Moms

[YoungScorpio]

No this isn't about MILFs.

I'm here to talk about my relationship with my mother. She's a very submissive person. My mom is the type of person to take shit just for peace, definitely a lack of self-esteem.. Naturally that makes her keep everything in. There has to be some kind of outlet for her and it's passive-aggression.

She takes the negative feelings from work back home. Then she'll attempt to release that saved anger out on me. While she bitches about whatever I walk into my room to shut my door. This works her up even more so she continues to yell at nothing. I figure this is good because she's getting rid of the horrible emotions. Didn't realize what I'm doing is known as a freeze-out until I visited this forum. I absolutely refuse to listen to anyone using a yelling voice tone at me with a few exceptions.

What did you guys use back in your live at home days to deal with your angry mommy?

[CrimsonKing]

The Venusian Arts isn't JUST about picking up women, it's about shaping our lives in general to make us better men. The tools you learn from the Venusian Arts are valuable in all aspects of a person's life. Frame games, for instance, take place in every social interaction, not just in pick-up. So knowing how to maintain a strong frame

If we had an Off Topic section (which is in the works I hear), then this would go there. But since it's not, why cant we discuss improving other aspects of our lives, such as our family life? The Venusian Arts is about self-improvement, is it not?

Is a person going to consciously game their mom? No. BUT many of the tools a person has learned regarding social interaction can be used to help with this situation. Cocky-Funny responses, an unreactive attitude, and a maintaining a strong frame are things a person can do to deal with their angry mother. That's how I dealt with my angry parents. The same kinds of tactics could be used for dealing with a hard-ass boss, an asshole client, and so on.

[Showcase]

Game has helped me in every aspect of my life as well. You can use the tools we learn to help relationships other than just hot girls. Oh and I would just be unreactive to my mom, and make cocky funny remarks which seemed to aggrivate her even more, but it was funny. :)

[relics]

I would just be unreactive to my mom, and make cocky funny remarks which seemed to aggrivate her even more, but it was funny. :)


That made my mum throw stuff at me:(

[Showcase]

That made my mum throw stuff at me

haha I certainly had my fair share of things thrown at me as well...take it witha grain of salt...she still loves you :P

[AJNY]

Young Scorpio,

You should get your relationship with your mom handled.
Other women will notice how you relate to your mother,
so fixing this relationship will help your game. A healthy
family relationship is attractive to every single girl on this planet,
so it has everything to do with pickup.

You should talk to your mom about this at some point, when she is
in a good mood, not after she just got home from work.

Another thing I did to help relax my mom after work was give her back/neck
rubs. It works wonders. Make dinner once in awhile.

I don't know if it is just the two of you living together or if you have
other siblings and a father/bf living with you, but if you build
a "We're in this together/Us against the world" attitude with her
that can help.

Lastly, one thing to do is ask her, "Mom, if you could change
2 things about my behavior, what would they be?"
And then make a sincere effort to chnage those two things.
It can work wonders.

AJ

[relics]

AJ, that is so true and reminds me that once:

My mom kicked me out of the house on my birthday (Yeah I'm an asshole) and a month later my LTR at the time was giving me shit about how guys will eventually treat their girlfriends the same way they treat their mothers.

So true....