It never ceases to amaze me how, in life, the majority of people want something for nothing and then complain or blame outside influences when they don’t get it or it just doesn’t happen. Then they either settle for mediocre results or just give up completely. The road to success can take time and includes many pitfalls. Only a select few rise above the rest and make it to the end... The ones that work at it. I will always remember Michael Jordan’s last official championship game playing for the Chicago Bulls. They were one point down I think, with the clock ticking, time was running out...12 seconds counting... MJ, with the ball, welcomes the defender following directly in front of him then expertly and unexpectedly changes direction, crossing the ball over to the side leaving him in the dust, the defender almost falling over …8 seconds left… only to spectacularly and gracefully score a jump shot that he had probably practiced a couple thousand times to perfection. The Bulls win. Many other good players would have missed that shot, being under so much pressure and knowing what it would mean on many different levels. But MJ was one cat that had SERIOUSLY put the effort in and could, when push came to shove, really perform and execute when required (I’m sure some of you, even if you’re not basketball fans, know who MJ is and feel what I’m saying. Maybe you remember that game too, youtube it). You have to really put the effort in… pickup is no exception. Follow the steps below and GET READY FOR SUCCESS. Btw, I have applied all of them at one point or another and am still applying them today. They have worked for me and I hope they work for you or at least point you in the right direction to success.

1. Set goals. Have a game plan.
2. Ok, now set realistic goals.
3. Get out of the house at least 4x a week.
4. Speak to people, preferably women, all the time. Be friendly and exude warmth, (not in a wishy-washy way but allowing the Model to serve you-get a stack) practice your delivery…be an artist. Go to clubs, bars, museums...where ever there are women, whatever your taste is. Give yourself a target, say 10-12 sets a day and get good at it.
5. Have a role model and learn from them. Do whatever it takes. If this means doing a boot camp or a 1on1 then just do it.
6. Make notes or keep a journal of you progress, high and lows. Learn from it. If something isn’t working, understand why and move on.
7. Get a competent wing. Not just anybody. Choose carefully. You should complement each other.
8. Keep fit and eat good food. Look after yourself. Girls always notice this in my experience.
9. Have passions and interest outside of GAME. Whatever it is. Don’t be a boring person. Be someone with a love for life (not just pussy). What ever it is that tickles your fancy, be it art, music, football, baking cakes, helping the old lady across the street every Sunday morning lol.
10. Enjoy it because it IS fun.

I love doing stuff all over the city. Whether it’s looking at really tall ships, participating in a massive pillow fight, exploring a wine tasting festival, or smoking a J at a hippie drum circle, I’m pretty much excited to do anything that involves a new experience. So if it’s something I’ve never done or seen before, or if it’s just something I know very little about, I’ll grab some friends (mostly girls) and go check it out. This is a very powerful way to live your life as it always means that you have new stories to tell, new pictures to show off, and makes for an enticing lifestyle to a woman.

What blows me away is that so few PUAs take advantage of the unique and interesting events that are happening all over their city at any given time, but especially during the summer or tourist months! If you check out any local news website or newspaper in your city you will find stuff going on all around you throughout the year that will make for very interesting activities for you and the women you meet in the field do to check out together. I keep my calendar in my phone loaded with every event or activity that I think would be a blast to go and experience (thank you Stylelife). This way, when I meet a girl and start seeding a day-2, I can just remember what’s coming up on my calendar and very quickly decide which event she would be most likely to join me for. And by having a whole bunch of different things to choose from, I can tailor the details of the activity a little depending on her personality.

Is she the well-behaved, “good clean fun” type? Get ice cream and go walk around at that fair that’s coming up. Is she the trouble-making type? Tell her to bring some rum for your slushies from a 7-eleven and go drunkenly check out the new monkey exhibit at the zoo (personally though, I love the llamas, they’re adorable). She’s never had her palm read? Well take her to that psychic expo that’s happening at the convention centre. There are so many opportunities in your city for adventure, you just need to search for them! Even if the event doesn’t sound like a fun place for a date, all it takes is a little creativity and calibration and you can make it the most interesting date she’s ever had!

These kinds of events make for an awesome day-2 because they are fun and require very little investment (she doesn’t have to get dressed up, she can bring her friends if she wants, it’s in a safe public place, etc). They’re more fun than the typical coffee or movie date, and best of all? They’re usually cheap or even free!

And hell, even if you couldn’t bring anyone with you, go there and meet some new people. These kinds of events are AWESOME opportunities to practice your Day Game and are even better than malls since most people aren’t busily trying to get all their errands done.

The important thing about these kinds of light-hearted Day-2s is the the vibe you have while out adventuring. This is especially important if it just happens to be you and your target. I love the word adventure because I find it feels like that should be the way she describes it to her friends the next day. In fact, I’ll even say “Let’s go have an adventure” somewhere along the line while getting the day started. A lot of women, particularly younger women who are influenced by what their peers think, and especially women who are part of any type of social “scene” can sometimes reject an idea for an adventure because they are afraid of what their peer group will think of the fact that they participating in such an activity. But with the frame of “let’s just go experience something new and be adventurous” that whole problem pretty much just goes away. It’s not about the activity itself, it’s about the private little adventure that the two of you have together, even if that just means laughing at how silly or bizarre the event you’re at really is.

I really saw the importance of this first-hand the first time I brought a girl to the Much Music Video Awards (which is like a big concert thing they do right in the streets) here in Toronto. The lovely young lady friend of mine who also happened to love the goth scene and it was obvious right from the start that she wasn’t sure if this was a “cool” event to be at. The major performers were Mily Cyrus, Justin Beiber, and Katy Perry, so we were joking heavily about avoiding being trampled by rioting 14-year-olds trying to get to the stage. But it was something that happens every year in the city and neither of us had seen it so I had suggested we go check it out just to enjoy the sheer ridiculousness of it all.

What I found most interesting is that any time she became self-conscious at how silly the whole event really was she would immediately look to me to gauge my current emotional state. See, one of the reasons that women eye-code each other is to balance their emotional state. One will look to the other to see what she’s currently feeling, and then her emotional state will shift accordingly. So every now and then out of the corner of my eye, I’d notice this girl (no doubt unsure of whether or not she should be enjoying herself) turn to me with a straight face wondering whether I was having fun. Then when she saw that I was laughing and smiling she would light right up and suddenly be having just as much fun as I was. The difference was so obvious that I had a lot of difficulty pretending I didn’t notice it at first.

This was a kind of switch for me because the women I bring out on my adventures are usually more excited about what we’re getting up to than I am. And whenever something new happens, I have to explore it a little. So if she looked at me and I wasn’t smiling, she wouldn’t smile either. And then once I started smiling again, so would she. It was the Flame (as described in Revelations) at work: she was feeling the positive emotions that were caused by radiating warmth and fun and excitement through my vibe.

The moral of the story here, I think, is that a) if you don’t have a calendar full of events and new experiences to have, you need to get one, and b) even if an event sounds silly, the right attitude and an imaginative reframe can make it into a fun adventure. Always remember that enthusiasm is contagious. Smile and laugh and enjoy everything you see and your girls should do the same.

Happy sarging,

Prophet

Here are a few points that have really stood the test of time and more importantly work when it comes to winging. I have had the pleasure of being in the company of some great wings who have, on more than one occasion, helped me get the girl. The following points are highly recommended and have all been applied by myself and my wings.

1. Be good friends first.
2. Have things in common outside of game.
3. But also have differences that contrast each other in a positive way. This makes for great accomplishment intros.
4. Enjoy each others company when in-field…let everyone see two cool cats having a great time.
5. Understand and apply the wingman rule of etiquette, i.e., your wingman comes first. PERIOD.
6. Really, genuinely help your wing get the girl…even if it means sticking with the not so good-looking friend, engaging her with fun games and interesting stories whilst your wing isolates his target.
7. Encourage each other…don’t hate. If one of you has a higher skill level, help your buddy get up to speed.
8. Know each others manoeuvres along with some variations to avoid clashing in-field.
9. Work as a team.
10. When you get good enough, actually game for your wing. Enter a venue or go to a social gathering…and the objective is to get a girl for your wing, he deserves it.

Happy Holidays everyone!

In the spirit of giving I thought I'd share with you an easy little kino gambit that you can quickly use to escalate to a kiss-close. It builds sexual tension and uses triangular gazing to get her thinking about the kiss. It also gives you a number of different directions to stack or multi-thread if you don't get the compliance you need right away.

Triangular Gazing, if you've never heard of it, is when a woman will look from one eye to the next, then at your lips, then back to an eye, and so on and so on. When a woman is thinking about kissing you, her gaze moves in a triangle in this way. But when we have a woman emotionally engaged, we can get her to start doing triangular gazing by doing it ourselves. So as we look from eye to eye to lips and repeat, she will begin to do the same. And as a result, she will start to think about kissing you!

I've mostly been using this routine when I'm isolated, which means Ive seen some IOIs and have qualified her a bit. By this time I have usually tested compliance with some hand-holding, hugging etc. You can lead into this routine through any routine or gambit that involves talking about any of senses. Food, music, human experience, and art are all great topics to launch into this routine from:

The 9 Senses Kiss Gambit

Prophet: "Most people think humans have only 5 senses. The reality is that we have 9. We have hearing [point to your ears]… sight [look into her eyes]… taste… [point to your lips, this can queue triangular gazing]… touch [hold her hands]… and smell [if you can do it without being creepy, smell her hair - if not, just joke that you won't try to smell her]. But we can also have parts of our body that sense balance and acceleration, temperature and pressure, pain, and what is called the Kinesthetic sense… which is being AWARE of the parts of your body… and where they physically are."

Start the first bit of the next line a little dramatically, to build some tension (as she'll think you're going to try to something "smooth") then the last bit playfully to release:

Prophet: "For instance… if you close your eyes… [playfully] can you touch... your finger to your nose?"

Get her to do it, if she can't do it, neg her for being drunk and tell her she would totally end up in the drunk tank with all the other weirdos.

Do you have enough compliance?

If you haven't sensed any resistance with the hand-holding and smell, or if you've noticed her doing triangular gazing, you can go for the kiss (below). If not, you need to build more kino compliance, so you can stack into something a little lighter, like the Body Back Writing Game:

Prophet: "It's that sense... that allows you to find the right spot on your body with your finger... It's also why it's impossible to tickle yourself. A tickle comes from an unexpected touch in sensitive places. If you already know... that you are going to touch yourself... there is no tickle. Did you every play the back-writing game back in grade school? Where you draw letters on your friend's back and they guess what word you wrote?"

then play body back writing and calibrate from there.

Escalate to the kiss

If you haven't sensed any resistence in the handholding, and she doing the triangular gasing, continue doing the same leaning in very slowly as you talk. If you notice that she pulls back while you do this (and IOD) then she may not be ready to kiss pull back as well and finish the routine and then either stack into something that either builds value, like a DHV routine, or compliance, like the Body Back Writing bit above.

Prophet: "It's that sense that allows you to find the right spot on your body with your finger. It's also what ALLOWS.... US... TO KISS…[look at her lips as you say this] you actually cant see your lips... and as you get... closer to a person [lean in a bit if she's also doing triangular gazing]... you cant even see their lips… so you have to rely on your other senses…[if she hasn't pulled away, or is leaning in closer as you lean in, kiss her either on the cheek or the lips, depending on how much compliance you get] …just to show the most fundamental form of affection. Isn't that fascinating?"

Invisible threads

You'll note that there's a lot of sexual undertones throughout the whole gambit, particularly suggestive phrases that sound like I'm talking about her touching herself. Every now and then someone will call attention to this, sometimes positively, and sometimes as a shit test. If they bite on those innuendoes and it seems like a shit test, or if they just seem them getting a look on their face that you can misinterpret as such, you can bust on them with something like:

Prophet: "Oh my god get your mind out of the gutter. I'm totally not in that headspace right now."

Or, if they bite on it in a positive way, such as by talking about touching themselves, you can multi-thread into something a little more sexual, like the Masturbate in the Shower gambit or something like:

Prophet: "Ok Cosmo survey time… have any of you guys ever faked an orgasm? Why?"

You can always come back to this thread (and ultimately the kiss) after you have built more sexual tension.

Merry Christmas Sarging!

Prophet

I was chilling with a beautiful young woman at a party and after a series of strange situations (including her mooning our friends from a van cab) we ended up back at her place for a “smoke”. As she ran to her bedroom to grab her rolling products she “casually” pointed to some artwork of hers that she had left on the table and told me that I could look through them if I wanted. I took the hint that she wanted me to look at her art – and like it – and so I started looking through some of her paintings for things to cold read her on.

For anyone who hasn’t already realized this, making deep cold reads based on any form of artistic expression (paintings, drawings, poems, songs, short stories, etc) you target creates is an incredible way to build connection. If you “get” someone’s art, it’s pretty much assumed that you “get” the artist as well. And if you’ve ever heard a woman say something like “he just doesn’t understand me!” then you know how important this kind of connection can be.

So I ran my cold reads (which were actually “hot reads”) while we shared a joint and then things escalated very quickly from there. The rest of that story is pretty much the same standard stuff you’ve heard before, so I’ll save you the repetition. But the next day I got to thinking about how the night had played itself out, and it occurred to me that the tipping point – the moment in the set that started the rest of the night’s activities in motion – was when she mentioned a sketch she had drawn.

Seeing a perfect opportunity to build some commonalities, we talked about her sketch and then shifted over to how I used to really enjoy painting and sketching back before I really got into writing, and about how I love the works of Dali and Bosch. I was considering going into a little about Da Vinci’s technical genius as an artist and an inventor, but it quickly became apparent that she knew little about art appreciation and so I cut the thread and we talked about art as a means of self-expression instead.

It was during this little discussion that comfort and kino and compliance were built at lightning speed. Why? Because I had found a commonality that was extremely important to her and I had the calibration necessary know how to build upon that.

This is something that is incredibly important when building comfort and creating a connection. You need to be able to build commonalities based on things that are important to your target. You need to share at least some interests, desires, fears, and passions. You don’t have to have EVERYTHING in common (in fact, it will be too much to believe if you do), but you need to discover several items that are important to both of you.

The trick here is to develop the calibration necessary to recognize the hot-button interests in her life. Rather than just arbitrarily liking a few things that SEEM like they might be important to her, you should learn to appreciate the big things genuinely.

How do you find those things out?

That’s what deeper qualifying questions are for. That’s what COMFORT IS FOR. When you are having a actual conversation with a girl in C1-C3 (although sometimes comfort routines like the Cube will give you some good information) they will stress or call attention to the things in her life that are important to her. If you don’t know how to have a conversation in C1-C3 you should also check out my article on How To Talk To Girls. Sometimes your target will call attention to these things intentionally, as she will want to talk about them naturally, or sometimes she will just put more emphasis on a specific subject unconsciously. She will talk faster or more excitedly about things she is passionate about. She will show them off a bit or go out of her way to make sure you see or understand it. She will return to a topic of importance to her if she wants to make sure you know about it. When she does any of these with a topic, it is probably a good subject to build commonalities on. Sometimes women will also do the polar opposite and be nervous or dismissive about things they are REALLY passionate about (sometimes due to self-consciousness or fear of criticism). If you show a bit of genuine interest in these subjects, they should open right up about them.

The easiest way to start building on these commonalities is to demonstrate that you know something about whatever topic/hobby/passionate/recreational activity she is passionate about. You don’t have to lecture her or show off just how much you know, just have a conversation that demonstrates your knowledge. Then, after you’ve quickly shown that you know at least a little about what you’re talking about, you can appreciate her for being into that topic. If she knows you understand her world, your appreciation of it will mean that much more to her (more on this in a bit).

One thing to note: While it can be sometimes good to “fake it ’till you make it” in the game, pretending to know about or be involved in something that you know next to nothing about will shoot you in the foot when building a connection. If this is something she’s passionate about and she suspects that you are lying or exaggerating about something that she cares about, it will become obvious to her very quickly that you are just trying to impress her. This has a two-fold negative effect: 1) it hints that you are insecure and “trying too hard”, which lowers your value, and 2) it comes across as fake and dishonest, which lowers her trust in you. And why would she want to sleep with a man – let alone start a relationship with one – who sounds like he’s just trying to say whatever he can to get into her pants? On the other hand, if it’s something that you have always been curious about, but have never really gotten into or know very little about, then just be honest about this. As long as you are coming from a genuine place of interest, this is a great thread to ask questions about appreciate her for doing something you’ve wanted to do or learn about, and to create a sense of mutual passion for the subject.

You can also build commonalities by relating something that she is passionate about to something that you are passionate about. For instance, a while ago I was closing a beautiful red-head at a bar and she had told me early on that she was finishing her Masters in something journalism-related. When she brought it up again in comfort I knew that this was something she was TRYING to talk about with me, so I switched the thread and we talked about her passion for writing and conveying information. From here, it was easy to explain how, as an app developer, I have to come up with new and more innovative ways to convey information. While it was here job to craft the information so that it can be read and understood and enjoyed, it was my job to build clever new ways for getting that information to her readers, and presenting it to them easily and efficiently. When I told her we were both in the business of sharing information with the world her whole energy changed and it was obvious that the close was happening. As long as you are imaginative about it, you can reframe almost any two hobbies/jobs/interests to be similar or related somehow.

As I mentioned before, once you build some commonalities and demonstrate either your knowledge or desire for knowledge on a subject of importance to her, you can APPRECIATE her for being into that particular subject. Remember how I said that if you “get” someone’s art, it’s pretty much assumed that you “get” the artist as well? The same is true for almost everything person does. If you understand WHY it’s import to them, then you understand them a little better. To demonstrate this understanding, you have to look for the qualities in the subject/hobby/etc that draws her to it, and then “hot read” and appreciate her for having those qualities herself.

So if she’s a creative person and she wants you to think of her as a creative person, then you appreciate her for being creative. If her art or writing or music or whatever is more about self-expression than the creation of art, then you tell her how love how she is able to express herself through whatever it is she does. If she’s really into helping the less fortunate, then you tell her how amazing it is that she puts herself before others and helps those who others won’t. If she’s an astrophysicist then you can be impressed by her knowledge and passion for trying to understand the vast universe. It’s actually easy to do this, because as you make statements, ask questions, and get to know each other in comfort, she will give you (or at least hint at) all the information you need. All you have to do is keep an ear out and remember to appreciate her on it when the time comes.

Happy sarging,

Prophet

Hey man, how is it going with you now? Are you feeling the effects of the exercises that we talked about earlier on? Well, you better because now I am going to take things a little deeper, a little crazier…are you ready to go all in?!

Affirmations

Affirmations, what are the? Well as described on Wikipedia for an example “an affirmation is a declaration of something that is true”. And as I would describe it, its a way of re programming yourself by continuously “saying something” out loud and in such a concentrated and intense way that it sinks in to your subconscious and becomes your new reality, replacing your old (worthless) reality.
The ancient Greek Soldiers were already known for using affirmations to strengthen their belief in victory and kill any anxiety they might have and even todays military uses affirmations to cultivate a new belief system into peoples subconscious…recognize this phrase:

“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.”

This is part of an affirmation that todays military uses, not to eliminate Approach Anxiety, but to eliminate the “oh shit, I might die” anxiety!

So how can you use this knowledge to your advantage and how can you use this to get “in to state”?

Well, first of all, I suggest you write a one-page document with positive statements. Statements that would be true about you if you were actually “in state” statements that would seem to be YOU in the most perfect way that you can come up with. These statements could be as following:

- I Feel GREAT!
- I am HAPPY!
- I LOVE LIFE!
- I Feel FIT!
- I Feel AWESOME!
- Women LOVE me!
- I LOVE myself!
- I feel FANTASTIC!
- I AM READY TO GO OUT!
- I feel AWAKE!
- I Feel ENERGISED!
- I FEEL POWERFULL!
- I Feel SEXY!!!!!
- I…FEEL…like I am…RE…BORN!

Etc. Etc. Then just print this out and you will have your list of Affirmations.
Now you can look in the mirror and look yourself in the eyes with a big smile on your face, or you can choose to close your eyes and concentrate on what you’re going to “affirm” to yourself.

Now, read that what you have written out loud. Read with a loud volume or with a lower volume if you want, but make sure you do it with all the intensity that you can bring up from inside so that you will actually start to FEEL that what you are saying to yourself.

So don’t do this with an incredibly boring voice. Make sure you “act” alive and say these affirmations with passion, as if you mean it and hey…you can even back it up with some physical movements! Ball your fists, stomp your foot on the ground, wave your hands through the air, whatever! It might feel a bit dorky, but who cares! YOU are the one getting into state by yourself, no one is watching you…and it’s all about YOU! And about YOU feeling AMAZING!

So, in the beginning you will feel a bit weird doing it and the effects wont be as good as they could be, but within no time you will get better and better at it and you will notice how easy it is to get in to state.

Positive Thinking/BIG Thinking

Another change in mindset that I would like to bring under your attention is “positive & BIG thinking”.

A lot of people out there, and maybe you are one of them, seem to come up with 1001 negative things about…well, anything! Lets take something easy, like “making an approach”. If you can come up with ALL these reasons why you shouldn’t approach you are basically killing your own state and the want you have to take action and start approaching! And that’s just the thing, because in our heads we seem to come with more negative shit than positive things that you can associate with something as “making an approach”.

But why not think about things in a more positive way? Why not think about the BIG picture here!

Instead of thinking about all the things that might go wrong for you…think about all the things that might go AMAZING!

Think about what a great opportunity you have to meet this new woman for an example, and how much value you bring in to the interaction that you are going to start! Think about how this lady might be one of the coolest people you might ever get to talk to!
Think about the BIG picture here and think about how this approach might be the start of a great relationship! Think about how this approach will bring you a lot of amazing sex! Think about how this woman that you are going to talk to might be totally into threesomes and how she will bring her extremely hot looking lady friends in to bed with you!

Whatever you can think of!

Think about the most fantastic things that you can and associate more POSITIVE things to making an approach and don’t even think about the negative ones!

I am just talking about the “approaching” example here, but you can do this with literally any decision that you will have to make in your life. But lets take one more “Game” related topic.

“Going for the kiss” for an example. A lot of men out there don’t dare to go in for the kiss because they think about all the things that might go wrong.
I say STOP DOING THAT! There are way more positive things than negative ones that you could associate with “Going for the kiss”.

Think about how amazing it would be if she would kiss you back!
Think about how good it would feel to kiss her!
Think about how this kiss could lead to a B.J. !
Think about how this kiss could lead to a 3 way kiss because of her jealous girl friend wants a piece of the action!
Think about how this kiss will help you build comfort with her…with all the amazing things that might happen afterwards!

“But Rick, what if she doesn’t kiss me back?”

Well…THAT’S EVEN BETTER!!!

Now you have learnt something [insert all the learning points you can think of to make it as valuable as possible], and that’s something amazing!

And you know what (and this is just me thinking BIG here) because you are not like other guys that retreat with their tails between their legs after being refused a kiss…you stay in the set, let her get used to the idea that you are going to kiss her, build a little more comfort…and you try again a little later…and now you have shown her that you are an actual man that she can trust not to run away after something silly…and you have just opened your way to a possible FULL CLOSE that same night!

HOW AMAZING IS THAT!?!?

See, positivity and big thinking will certainly help you in all kinds of situations! So I suggest you cultivate the habit of “Thinking positive…and thinking big”. Use the rest of the tips and tricks I spoke of in this part and my earlier writings about “State management” and you will always be able to…BE – IN – STATE !

So for the guys out there that really feel they need a state changing experience, I challenge you to take action and try the things that I have talked about…and commit to doing this and sticking with this for 3 months…only 3 months my friend!
Because you will FEEL the difference and you will notice the way that people respond differently to you! So, don’t do this for one 1 week, no stick to it, commit to it, its your life that your working on and isn’t your life worth a time investment of only 3 months?

Remember to think BIG about this…think about all the possible positive things that will come from sticking to this for 3 months!

I wish you the best with your life’s journey, please feel free to give me any feedback about how this worked for you and how this has changed things in your life, ok?

Cheers my friend!

Rick Dutch.

The Zen of Cool – that’s what today’s lesson is about. There are two parts to this awesome model for inner game, represented by a Yin-Yan. Today we are talking about the Yan or flame. Now, if you haven’t read about the Zen of Cool in Revelation, I would highly recommend you do, but here is a definition of the Yan in case you haven’t (or don’t remember).

The Yan is like being a flame who shines with such fun and positive energy that people are drawn in by their own desire for its warmth.

Read that definition one more time and memorize because it is a key characteristic of an attractive man. Now, the next question is how to do that. Here we are talking about inner game so we are going to focus on creating the attitudes and emotions that naturally lead to you acting this way. This will complement you outer game, giving you something to rely on if you run out of material and generally help you on your journey to become a naturally sexy guy – meaning you don’t have to think about what to do to be sexy, it just happens because you’ve genuinely transformed yourself.

First things first –get yourself into a great mood. As Matador teaches, people can identify your current emotional state. If you’re in a great mood, strangers will be naturally attracted because emotions are contagious. In other words, your good mood radiates out good feelings and everyone wants to feel good, so they are drawn in by your vibe. (This is just another way of describing what we at Venusian Arts call the flame.) Now, on the other hand, if you’re in a bad mood, you give people bad feelings, which everyone wants to avoid, so they will naturally be repelled by you.

Simply put,

being in a great mood = hooking the set
?being in a bad mood = getting blown out

Let’s get down to tactics. These are things you should do before you go out, to help get yourself in a great mood. There are two things we going to use to achieve this. They are what you do with your body and what you focus on with your mind.

Imagine how you would move your body if you were in an amazing mood and then move that way. Walk the way you would walk if you felt amazing. Gesture the way you would gesture if you were in a great mood. Carry yourself like you just got a blow job from the hottest girl in the world, etc. More specifically, smile …even if you don’t want to smile. Just hold a smile on your face the entire time you’re getting ready to go out, on your way to the venue, and at venue when you’re not in set. Make smiling a habit, this really works! Try it! You see, not only does your face show what you feel. You also feel what you show, if you keep a smile plastered on your face as mentioned above, it will actually make you feel happier –same thing for how you move your body. Similarly, if you like to dance, put some great music on and dance when you’re getting ready.

Now, the other major thing that effects the way you feel is what you focus on with your mind. One easy way to direct your focus is by watching a video clip or listening to a song (or play list) that naturally puts you into a useful mood for pick-up. For example, Matador has this clip of Kid Rock just killin’ it live that he watches and when you see it, you just feel like a rock star – it’s really awesome. But… it doesn’t have to be that, it could be anything, as long as it puts you into an awesome mood that is useful for being social.
Another important part of you emotional state is to be talkative. Now, this one is easy, just talk! Do think about what you are saying; just keep those words coming out. Practice your delivery on some routines you now, call a friend, talk with your pivot, talk with your wing, etc. etc. Next, when you get to the club or on your way there, do three warm up sets.

Follow the guide lines above and you should be in a better state of mind when you go out and practice. This will make you naturally more attractive, independent of your routines, how you are dressed or anything else. More importantly, you’ll have more fun! Think about what you’ve read, post comments or questions and give it a try.

Best,
Pyro