The most important sexual organ of a woman

[Argo navis]

Her MIND. Not exactly her brain, the whole of her hormonal / nervous systems and spirit/soul/and the likes.
That is where the most powerful orgasms begin for a woman.

It has a lot to do with ASD. It has a lot to do with the instinctive purpose of women. A purpose of TAMING the warrior and his animality. A purpose of balancing the decisional and logical skills of men. A purpose of "conquering the inaccessible adventurer, the man behind the mask (of Zorro)".

This sums up a lot of things : prizability is there with "taming the untamable", many of the emotions women feel towards men are there too, with bad boy or adventurer, once again, explained. And it has everything to do with any single "porn for women" novel out there, eg. romance novels.

So how to USE this to your advantage? In so many ways. In understanding the seduction dynamics better : a man she has tamed is not a man anymore. The novel ends BEFORE they "live happilly ever after".

In understanding the dynamics of sex better, also : ASD "contains" all their desires, puts it into "regular" social boundaries. Thus, a sexual encounter is very much... like a fight. It is the moment she is allowed, by this very challenge, to unleash what ASD contains, her animal desire, in an attempt at "winning" the strong man she has elected.

Emphasis on WINNING him - thus her man's pleasure is a gratification (remember my point about facials some time ago?) AND her man's capability to keep his calm is the warranty she will always be fighting and evolving and questionning herself. Moving ONWARDS out of existential boredom.

It is also a great way to filter for LSE : a girl who is not able to receive pleasure, and is totally, extremely focused on giving it, or on controlling the sexual interactions, etc.

Is just like anyone who cannot receive compliments : there is a twisted perception of control through sexual relationships underneath. That'll be it for starters, but there's more to all this
(the magic of phone sex, how to use her fantasies, how important rapport is for those things...)

[asab204]

good post ol' boy I like it. please do continue.

[Argo navis]

Sexual pleasure should be about reciprocation in celebration darling. It should be about "us" for both of the partners. It should never be a lonely battle, awkward in any way.

But most people's education makes it a struggle of sorts - "ooh what if she sees my balls are purple" - "what if he sees my breasts are pear shaped?", and all that funky stuff should stay OUT of the bedroom. To begin with.

And this greatly depends on inner game : you can really leave those things outside the bedroom when and if you DO feel comfortable with yourself. Other than that, I call it "fast food" sex - I rarely find ONS half as rewarding in pure sexual terms as relationships based on something deeper.

Then, when a girl gets sexual with a man, she is basically handing him the slut concealed in her ASD complexion - she entrusts him to make love to her passionately WHILE preserving her social "aura of purity". That is a lot of trust.

..Thus, this subconscious and conscious confidence that the man in front of her WILL handle her appropriately is the key to truely opening up her sexuality. The ultimate key : it's about her submitting to the alpha in you once again, this time down to exposing her most intimate secrets to you, the ones society "forbids" to her.

...So when a girl shares a fantasy with you, even one that does feel strange, like one of my exes telling me she'd love five men, one behind, one in front, one for each one of her breasts, and one in her mouth...

I thanked her.
Then while we were playing with webcams and stuff due to travelling apart, I used her wildly running imagination and the power of my most suave and suggestive voice (a command device in and of itself and a MAJOR turn on to girls as well) to have her PICTURE the mentionned fantasy and live it through fully.

There she went, without physical contact she came on phone for this. Double score here : I REWARDED her sharing her most intimate sexual fantasies because it was, in her perception, a wonderful gift, and demonstrated a willingness to explore it with her. That's exactly why she came on phone on the same story : loved and cherrished and appreciated in her social self as in her slutty sides, she was completely fullfilled emotionnaly, and at this point, willing with all her person to come for me.

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But there's a lot more to this, still.

[asab204]

wow. I like this little story. please tell me more. I can't help it I like smutty romance stories and this is indeed one of them. as well as actually informing me and the rest of the VA forum about a woman's mind.

[ScottyT.O.]

I can't find your point on facials, can I get a link or quote of what you said?

[Argo navis]

Scotty, here is the link :
http://www.venusianarts.com/forum/showthread.php?t=9945

The point was that facials, for some women (not all), are great pleasure. Partly because of the above.

Back to that story... you know asab, if I really would let myself go, I may actually pour enough of the essence of that story in this very thread for it to be sexually exciting for women.

In and of itself - thank you for confirming that what I say here totally makes sense to you, because a couple of threads from now, it's gonna get wilder - even.

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Oh hell, for science.. I have more specific points to add to this whole thing afterwards, but for science.

Sex was on her mind. But taboo in her country. So it was even more on her mind. And as we found ourselves locked in some decent motel after an adventure (wrong plane kind of adventure), we gently got.. almost naked. I had just "saved" her from a difficult situation.

So her trust for me was growing. And I asked...
"what is your most secret fantasy?"

In pickup terms, this is a great way to bring her into comfort, while thinking about you in sexual terms, and getting horny. A perfect move. And there she went with that very graphic story. Two actually, both fascinating, one very useful.

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A couple of months passed and..
(I am a tease. And it's 10PM here and someone's going to shoot me if I don't finish some work stuff - but I'll be back for more)

[asab204]

ok so you can continue now. I am not a patient woman. I do however hope to read the rest of your story soon. thanks for posting something ineteresting.

[Argo navis]

Sorry you're not patient lady, because I am renewing my material in real world when not working, these days. Life is all about balance : on one side, money, on the other, honeys - this is balance. :p

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Rest assured you'll feel wonderful in my *hands* sometime soon...

Cheers,
Argo

[Argo navis]

Ok, back to *that* topic.

For some reason, the mind of a woman IS the core of her sexuality.
We had a recent quote from PSK regarding the importance of giving him pleasure and taking control through blowjobs, and the mental importance it has, to the woman, to both make the man feel good, and be in control (if I remember correctly).

Because during oral, the one who controls the interaction is the "giver", not the receiving end.

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This is thought binding in action. I said it, sex is a genders "battle" somehow.
This is thought binding (from NLP and seduction theories) between the sexual PLEASURE, and the woman's control of the frame.

WHAT THEY WANT IN BED AND IN LOVE IS TO "TAME" THE MANLY BEAST THEY ARE NOT. But if they tame the beast (marriage or a solid and static commitment), their genetic "I own him and his spermatozoids" instinct kicks in.

And they lose interest. This is why a woman MUST always believe she can do something to lose you. It doesn't have to be an explicit threat : it has to be a "willingness to walk away".

...Without that, she has nothing to tame anymore and the romance novel, because all romance novels in the world follow this pattern.. the romance novel ENDS. It is not exciting past the point they "live happilly ever after", the sentence is quite self defeating : "hey folks, it was cool until now but they're gonna have twelve kids and live happilly ever after now, everybody goes home."

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SO, on to how to use this in bed (part I of III, a promised and steamy real world story as the conclusion) :
- Transpose everything you know about pickup. EVERYTHING.

For example :
1) you're in, thumping hard, sweating, and generally driving her through the experience by your mere animality. Exiciting.
2) you're in, thumping hard, sweating. All of a sudden, you GET OUT. Just enough for her to look at you like "noooooooo". And you get back in.

Propels her three levels above. Alternance of states : works like... changing topics? Yeah, but more like... Microcalibration, push/pull, etc.
3) don't frigging do the cat milk lap when going oral. You're supposed to make her feel wonderful about her sexuality, how will she do that if she can sense shyness and restraint on your side?

When you eat that pussy, EAT IT UP FOR GOOD. Lap it up, test things, bite it slightly, take it fully in your mouth, treat is like it was the most wonderful desert ever (keeping in mind it's only an apetizer ;))
4) Switch positions like you would switch venues - PACE AND LEAD.
5) Women love doggystyle.
6) Women love being controlled during the act as in life, controlled, not bossed around or bullied. Meaning : TRY THINGS AFTER TESTING GENTLY. It's best.

And when I say try things : HBSweden was standing in the living room, when I grabbed her by the arm, laid her on my lap, removes her pants, and started spaking her (gently but firmly) until she moaned. So I fingered her and she couldn't hold it in anymore.

...I took her (gently but firmly), and fucked her brains off there and then in the living room UP AGAINST THE WALL. So make her day. Try things (that do NOT hurt anybody).

7) And keep in mind the most important thing of this all : her MIND.

Up next, why dirty talk works, and more bullet points about the title of this thread. Mind. Voice. A sexy way to look at her. And the effect of ASD in bed - quite positive, because all they have to keep "inside" in society should be unleashed there.

...If you apply it all properly ;)

Cheers,
Argo

[asab204]

don't take this personal but I think I might just absolutley adore you. I love the theads you post in or about it's very interesting. I agree with the timid/shyness part NO woman wants a man that can't be creative with oral. I know some women that don't like oral but I am not one of them. I think that it is a very important part of a relationship---sex I mean not just oral but when the oral goes away then so do I. sorry but I love foreplay and oral both giving and receiving. I find oral a very gratifying experience. I have spoken with many of my guy friends about this they either have something to say or not. Something odd I found was that not all guys like a girl giving them head. I didn't realize this at all. I enjoy giing head only if the man I give it to is into me giving them pleasure.With my last BF I couldn't orgasm when he ate me. I thought something was wrong with me but really it was that he didnt' take direction or didn't want to explore (orally) my pussy.

it was not good. I think that might have been a very strong reason we didn't have great sex. I haven't had sex with many men at all--just two men and one of them was a ONS and I found out I don't like them....but anyways I can't really say I have had good sex or bad since I lack sex experience....I have had oral sex with only 3 men so I guess that would be what I am comparing the lack of good oral from ex-BF.

looking forward as always to reading another post by you my dear.

[Argo navis]

Something odd I found was that not all guys like a girl giving them head. I didn't realize this at all.


It may be cultural (in marocco guys don't like it, from a friend FPUA). Ignore the pleas (if they're not strong) and do him anyway if you want :) It may be shiness or inexperience and fear of the unknown.

I love it when you mutter (your pussy) between brackets though, as I love everything that defines a woman as a woman. Make your next experiences the way you want them, and know that sex gets better with more self confidence and confidence between mates AND that you can always point them somewhere if they really need to read the manual. :)