LifeWithBG
01-11-2007, 12:27 AM
But it's 9.30 am. Just came back from a girl, need to sleep. We'll speak later.
Here's the FR of how I met the girl last Friday. Last night I f-closed her, but there was not a lot of technique involved.. I think she's falling in love :rolleyes:
FR++: "You are my victim"
Okay! I typed the Dutch version of this field report when the girl was still in my bed (I <3 this community, haha).. She's gone now, so now its time for the English version!
After a rather lame night yesterday, I went out with expectations below the experience of yesterday. I basically decided to go because some friends were going, and we hadn't been in a club together since forever. So we get there, club's rather quiet, but it soon fills up a bit. David Bouwie and I walk around to let friends or acquaintances know we're there; it gives them an option to say hi (after reading up on Awareness Radius I decided to stop "looking too see if there are acquaintances" -- keep it small!).
We run into some mates and now we're on the dancefloor... Six guys. Inside my head there's a voice that goes "great, if I wanted a cockfarm like this I would've organized a lair meeting" ;-) But then I see a girl pointing at me, she's standing with a guy and a girl, both some years older than me. I wasn't sure if they were pointing at me, but after half a sec I was and I wondered if it had anything to do with this magazine I was in (article about the community - including my picture). Apparently not. She approaches.
Girl: "You are my victim."
BG: "I'm your victim?"
Girl: "Yes, I have chosen you to be my victim."
BG: "So I guess you're no fun then?"
Girl: "Well, I could also say "the lucky one"."
BG: "Haha, maybe later. We'll see if I'll be a victim."
Girl starts talking. She asks me how old I am, I answer 21, she acts shocked because she's older than me. I tell her that I already knew, and asked her if the few extra circles around the sun were fun. Later on:
Girl: "Okay, guess how old I am."
BG: "Hahahaha, nooooooooooooo." ;-)
Girl starts laughing and tells me she's 8 years older than I.
The moment she approached me she entered my personal space, so I knew it was on, and by now, we were only getting closer and closer. Meanwhile, I isolate us from her friends and also from my friends. Now we're standing on the dancefloor chatting and I realize I could kiss her, but I don't yet.. Too early. Would be hard to pull her if I kiss too soon; besides, I was still figuring out if she was worth it or not.
Then it gets blurry.. because I was drunk. She told me she makes music, I inquired. She has a myspace and I asked her if she could write it down for me. She said yes, but didn't get anything from her purse, so I asked her if she was carrying a pen and paper. Nope. I told her we'd see about it later (didn't feel like grabbing my phone for that BS). We talked for another minute, then she had to go to the toilet, and I told her I'd see her later. I needed to drop that line, because she appeared to be uncertain of the impression she was making on me. If her face looks like she's "asking" for some confirmation and she's been good, then "I'll see you later" + EC + kino and then immediately turning around to walk off while you slowly break kino = gold (you could do this with holding her hand or letting your hand slip past her shoulder or hips or whatever).
I went back to my mates. Meanwhile a friend of mine was getting it on with a girl (apparently nothing happened though, she was in a 4 year LTR, but if his game was not so BAFC he would've been able to close her). My mates all had beer so I went up to the bar to get a beer. The girl walked up and stood beside me and said "only one beer?"
BG: "Yeah. If you want some water though, I'm the one."
We talk some more about her job (she goes to live shows for her job) and she said she had to take someone with her in 2 weeks to a particular concert, but she didn't have anyone yet. I tell her that I work in a bar in the evenings, so I'm not sure if I'd be able. She says that I should give her my email and she'll email when it is. I tell her that we'll just see later that evening (subtle communication: "I'm not done with you yet")
We went to the dancefloor (near our social groups) and did some dancing. I move her away from the groups again and we talk for a minute or two, but when we run out of material for that topic, we're left standing close, looking into each others eyes...
*kiss-close*
I was teasing her (always tease, make her go crazy for you (it's so funny when girls want to rip off your clothes)), she was feeling me up, I figured I could start checking out more of her body too. We escalate a little bit, but then I break it. She goes to the toilet. She comes back, I go to the toilet. I come back and find my friends. It's my round so I go to get them some beer. After the make-out session, I'm a little bit in a sexual state and girls noticed this (Gunwitch makes great points with his method). I was at the bar and this girl comes up next to me. I approached her a long time ago, because I was afraid she would cockblock my mates (read here (http://lifewithbg.blogspot.com/2006/04/fr-closed-2-hb9s-featuring-moonwalker.html)). We said hi, and had a chat for the next few weeks or months after that, but then she decided to ignore me. Now she approached me. I told her that I wasn't going to let her order first (semi-jokingly) and got my order, then left. No respect for her.
So I was at my friends, the girl I made out with comes up again. I isolate her to the side and push her against the wall. More make out. Meanwhile I figure out where she lives (really close to me), and then I say "I bet you're one of those girls who's just trying to catch a ride". It doesn't sound 'cool', but it worked. She saw it more as a neg than that she noticed the possible DLV effect and she said that she was there on her bike. Bingo! That's what I was trying to figure out with that line. Logistics fixed! By the way, I have no idea for how long we made out in that club in total, I suspect half an hour, could be double or triple that though. She went off to the toilet again.
I find my mates and suggest that we roll a joint and smoke up (it's allowed in that club). This we do. The girl pops up again. I tell my friends that if they can't find me, I'm probably gone. So we make out a little bit more and she asks me if I want to go.
BG: "I still have my beer.."
Girl: "We can stay too. It's okay if we stay or go."
I finish my beer.. slowly. (always tease ;-))
We leave. She says bye to her friends; they're no obstacle. I can't find my friends so I text David Bouwie later. So we get to my place, make out some more, get into my bed, make out more, then she says "We can't have sex tonight". I just gave her a blank look, she apologizes and says she knows that's not what I wanted to here. I ignore it and continue making out. Whatever her objection was, I'd find out soon.
I knew it wasn't LMR and it would be a dumb-ass moment to do a shit-test (cuz she was really turned on) but you never know. Apparently though, she was going to have her period soon, so whatever. More make-out and a BJ.
Was a nice evening.
I should've sent her home earlier the next day. We talked for a few hours after she got up, and that was stupid. I don't want ANYTHING more than just sex, yanno, an ONS and another ONS with her every once in a while, but not even a fuck buddy relationship. I kinda fucked my chances for that, but I'll just hold her off for a bit to let her cool down.
Oh yeah, before she left she finally gave me that link to her myspace and HER email. She didn't get any of my details, and when she gave her shit she told me to just see what I'd do with it.
And that's what I'll do. Not sure if this girl's cool enough.. She was agile though.. Hmm.. I think I should fuck her before I finalize my opinion ;-)
I don't know. Now I feel ill, because I had a cold and because of the ONS I had like 2 hours of sleep or so. Bleh. Sometimes I hate my penis ;-)
Here's the FR of how I met the girl last Friday. Last night I f-closed her, but there was not a lot of technique involved.. I think she's falling in love :rolleyes:
FR++: "You are my victim"
Okay! I typed the Dutch version of this field report when the girl was still in my bed (I <3 this community, haha).. She's gone now, so now its time for the English version!
After a rather lame night yesterday, I went out with expectations below the experience of yesterday. I basically decided to go because some friends were going, and we hadn't been in a club together since forever. So we get there, club's rather quiet, but it soon fills up a bit. David Bouwie and I walk around to let friends or acquaintances know we're there; it gives them an option to say hi (after reading up on Awareness Radius I decided to stop "looking too see if there are acquaintances" -- keep it small!).
We run into some mates and now we're on the dancefloor... Six guys. Inside my head there's a voice that goes "great, if I wanted a cockfarm like this I would've organized a lair meeting" ;-) But then I see a girl pointing at me, she's standing with a guy and a girl, both some years older than me. I wasn't sure if they were pointing at me, but after half a sec I was and I wondered if it had anything to do with this magazine I was in (article about the community - including my picture). Apparently not. She approaches.
Girl: "You are my victim."
BG: "I'm your victim?"
Girl: "Yes, I have chosen you to be my victim."
BG: "So I guess you're no fun then?"
Girl: "Well, I could also say "the lucky one"."
BG: "Haha, maybe later. We'll see if I'll be a victim."
Girl starts talking. She asks me how old I am, I answer 21, she acts shocked because she's older than me. I tell her that I already knew, and asked her if the few extra circles around the sun were fun. Later on:
Girl: "Okay, guess how old I am."
BG: "Hahahaha, nooooooooooooo." ;-)
Girl starts laughing and tells me she's 8 years older than I.
The moment she approached me she entered my personal space, so I knew it was on, and by now, we were only getting closer and closer. Meanwhile, I isolate us from her friends and also from my friends. Now we're standing on the dancefloor chatting and I realize I could kiss her, but I don't yet.. Too early. Would be hard to pull her if I kiss too soon; besides, I was still figuring out if she was worth it or not.
Then it gets blurry.. because I was drunk. She told me she makes music, I inquired. She has a myspace and I asked her if she could write it down for me. She said yes, but didn't get anything from her purse, so I asked her if she was carrying a pen and paper. Nope. I told her we'd see about it later (didn't feel like grabbing my phone for that BS). We talked for another minute, then she had to go to the toilet, and I told her I'd see her later. I needed to drop that line, because she appeared to be uncertain of the impression she was making on me. If her face looks like she's "asking" for some confirmation and she's been good, then "I'll see you later" + EC + kino and then immediately turning around to walk off while you slowly break kino = gold (you could do this with holding her hand or letting your hand slip past her shoulder or hips or whatever).
I went back to my mates. Meanwhile a friend of mine was getting it on with a girl (apparently nothing happened though, she was in a 4 year LTR, but if his game was not so BAFC he would've been able to close her). My mates all had beer so I went up to the bar to get a beer. The girl walked up and stood beside me and said "only one beer?"
BG: "Yeah. If you want some water though, I'm the one."
We talk some more about her job (she goes to live shows for her job) and she said she had to take someone with her in 2 weeks to a particular concert, but she didn't have anyone yet. I tell her that I work in a bar in the evenings, so I'm not sure if I'd be able. She says that I should give her my email and she'll email when it is. I tell her that we'll just see later that evening (subtle communication: "I'm not done with you yet")
We went to the dancefloor (near our social groups) and did some dancing. I move her away from the groups again and we talk for a minute or two, but when we run out of material for that topic, we're left standing close, looking into each others eyes...
*kiss-close*
I was teasing her (always tease, make her go crazy for you (it's so funny when girls want to rip off your clothes)), she was feeling me up, I figured I could start checking out more of her body too. We escalate a little bit, but then I break it. She goes to the toilet. She comes back, I go to the toilet. I come back and find my friends. It's my round so I go to get them some beer. After the make-out session, I'm a little bit in a sexual state and girls noticed this (Gunwitch makes great points with his method). I was at the bar and this girl comes up next to me. I approached her a long time ago, because I was afraid she would cockblock my mates (read here (http://lifewithbg.blogspot.com/2006/04/fr-closed-2-hb9s-featuring-moonwalker.html)). We said hi, and had a chat for the next few weeks or months after that, but then she decided to ignore me. Now she approached me. I told her that I wasn't going to let her order first (semi-jokingly) and got my order, then left. No respect for her.
So I was at my friends, the girl I made out with comes up again. I isolate her to the side and push her against the wall. More make out. Meanwhile I figure out where she lives (really close to me), and then I say "I bet you're one of those girls who's just trying to catch a ride". It doesn't sound 'cool', but it worked. She saw it more as a neg than that she noticed the possible DLV effect and she said that she was there on her bike. Bingo! That's what I was trying to figure out with that line. Logistics fixed! By the way, I have no idea for how long we made out in that club in total, I suspect half an hour, could be double or triple that though. She went off to the toilet again.
I find my mates and suggest that we roll a joint and smoke up (it's allowed in that club). This we do. The girl pops up again. I tell my friends that if they can't find me, I'm probably gone. So we make out a little bit more and she asks me if I want to go.
BG: "I still have my beer.."
Girl: "We can stay too. It's okay if we stay or go."
I finish my beer.. slowly. (always tease ;-))
We leave. She says bye to her friends; they're no obstacle. I can't find my friends so I text David Bouwie later. So we get to my place, make out some more, get into my bed, make out more, then she says "We can't have sex tonight". I just gave her a blank look, she apologizes and says she knows that's not what I wanted to here. I ignore it and continue making out. Whatever her objection was, I'd find out soon.
I knew it wasn't LMR and it would be a dumb-ass moment to do a shit-test (cuz she was really turned on) but you never know. Apparently though, she was going to have her period soon, so whatever. More make-out and a BJ.
Was a nice evening.
I should've sent her home earlier the next day. We talked for a few hours after she got up, and that was stupid. I don't want ANYTHING more than just sex, yanno, an ONS and another ONS with her every once in a while, but not even a fuck buddy relationship. I kinda fucked my chances for that, but I'll just hold her off for a bit to let her cool down.
Oh yeah, before she left she finally gave me that link to her myspace and HER email. She didn't get any of my details, and when she gave her shit she told me to just see what I'd do with it.
And that's what I'll do. Not sure if this girl's cool enough.. She was agile though.. Hmm.. I think I should fuck her before I finalize my opinion ;-)
I don't know. Now I feel ill, because I had a cold and because of the ONS I had like 2 hours of sleep or so. Bleh. Sometimes I hate my penis ;-)