fatal attraction calls

[lifant]

I've been having a problem that several times now that I've either given a girl my number or she has gotten it when I've called or texted her- she then proceeds to call me repeatedly. I've had girls call for days and weeks after I met them. One girl called for more than a year!It puts me in a rather uncomfortable situation when I'm with a girl and receive calls from other girls. I've even lost some girls who I was interested in having more serious relationships with-because they thought I was "cheating" on them. I'm becoming a bit skittish about contacting any woman because it's becoming a cellular cockblock or test. I want to keep my options open once I've met a girl, but I don't want her to keep tabs on me.

[azazels_wolf]

Then you need to make it clear BEFORE you have sex that you are NOT looking for a committed, exclusive relationship. These girls were obviously expecting more from you than you were willing to give them. Don't lead them to false conclusions - be honest about your intentions.

[lifant]

These aren't girls I'm having sex with - I think I'm doing the seduction too well. I don't want to get their ASD going- and cool off the rapport. Is there a way to block caller id for the other person?

[azazels_wolf]

I think I'm doing the seduction too well.

If the girl is "overheated" and you're not interested, one thing you can do is to systematically and consistently DLV (demonstrate LOWER value) until she sees that you're not such a great catch. They'll usually cool off after that.

[Hooter]

I've been having a problem that several times now that I've either given a girl my number or she has gotten it when I've called or texted her- she then proceeds to call me repeatedly. I've had girls call for days and weeks after I met them. One girl called for more than a year!It puts me in a rather uncomfortable situation when I'm with a girl and receive calls from other girls. I've even lost some girls who I was interested in having more serious relationships with-because they thought I was "cheating" on them. I'm becoming a bit skittish about contacting any woman because it's becoming a cellular cockblock or test. I want to keep my options open once I've met a girl, but I don't want her to keep tabs on me.

If you don't want her to call, don't call or text her. And yes, you should be able to turn the caller ID off on your phone when you place a call or text, then turn it back on.

If you have some interest and then decide you don't but she starts the harassment...then tell her, and LJBF her. They have no problem doing that with us.

Or just ignore them but that's not really in the spirit of PUA. Unless you LJBF her and she keeps harassing you in a more aggressive way.

Further, receiving calls can be a total DHV, put can be a sticking point if it goes too far. In those cases, just turn off the ringer on your phone when with these women. If a girl thinks you are a player because of this, it's your fault for not controlling it. Turn off the phone when with her.


There are women I've finally had to just cut off. Any type of response would just get them going again, so cold turkey was the only solution.

[lifant]

Great advice. Thanks.