Disqualifyers from a Girl's point of view

[GothicTz]

I automatically disqualify a lot of guys for many different reasons before I ever talk to them. I have to say, after reading The Game it seems like there are so many approaches that you guys can make use of that it seems like girls will go for you even if you're pre-disqualified. I don't want smokers, I don't want the guy to have any kids, no facial hair (i just don't like it personally), you have to have a job...I'm super picky which ultimately takes away from MY game. Is this too harsh? I have been known to throw some of these rules out the window when I feel like it but I think guys do that too with the girls they find. Do guys also automatically disqualify chicks in the same way...Like no fat chicks or no single moms?

[leslav]

Typically yes.

Of course some guys have different standards. I personally am not too big on single moms, but one of my friends loves them. I am lenient on the "fat girl" issue, provided she has big tits, smells good, and isn't needy. There are also different standards depending on the type of relationship. I'd have a one night stand with a single mom, but wouldn't date her. Then again, I probably wouldn't date the fat girl either.

Hey, that's just me.

[GothicTz]

Yeah I see your point and I think you're right. I guess everyone is just so different in what they're looking for. I see so many girls that tell me all the time that once the guy WANTS her, it's OVER-she isn't interested anymore. I think The Game is totally right when it comes to "how to get the girls" Style and Mystery are both dead on.

[Rich]

Hey, all I have to say is I would bone a milf, so long as shes an HB8 at least and I where my jimmy hat. Fat chicks need not apply...ever as that would lower my social value and status...I would not even talk to a fat girl unless she worked for me or vice versa...

So long as shes hot and takes a good pic and or vid, not 2 much to ask for is it?

[Ice 9]

No fat chicks, no smokers, no tattoed chicks (except for very tiny tats that are hardly noticeable), no alcoholics unless recovering. I'm okay with kids.

[Beyonder]

Extra holes in the face are an IMMEDIATE turnoff... Nose piercings and such.

I gotta agree with 9 about tatoos too, but ONLY to a certain extent. There are things I look for like that stereotypical tatoo on the back right above the ass. How original? Honestly, I see tatoos as a very masculine thing, and it takes a special type of girl to 'pull it off' in my eyes, otherwise it screams 'poser'.

This is not to say I wouldn't talk to these girls in public like Rich suggests. That's just against the type of person I am. I'm too friendly to be like that. I may ONS them, but I couldnt deal for any real length of time it wouls get to me too much.

Really short hair is also a turnoff to a MUCH lesser degree. (not a deal breaker like the facial metal)

Forgot to mention... Drugs. I don't do stoners and those on heavier drugs either.

[Argo navis]

It's not so much the "I am into you", it's the "I am in anything you want me to do to slip in your panties" - at some degree, a guy has to demonstrate interest, lead, and pace the interaction anyway (and there are other approaches to convey this perfectly without sounding needy, read more about direct/direct vs indirect/indirect).
The statement of your girl friend? Is the same I hear from many guys.

As far as filtering goes. We guys? I hate clingy/needy girls - I hate that. Lately, I am getting drastic as far as screening this goes - not martial drastic, express drastic, no punishment here, an instant next at the appropriate time.

I don't even consider a HB who gets a 9-less on my scale - my standards rose a lot due to the MM : simple equation, "same competencies, tons of HBs, no match" - I always aim from the hottest bodies and prettiest faces, may make exceptions though.

But essentially, I need personality, I really *need* it as a turn on, I don't have sex for the sake of having mechanical sex, I truely enjoy myself with a very sensual, smart, and mentally challenging and exciting girl.

Mystery put it well sometime when he expressed his pleasure at possessing a woman from her soul down to
her flesh, driving her through the most intense experience from deep inside - yup, that's my kind of fun : not the numbers. The INTENSITY.

I don't like low self esteem (who does?), which can easilly come in the guise of "boasting one's ego" : too much ego smells (and I am refining my screening a lot as I progress - as my inner game progresses as well).

Facial hair and cigarettes? I smoke, I have a moustache I will NEVER cut (I still remember the day that hottie told me "oh keep it, please, it tickles me nicely" - that was years ago, and the rule still holds true).

In spite of the smoking, I have dated sports teachers, ladies who claimed not to like my style, I've had comments in the vein of "I don't usually frequent guys with (insert whichever trait they may not like)" and discarded them the easy way : "I don't usually frequent chicks who have (insert whichever trait I do not like here - cowboy boots the last time I got crap of this kind)".

Generally : I don't frequent chicks with kids unless the situation is very clear, which does not come easy at all times, and a rule of thumb that matters to me is consistency. A friend's sister falls in the same category, pretty much : it may mess up more than what it would earn me.
I don't want to : have sex with a girl who is craving for attention and calling for my approval through this (bad sex and bad relationship afterwards).
And I don't want to : get exclusive with a girl who is not able to handle it, it serves no real point other than wasting my time.

One good example recently : that girl busting my chops directly, telling me she'd "bone that guy", she'd "bone that other guy", right in front of me all night long, until I told her : "ok, I am going to my place for homebrewed cocktails, want to come along?" - taking her overt innuendos for what they were, an invitation to action (or at least, that was what I thought - but there really were a clumsy DHV).
Along she came : I put it straight that I was looking for casual fun with bisexual girls, thinking she may have a spine. She was excited, we went to bed, and I got LMR and the dreaded... "I need to see you a couple more times to get more comfortable."
(So why the whole sexual act if you're already in "I want to see you again" mode? Why hiding the emotional needs behind that - otherwise quite vulgar - masquerade?).
Next thing she was a next, and one who is clingy in spite of that.

Oh, and last but far from being the least : I LOVE different ways of thinking. I love people to think outside the norms, that's when they come up with amazing ideas - and new ones at that.

So I am fond of many http://www.suicidegirls.com and appropriate tattoos are a huge turn on by me.

[latinguy]

Beyond, I tried your neg #1 last night from your list in your .sig and it worked great. Thank you!

[Beyonder]

Beyond, I tried your neg #1 last night from your list in your .sig and it worked great. Thank you!


LOL, Thanks man! I'm working hard on some new ones.:p