Joso
04-15-2007, 01:39 PM
Hello, first post on the new mystery forums and i'm looking for some advice. typically whenever someone is posting about something of this sort it's dealing with one-itis and it's futile but there's some interesting drama that i'd like a second or third opinion on and maybe the community can help!
so, i had met this girl let's call her Big eye's, right away i knew she had something in those eye's that i wanted to get to know. and luckily enough, my normal lab partner for the day had gone missing, and she was a fill in for the section. so bam. I'm in.
In the course of the Lab, i email and # closed with plans on meeting afterwards for coffee. and generally we just fluffed and fooled around during the lab playfully (in a physics lab we felt like we were 6, it was great)
anydays, day 2: we meet up for coffee one or two days after the initial lab, and had a great connection, we felt like we could relate to alot of what we felt. she had told me she just came back from Honduras and it was a depressing trip for her, because she had broken up with her LTR of 5 years! :eek:
skip forward st patty's
she had thought she was planning on going to toronto for a concert, and said she couldn't make it to the pub we were going to, however at the last minute she gave me a phone call, and was at the pub in line with us maybe 30 minutes after she said she had bailed on the concert. so i'm thinking wow, awesome tonight's going to be alot of fun. We got extremely hammered (no i hadn't planned running game or any of the sort, i just wanted to have a great time, ironically the other couple of girls i happened to wait in line with i number close later on the evening.)
during the night, we're playfully singing along to whatever the band is playing and just having a great time of it. however i told her a had a special surprise for her (total afc note incoming) and said, i thought she was a really special girl, besides being cute, she had alot going for her. and she had said she thought the same about me. (essentially i thought i was the happiest man on the planet after this)
now, we head back to her place and subsequently fool around, granted, it wasn't a full close i wasn't particularly pressuring her to do so, and remember hearing, this is going so quickly, while responding "i understand" and toned it down a little.
So, here goes the crossroads from thinking i may have a LTR of a genuine 8. with a great personality vibe, and solid energy. I was really into this girl.
however, one night one of her close friends had asked to go out with me to the pub and have a drink, i didn't think much about it and said sure, i'd come along for her to have some company. long story short, i end up in her dorm and had to walk away from the fclose. (i felt guilty)
next afc move done by me here. i'm a genuinely honest guy, and i talked with the friend we'll call her widesmile. and had discussed how i'm trying to work a relationship with wide eye's and i feel a little guilty that we had fooled around. so obviously my intuition was i'll tell her.
"i gotta mention something. and i know we aren't dating and i know i don't owe you anything i just want to be honest and upfront with you. because well eventually i do hope something will come out of this friendship. but, the other day after a few drinks alaina and i hooked up. sure this'll probably make things worse instead of better, but i figure it's probably better to hear it from me now, rather then someone else later"
her original response: "lol it's okay"
and i'm thinking to myself....aww fuck that's no good. (when a women says its okay, it really isn't)
a few hours later: "lol honestly it was ur choice and since i told me the story of u i really wasnt surprised...plus im kinda into someone else at the moment"
since then, i've been avoiding speaking with her, i'm looking to maybe rework the frame. or as sad as it may be, i figure maybe time to eject.
so guys, i'd like to hear your thoughts and comments about my situation.
thanks
-Joso
so, i had met this girl let's call her Big eye's, right away i knew she had something in those eye's that i wanted to get to know. and luckily enough, my normal lab partner for the day had gone missing, and she was a fill in for the section. so bam. I'm in.
In the course of the Lab, i email and # closed with plans on meeting afterwards for coffee. and generally we just fluffed and fooled around during the lab playfully (in a physics lab we felt like we were 6, it was great)
anydays, day 2: we meet up for coffee one or two days after the initial lab, and had a great connection, we felt like we could relate to alot of what we felt. she had told me she just came back from Honduras and it was a depressing trip for her, because she had broken up with her LTR of 5 years! :eek:
skip forward st patty's
she had thought she was planning on going to toronto for a concert, and said she couldn't make it to the pub we were going to, however at the last minute she gave me a phone call, and was at the pub in line with us maybe 30 minutes after she said she had bailed on the concert. so i'm thinking wow, awesome tonight's going to be alot of fun. We got extremely hammered (no i hadn't planned running game or any of the sort, i just wanted to have a great time, ironically the other couple of girls i happened to wait in line with i number close later on the evening.)
during the night, we're playfully singing along to whatever the band is playing and just having a great time of it. however i told her a had a special surprise for her (total afc note incoming) and said, i thought she was a really special girl, besides being cute, she had alot going for her. and she had said she thought the same about me. (essentially i thought i was the happiest man on the planet after this)
now, we head back to her place and subsequently fool around, granted, it wasn't a full close i wasn't particularly pressuring her to do so, and remember hearing, this is going so quickly, while responding "i understand" and toned it down a little.
So, here goes the crossroads from thinking i may have a LTR of a genuine 8. with a great personality vibe, and solid energy. I was really into this girl.
however, one night one of her close friends had asked to go out with me to the pub and have a drink, i didn't think much about it and said sure, i'd come along for her to have some company. long story short, i end up in her dorm and had to walk away from the fclose. (i felt guilty)
next afc move done by me here. i'm a genuinely honest guy, and i talked with the friend we'll call her widesmile. and had discussed how i'm trying to work a relationship with wide eye's and i feel a little guilty that we had fooled around. so obviously my intuition was i'll tell her.
"i gotta mention something. and i know we aren't dating and i know i don't owe you anything i just want to be honest and upfront with you. because well eventually i do hope something will come out of this friendship. but, the other day after a few drinks alaina and i hooked up. sure this'll probably make things worse instead of better, but i figure it's probably better to hear it from me now, rather then someone else later"
her original response: "lol it's okay"
and i'm thinking to myself....aww fuck that's no good. (when a women says its okay, it really isn't)
a few hours later: "lol honestly it was ur choice and since i told me the story of u i really wasnt surprised...plus im kinda into someone else at the moment"
since then, i've been avoiding speaking with her, i'm looking to maybe rework the frame. or as sad as it may be, i figure maybe time to eject.
so guys, i'd like to hear your thoughts and comments about my situation.
thanks
-Joso