that was embarassing...

[ctgolfer21]

ok so I'm currently a senior in high school and have been reading a lot of the stuff on here which has been a huge help. Anyway, I finally used some of this stuff to get myself a pretty good looking girlfriend. I've been with her for a month and the other night we were hanging out and one thing just led to another. Now I go to boarding school so finding a place to be with a girl alone is pretty tough. We eneded up in the bathroom in my dorm basement (its a place where many people have had sex before). I got her clothes off and was doing everything a lot of you guys have talked about to get her really turned on. I am a virgin so when I was with her I was just like fuck it i really like this girl she really likes me so I'm gonna have sex. I didn't have a condom with me so I ran upstairs and got one, came down got the clothes off and was starting to slip the condom on when the worst possible thing happened...i couldn't get it up. I had a bone before but I guess I was so nervous and the break going upstairs to get a condom just killed me.

What I'm wondering is how I should handle this with her. I'm seeing her again tonight so should I bring it up and like explain that being in the bathroom and having to leave her to go upstairs just killed my mood? Or should I just completely ignore everything?

Also how should I handle this next time. I'm afraid that this experience might make it tough on me in the future. I mean I masturbate fine and never thought I'd have a problem doing this. Has anyone here had trouble getting it up before? How did things workout the next time?

Thanks for the help

[jaw_droppin]

ouch.. if she didnt seem upset when it happened i doubt its a big deal. to be honest i dont think that will happen again. you thought that would never happen to you but shit happens. next you will def get it up , well atleats you better to redeam yourself. if it happens twice idk what to tell you man you might not like chicks lol j/k. you should bring it up but dont be so serious just bring it up casual and make up an excuse cause if ur not talking about it, thats going to be running through both of your minds.

[shagnscoob]

haha dont mention it. I once had a girl try to put a condom on and she said "okay well maybe if you were HARDER..." and sounded pissed. I had the same problem with that girl like 3 other times too. It's happened other times with other girls.

It happens. Don't sweat it. Don't apologize, don't make excuses, don't think she's totally worried about it. If it happens again just go down on her or something. Just never act like you're ashamed of it.

[Hotspur]

First of all, have a condom with you. The break didn't help.

Second, practice. Put condoms on when you're by yourself a couple of times a week until you're comfortable doing it and it's effortless.

Third, this happens to a lot of guys their first time.

[BangBang]

Also how should I handle this next time. I'm afraid that this experience might make it tough on me in the future. I mean I masturbate fine and never thought I'd have a problem doing this.

It happens. Sometimes if your hard for a long time during foreplay, your body sends a signal that nothings going to happen so you lose it. Sometimes its nerves, I wouldn't sweat it and I wouldn't bring it up unless she does. If she does, you were nervous because you like her, whatever, it doesn't matter what you say, just have sex with her and she'll soon forget it even happened.

In the future, if it happens again, you can always do something else for a while to get it back up. Kiss her, go down on her, whatever. Anything that keeps her going that buys you time to work it out.

No worries.

[Cro]

A lot of guys have posted the exact same question, it's all good. It's normal to be nervous during your first time. Thoughts of inadequacy pop into your mind, and before you know it, the little john is clinically deceased.

But this is why you need to get good at oral, great foreplay, women will love you if you are good at it....honestly. Just buy time by going down on her. I always make sure the girl knows that her orgasm comes first. I whisper that into her ear as I pleasure her, after some great orgasms, she usually begs me to lay her. If I ever was limp, hearing that fixes the problem!

Read up on great oral techniques.

[Killer]

I don't even do oral, never have but girls do love it. Read up on finding the G-spot with your fingers and how to stimulate it.
I personally have had the same problem on more than one occasion. Its nervousness. But if i get my fingers in there and get her moaning, its a BIG turn on for me and problem is solved. Works when you are really drunk and having whiskey dick too (sometimes). And like Cro said, when she gets excited she may just beg "put it in" or "fuck me now!" And remember to enjoy what you are doing, not what its escalating to. Thinking about banging is what made you lose your ramrod.