. But that holds true only for the attraction part.

Disinterest gets the girl curious and attracted but it doesn't GET her. Its showing interest that gets you the girl at the end.

Thats why I think M3 model is still valid allthough it's been abandoned.

First - girl must like you - that is achieved by attracting (C&F, negs, etc...)
Second - you must start liking the girl - by qualifying her and spending time with her
Third - you must show interest in her - going direct, SOI, ... oh and don't forget - wanting to f-close