Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.
July 7, 2009 by Wild Card
Filed under Dating Advice and Tips, Featured Articles
How many times have you woken up and just lounged around in bed for hours on end? How many times have you hit the snooze button about 50 times only to get up at the last second for whatever is you have to do? How many times have you shuffled your way into the kitchen, barely able to do communicate more than a groan as you fumble around with the coffee maker in a half-conscious daze? This is how most people start their mornings on any given day of the week: groggy, grumpy, and half-asleep. The way your start your morning influences the rest of your day. A person who starts his morning in a positive way typically has a positive day. If you walk into the office with a smile on your face and a spring in your step, your mood can be contagious and it can spread to the rest of the office, making the rest of your day a little better than it may have been otherwise. But if you spend more mornings than not staggering out of your room moaning and groaning your way to work in a way that resembles the staggerings and moanings of a b-movie zombie, then chances are your day will not be as enjoyable as it could be.
Look around at your coworkers next chance you get. Notice their hair, their clothing, their eyes, smiles, and their posture. Can you tell which ones just threw themselves together in the morning while they were still half-asleep? Do you look like one of those people? Does your hair look kind of messy? Are your eyes drooping? Are you smiling? Do your clothes look they were hastily thrown on because you barely had time to get ready? These traits are no good at all. If your friends and/or coworkers only ever see you dressed shabbily and looking groggy and ill-kept, you are not projecting the image that you are a successful, happy person who knows how to take care of himself (all of which are DHVs). Remember, the self-improvement that comes from being a Venusian Artist is not just limited to your behaviour in a nightclub or a bar, it needs to be evident in every aspect of your life or you will lack congruence in the field. Nobody wants to be labelled as the grumpy person, the lazy guy, the boring (translation: low-energy) guy. Everybody wants a fun happy label because that’s who you should be: fun, happy, loving and full of excitement. And if you can look good while you are doing it, then it just compounds those DHVs! A good start to your morning can really help make this happen.
So what does it take?
The first step is waking up. Set your alarm for a decent time that gives you an hour or two before work. Studies have show that as an adult your body needs about eight hours of sleep. But really, it’s mind over matter when it comes to this. If you’re having a regular day you can most likely get away with anywhere from five to seven hours. You can eventually train your body to do this every night. However, if you have a full day planned out for yourself you should play it safe and get the eight hours as that will ensure that you are rested and refreshed for the long day ahead.
A major problem for a lot of people with too much free time is oversleeping. The longer you stay in bed, the more relaxed you feel, and while this may be a good thing on a rainy Sunday morning, it can also trick your body into thinking that is more tired than it actually is, making it even harder to get out of bed. You should always try to avoid sleeping for more than 9 hours a night. Any more than that, and your body will start to think that it’s still tired and want to sleep even more. You can actually end up more exhausted by sleeping for 12-14 hours than by sleeping for 6-7 hours.
Avoid the snooze button at all costs. If you try to go back to sleep for more than 10-15 minutes after you have already woken up, your body will try to go back into it’s sleep cycle and want to sleep even longer than it would have otherwise. Put your alarm clock somewhere out of reach. Your best bet here is to stick it across the room. The point of this is pretty obvious: to get your ass up and out of bed and not just stick your arm out to smack the snooze button. If you’re a heavy sleeper, get a clock radio alarm and set it to a fuzzy station with the volume set to max to make sure you can’t just ignore it for a little while before getting up. If you want to even go that little extra you can jump online and buy an alarm clock that will run around the room until you chase it down to turn the damn thing off. Other tricks to getting up can include keeping your window open to allow the sunlight into your room in the morning; our bodies are powered by the sun… kind of like superman to a very small degree. If you’re a coffee drinker you can also try getting a coffee maker with a set timer on it and set it a minute or two after your alarm is set to go off and make sure to not put the pot in, this is a sure way to get your ass out of bed (assuming you don’t want a kitchen counter full of messy coffee).
Step two is setting your mood for the day. Do something productive such as cleaning your room, doing your laundry, writing in your blog, indulging in one of your hobbies or doing the dishes while listening to some high beat, high energy, and high volume music, or better yet, if you have the time in the mornings you can do all of the above. You can kill two birds with one stone here, if you’re cleaning then you are keeping your environment clean and maintained, if your blogging or catching up on a hobby then you are improving and expanding your mind. Once you start getting shit done it can really amp up your state and make you feel productive. Do your morning exercise routine (everybody should have one of these, it could be a jog, weights, yoga, just do something active!) then jump on into the shower. Get a shower radio or even sing to yourself, anything to amp your state up even more, the more good feeling in you the better. Once out of the shower put some nice clothes on, do up your hair and make yourself all nice and pretty. It’s very important to feel good about yourself. Hell, you can even go as far as telling yourself how good you look in the mirror. It may sound silly at first, but positive affirmations like this can really reinforce an energetic, confident state for the day. Finally, make sure that you eat. Your body is your vessel and it needs the nutrients necessary to get through the day so eat up and get the energy your body needs. Try to eat something healthy and avoid the fast-food breakfasts if you can.
Usually in the morning most of us have places to be such as work or school so for the most part this will all be condensed into anywhere from an hour to two hours, all depending on what time you need to leave the house. These are all suggestions for things you and (and should) be doing when you wake up. You will need to make a personal morning routine that fits your life.
On your way over to your destination you should be keeping your state at a high. You should be walking into the door of wherever you’re going with that same good feeling you built up all morning. For some of us it can take 5 minutes to get to where we are going, some may take up to an hour or so, either way I find that some good, up-beat music will help with that. In the car on your stereo or taking the shoe lace express with your ipod or mp3 player, if you have some good tunes pumping you up it will make the trip to your destination all the more enjoyable.
Note: coffee and energy drinks, while not the healthiest choice, can be excellent at giving you that extra boost to your energy levels in the morning. Just don’t go over board on the stuff because they can be addictive. I’m sure we’ve all seen someone we know acting all bitchy and moody because they haven’t had their morning coffee yet. You don’t want to be that guy.
All in all, these are simply guide lines on how to start your day in a positive way. Again, the way your start your day can have a major impact on the rest of it. The goal is to pump up your state and put you into the best mood you can be in for the day. Get up, be active, look good, and feel good about yourself before you even step foot out of the door to head to your destination. And don’t forget to wear your smile when you walk out that door!
Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.
June 5, 2009 by Wild Card
Filed under Dating Advice and Tips, Featured Articles
Before we get into this I want you to ask yourself the following:
How much do you usually get accomplished in a day?
How much COULD you get accomplished in a day?
Two very different questions and, in most cases, two very different answers. If you’re like 95% of the population of the western world, you probably understand on some level that you aren’t getting as much done in a day as you’d like. Most people complain that they are already too busy, or too tired, or just can’t find the motivation to get up and get things done. These are excuses. They allow a person to admit that they aren’t getting as much out of their day as they could without actually feeling bad about it. And most of the time, it’s usually because these excuse makers have become accustomed to being unproductive and simply cant be bothered to try to get more out of their day. Too many people spend far too much of their lives on the couch or in front of their computers where it’s safe and boring and familiar. If you are one of those people then this needs to change. If you don’t get off that couch, out the door and out of the house, not getting anything accomplished then your day is pretty much wasted. When you get into a bad habit such as this, only bad things will arise from it such as laziness and do nothingism (and yes, that’s actually a word). In life we all want to be successful, and success thrives from productivity, because when we get shit done were one step closer to reaching our goals in life. It can sometimes take quite a bit of self discipline to become productive; however, here are some very good tips to help you get started.
Try keeping a day planner, something to help you stay on top of things. Most phones today already have a day planner built into them; this makes it easier for those who have them to stay focused on daily/weekly tasks especially with sound alerts to remind you. When writing or programming tasks or events into your planner you should always make sure to put in everything that should be a part of your daily activities. This could be a scheduled hour to hour plan or even a check list of things to do with your day. Include your work out, your practice session for any instrument you play or hobby you take part in, take pride with what you do. Any material you need to read up on and any other such activities you like to indulge yourself in should also be done every day.
Cut down on pointless, mindless activities such video games, mindless web surfing, and television. These things can become very addictive and when indulging in them too much it can become very easy to waste your time. Instead, try reading, writing or even watching instructional videos. Just do anything to expand your mind. After all, knowledge is power! (Sorry, I had to). Now that’s not to say that you should completely cut those things out of your life, it’s always nice to zone out of reality and go into your own little world every once in a while. Just be moderate about these kinds of things and don’t ever get carried away with them.
GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! You should be doing this anyways. So go soak in some sun, get your errands done, get everything you’ve been putting off done. While your out of the house be sure to make every possible social interaction happen. The more shit you get done for yourself the better you feel about yourself, the better you feel about yourself the more confident you become in yourself. Confidence is key when it comes to your game, with it you can pull off whatever you think you can because you will project it with the vibe you’re giving out. It’s actually quite amazing what a sense of accomplishment can do for your confidence.
The trick here is not to make productivity a chore. It’s so easy to just be lazy say “nah…I just don’t feeling like doing that today.” But this isn’t really helping anything, now is it? You should never feel like you are doing a task or errand against your will. You need to approach these sorts of things from a positive mindset. You should want to get X done, Y sent, and Z put away. You need to feel good about it. At the end of the day you should get into the habit of patting yourself on the back for getting as much done as you did. If you approach your daily tasks from this perspective, you’ll inevitably catch yourself saying “Man, I cant believe how much I got done today!” because you feel so good about it. Even if all you did was run around and do a bunch of tiny errands or worked all day on finishing one big project, you will actually feel better about yourself simply because you were productive, and that can really help your state in the field. Moreover, feeling good about accomplishing something will actually positively reinforce your desire to be productive in the first place, making productivity rather addictive if you approach it with that kind of mindset. So the more productive you are, the more you will find yourself WANTING to be even more productive.
All you have to do is stop yourself from being lazy and this sense of accomplishment will perpetuate itself for as long as you’ll let it.
But although it feels good to get things done, there’s more to this than just feeling good about being productive. You are now taking action in your life. You are getting things done and getting shit handled. If you’ve set some goals for yourself, then every completed task and finished errand gets you closer to those goals, even if only indirectly. Any progress in your life will bring you closer to your life’s goals and dreams. The more you work at things the better you get at them. So don’t be a waster of time, be productive, get shit done and you will be seeing results in yourself in no time at all. Most of all, remember to keep smiling.
Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.
May 27, 2009 by Wild Card
Filed under Pick Up Lines and Routines
This one is an original that Prophet and I came up with after a night in the field. If we end up at home alone after a night in the field (it happens to the best of us), we always chill out for a bit and talk game like good wingmen should. I was talking about how I want to come up with a sweet little card trick gambit, but the problem with those is it that it looks incredibly try-hard to be carrying around a pack of cards everywhere you go.
That’s when we came up with the idea of creating the environment of role playing and having a shared reality by using invisible cards to perform a trick with your target. The idea is that you pretend to perform some dazzling magic trick with an imaginary set of cards, and depending on how the roleplay plays out, end it with a surprise finish that will get you big laughs (buying temperature) and a sense of connection with your target (from the roleplay itself).
All your going to need for this really good imagination and the ability to set the frame right, but if you want to add something really incredible, you’ll also need one joker in your pocket and the ability to make a card appear out of thin air.
You first introduce this by disqualifying yourself by saying something like “Now, I’m not too big on stuff with cards but work with me here for a sec. “ This is when you pretend to pull out a deck of cards and start to shuffle. You also usually want something like “work with me here” or “play along with me here” to let your target understand that she is to play the role of assistant to the trick and that she must play along.
Once you are finished “shuffling”, fan the “cards” in your hand and ask your target to pick a card. “Ok darlin’, pick a card, any card.” She will then pretend to pick one out of the deck.
SIDENOTE: If she does not play along at first, this is an IOD so you should send an IOD her way, cut the thread and move onto something else. Although neither of us have actually had this happen to us with this gambit yet, a good line to use when she refuses to buy into your frame is the classic “Oh my god, you can dress her up but you cant take her anywhere!”
Anyway….
Just like a magician would do with a real deck of cards, let her take the card and tell her not to show you the card and to memorize it. You can also let her know that she can show her friends the card if she wants. “Ok now keep it hidden and memorize your card. Create a mental image of it in your mind. You can show it your friends if you want to.” If the girl is accepting your frame she will just play along, even pretending to show her friends or even your wingman the imaginary card while whispering what it is into their ears. If this happens you can also say something to the friends like “Now if she cheats, you guys are going to tell me, right?” as a means of bringing the friends further into the conspiracy as well. Then say “Ok, now put the card back in the deck.” and let her pretend to put the card back.
After you tell her to remember what her card is get her to put it on the top of the deck, shuffle for a minute. Tell her to picture the card in her mind and pretend to concentrate yourself, as if you are tryng to read her mind. During this time you can even do another routine to really stack or maybe even qualify her a little. When you have finished shuffling simply throw the imaginary cards over your shoulder nonchalantly and say something like “okay, enough of those” or “aaaaaand there they go”. When your target looks confused, reach into a front pocket and pretend to pull out a card and ask her if it was her card with a playful smirk. At this point things could go a couple of different ways:
1. The girls might just figure you were messing with them the whole time and laugh, call you an asshole, and smack you (all of which are IOIs). Tease them for being so hands-on and then stack forward or qualify.
2. The girl might still play along and say yes it was her card, you can say “Ah, well it’s a gift! I didn’t even have to pay much for it either, I just had to talk to this guy named beazelbub…” and go off into Mystery’s line about printing a contract off of the internet, then stack into something else, qualify, etc.
3. The girl might shit-test you, or just want to be playful and tell her it wasn’t her card. If this happens, look at the card, then look at her, and then pretend to toss the card away in an animated “drama queen” kind of way, saying in a playful tone “Fine, fuck it. I’m not here to impress you anyway.” and then do a hardcore roll-off. Be careful however: If you miscalibrate this and it sounds like you are upset or reacting to the fact that she wasn’t playing along, you will loose value. But if you do this in a really over-the-top way, you will get big laughs and a serious buying temperature spike from the roll-off.
Alternatively, if you want to do something really explosive, you can pull a real card out of the air, causing everyone to loose their fucking minds! In order to do this, you will need to learn how to make a card appear in your hand. A quick search on youtube will give you ton of instructional videos. It’s actually very simple, but it’s dangerous because if anyone sees the card before you make it appear, they can ruin the entire gambit. If you’re going to do this, be sure to practice like crazy until you can do this fluidly and without even having to think about it.
When the girl tells you it wasn’t her card, pretend to toss the card away with one hand as described above while you prepare to unvanish the rea; card with the other. Say something like “Hmmm…well then I wonder if it’s this one?” and as you finish the sentence, pull the card out from behind her ear and show it to her. Speed is key here. If you do it quickly and naturally, the set will blow up. The shock of going from imagining that they are watching you play with cards to actually seeing you pull a real card seemingly out of thin air will cause them to shreik and laugh and go nuts. If you are worried about someone seeing the card, do it to whoever is on the most outside circle of the group so that nobody can see the backside of your hand, this is also a good way to get others involved in the set.  Say something such as “well perhaps it’s still in your head” or (looking at somebody else) “I think YOU have it” and pull it from behind her ear with the card well out of view from anyone else in the set until you pull it.
To add the icing to the cake, make sure the card you pull is a joker. Look at it with shock and say something like “What the - ? A Joker? You’re not even playing right!” or “that’s cheating!” and then roll off by saying something along the lines of “You know what, if you’re not going to play fair, I’m just gonna go home.” Again, if you do this really over-the-top way, you will get big laughs and a serious buying temperature spike from the roll-off.
The best part of this gambit is that even if you aren’t good at magic tricks you can still do this because you really aren’t doing anything. Hell, you don’t even have to guess what her card was because the card really doesn’t matter at all (although if you have to guess in a pinch, the Ace of Spades is usually the most picked imaginary card). It’s not the trick that’s important here, it’s the fact that you are leading the group, controlling the frame, and bringing everyone involved into a shared reality that you’ve created. It’s basically just a really in-depth roleplay with the added option of a real magic trick tagged onto the end. In fact, you’ll know you’re doing the gambit right when your target buys right into the frame and tells you that the imaginary card you showed her was, in fact, her card!
Try it out in the field, be sure to post any questions, and always keep your smile on.
(with some additions and expansions added by Prophet)
Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.
May 16, 2009 by Wild Card
Filed under Featured Articles, Health and Bodybuilding
Your body is the most important possession you have, and yet it is something that far too many men take for granted and simply cant be bothered to take care of. Your body is both your vessel and your weapon. Its one of your biggest tools of seduction and it’s the only one you’re going to get, so don’t get lazy and waste it. It may not be perfect, you may not like many parts of it, but there are no exchanges and no returns on these things, so you better learn to work with what you have. The way a man takes care of himself can indicative of how he takes care of a woman. If you’re a complete slob who cant even find the time to wash your hair, what is your target going to think about how much time you will be able to find for her? A fit, well-groomed, and well-dressed man also attracts the stereotype of being successful, since successful people typically understand the importance of taking care of their appearance.
It may not make or break your game, but a man who obviously takes care of himself has a significant advantage over another who does not. Would you not find a woman with styled hair, a fit body, and a classy dress more attractive than a woman with messy hair, loose jeans, and a hoody? Of course you would! As men, we generally do not appreciate the amount of effort that women put into looking good. Why cant we do the same? Even if you don’t care so much about making women more attracted to you in this sense, why not take care of yourself and your body as a means of improving your health, energy, and self-confidence? When you take care of yourself you will start to respect yourself more, and when you respect yourself your self confidence will increase tremendously. When that happens (and it will) people will respect you more.
When you want to take care of yourself (and you should) there are a number of different elements you should be looking at, each one as important as the next:
Good physical fitness is key: get your self a nice tone body. Unless you are drastically overweight, there’s no need to be popping pills or hitting the gym every day. If you want to get buff and muscular (and that is a DHV) you may have to, but it doesn’t take too much of a drastic change to lose a little excess fat and tone up a bit. I’m no fitness expert (that would be Steve Jacks), but there’s a tremendous amount of information on fitness out there on the internet. Basically though, just make sure you eat right and make yourself a quick nightly and morning workout routine for when you wake up and go to bed, perhaps a few sit ups, push ups, and a couple of simple weight lifting exercises. A gym membership can still a good idea, but you don’t NEED to maintain a religious work-out schedule if your focus is just to stay healthy and look good. If you want more tips on getting a tone body I would highly recommend looking at matador’s article on body building he has recently posted.
Your choice of food is important as well. Everyone eats. It’s what our body runs off of; it’s where it gets its fuel from. You are what you eat and that’s a fact. Greasy foods may taste good, but they make you feel gross afterward because of all the unhealthy crap you are stuffing down your throat. Even if you’re eating out a lot, pretty much every place has a healthy menu that you can get something from. Although it is a little more pricey to eat healthier you can take pride in knowing that you’re doing your body some good. Just because you can’t win friends with salad does not mean that it doesn’t taste good, is good for you and will make you a healthier person all around. Your body will thank you for it too, as healthy eating habits typically result in more energy and a better feeling throughout the day. .
Then there’s grooming. Just because you’re healthy doesn’t mean you look good. Grooming should be next on your list. Your hair is most likely the most distinguishable feature that you have on your body so you’re grooming skills should be up to par; head and face. Do some research, ask a hair stylist. Find out what’s going to look best on you, play around a little bit with a few different styles if you want to and see what kinds of different reactions you can get. Find something that suites you nicely. You can go something very extreme with shapes such as an Astro boy look, a crazy anime character or even devil horns to use as something to peacock with. Or you can go to something nice, short and spiked up a little bit with some styling gel. Just keep your hair looking nice, don’t let it get messy, don’t let it get long with split ends and for the love of god don’t let it get thick and greasy. Same goes for your facial hair. If you have facial hair, keep it trimmed and neat, otherwise keep that face shaved and smooth. If you’re going for the stubbly look, that’s cool, but make sure you keep it under control.
This brings us to our next point: showering. Showering makes us clean, makes us smell nice and it makes us feel good about ourselves and can actually help relieve stress. Shower in the morning, shower after a work out, shower after work, and shower before going out to sarge. If you can, a nice bath before you go to bed can make you feel more relaxed and help you get a much better night of sleep.
When it comes to proper hygiene and grooming take some common sense into consideration. Brush your teeth regularly, clean and trim your fingernails, trim any unnecessary body hair that’s not too needed. Wash your face. Avoid looking greasy, dirty, or pimply at all costs. Use skin-care products if you want smooth, touchable skin (women notice these things on guys!). Make sure everything is clean and in tip top shape, this means everything from head to toe. Do your feet stink? Get insoles, foot scrubs, or powders. Do you have acne? Get treatment. Do you look sickly and pale? Get a tan. Whatever may be wrong with your body these days, there is almost always a solution. Get that shit handled ASAP!
A well maintained and well taken care of body can take you very far. It can make you feel good about yourself and only further improve your game (both inner and outer). Most changes involve very little effort to improve yourself very dramatically. Small-chunk these things if you have to: get one thing handled and then work on the next. Make little changes and stick to taking care of yourself and in time you’re guaranteed to notice some major differences.
Remember to always keep that smile well equipped,
P.S. I found a cute little video on washing yourself, and figured that since it was strangely relevant to this article, I’d post it here.
Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.
May 8, 2009 by Wild Card
Filed under Dating Advice and Tips
Your delivery - the way you speak - can be one of the most important factors of your game. Like body language, you express more about yourself with the way you speak than with what you actually say. If your delivery is off you can be giving a very different message than you are really intending to.
First off, how fast are you talking? People who tend to talk faster show less value. Studies show that the faster you talk the more nervous you are. It stems from an unconscious fear that people are not going to listen to you long enough for you to say everything that you want. By talking fast, you convey that fear, which is a very bad sign of insecurity and gives you lower value. So make sure you are slowing down your speech and enunciating everything you say so that everyone in your set can hear your every word very clearly. Speak slower than you think you should be with pauses to draw more attention to your words. Be clear and concise. Pack more value into fewer words.
Secondly; you’re most likely in a crowded venue, so how loud are you speaking? Are you yelling, or are you speaking articulately and clearly with a deep, powerful voice that comes from your diaphragm? You’d better make sure it’s that second one. There is a fine, but notable difference between yelling and speaking loudly. Yelling will only give lower value because it conveys that you are trying to hard to get the group to hear you. And while you’re shouting at the top of your lungs, the guy next to you is speaking firmly and with enough tone for everyone to hear, thus giving him not only more value but he will also look like he is more comfortable in his set for double points. Also, if you are simply speaking loudly, it is also easier to avoid pecking (we unconsciously tend to peck when we have to yell in someone’s ear) and make you look more relaxed in set.
Thirdly; take the time to take a break from talking and just listen. This can open your mind to many new things. Mostly when in set you plough through and don’t really take the time listen to your target or anyone else in your set for that matter. By just listening (actually listening, not planning your next move) every once and awhile you can demonstrate that you are for real and not just some player and gives off just the right vibe. Try it.
You should also be looking at how confident of a speaker you are being. The higher your confidence the higher your value so be sure to project yourself clearly with the proper facial expressions and enthusiasm. A good way to sound more confident with your speech is making your tone go down at the end of a sentence instead of up. By raising your voice at the end of a sentence, you make it sound like a question. By lowering it, you will sound certain about what you are saying. If you pay attention to the way particularly interesting speakers raise and lower their voice, you will notice all sorts of things like this. Also, you need to sound interesting. Lovedrop talks about this a LOT in Revelations, but we’ll mention it here anyway. Sounding interesting doesn’t mean talking about interesting things, it means that you need be interesting. Be fascinated with what you are saying, speak with passion and enthusiasm. Speak slowly and with intermittent pausing (see Revelations for more on this). This will draw your audience into what you are saying as they start to hang on your every word. Moods are contagious. If you sound like you are really, truly interested in what you are saying, and you are saying it in a compelling manner, the people you are talking to will suddenly find themselves as interested in what you are talking about as much as you are.
Finally let’s look at your manners. Always make sure your playing nice with others just like your mother always taught you. Avoid rude behavior because it will only send a wake of bad emotions through everyone you encounter and that can only end with everyone seeing you as the asshole or douche bag. That doesn’t mean that you cant be cocky or tease your girls, by any means however. Just make sure you know the line between being a tease and being an asshole. People will not feel pleasant being around you if you are the latter and that is not what you are looking to do. A real alpha male doesn’t need to put down others to look cool. He just has fun for the sake of being fun and bringing good feelings to the group. Do your best to put some basic manners and politeness into every little interaction you encounter. You’re looking to be the guy everyone loves not the asshole everyone avoids, so smile and throw in a thank you every once in a while.
Always pay attention to yourself in the field and try to notice every factor that makes up your speech. Everything from pacing, to volume, to tonality conveys something about you. If you notice something is wrong or out of place, fix it, adjust it, or get rid of it. We make mistakes to learn from them so don’t ever be hard on yourself, simply know yourself, recognize that you need to change something, and work out how you can improve. A wing can be invaluable in this aspect, as he will always have a better idea of what you actually sound like in the field than you do. It is always good for you and your wing no notice each other and be critical with one another in a constructive way. An outside opinion about yourself from a fellow PUA can help you pin point certain flaws you may not have noticed yourself. Always remember to move forward and always improve. Remember: practice makes perfect.
Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.
April 21, 2009 by Wild Card
Filed under Dating Advice and Tips, Featured Articles
Jealousy, what is it exactly?
A lot of people make it seem like such a negative feeling. From this impression, most of the time people feel that they have to resort to violence or anger. But this does not necessarily have to be the case.
“Jealousy leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark side” - Yoda.
Jealousy is something triggered off in our minds to send us a message. It’s trying to tell us that we are attracted and in some way emotionally invested with a member of the opposite sex. A woman, for instance, first knows she’s attracted when she becomes jealous. This hard-wired emotion is built to protect what we want for ourselves and to help motivate us to go get the very thing in which we are jealous for. Some say this is a problem, but where there is a problem, there is always an opportunity for growth.
Despite the temptation to do so in the field, don’t let this emotion take you over. Instead we use it to your advantage: mostly with the hotties in the bar that you want to have attracted to you, but for anything really. And that’s where the jealousy plotline comes in, why it works, and how it can become very useful to you. Now I’m not about to get into all the different ways you can do this i.e. using a pivot, displaying major DHV that a female can relate to etc - that’s all covered in Revelations (you HAVE bought that by now, haven’t you?) This article is mainly here to inform you on how to identify jealousy within yourself, within others and how to deal with it from there.
Now we all know what jealousy is. However, most people seem to believe we always act on the facts presented to us. WRONG! If that were the case then you’d be able to go to the bar tonight and never have to worry about loosing your cool to a feeling of jealousy. But this is not the case. Chances are that you act on it as an emotion and thrash out just like a jealous person would next time it comes around. As a PUA you should know that you should always be aware of your emotions. So the next time something happens to you while you’re out in the field, on a day two, or even in a relationship you need to identify the fact that you are feeling jealous and decide to deal with things rationally.
Now what? Well, what’s the situation? Jealousy is usually triggered in the field by a member of the same sex imposing on your set. You need to calm down and deal with it RIGHT NOW. Don’t over react in these situations like a typical jealous person would. Jealousy will only get you the opposite of what you want. So what does that mean? It means stop being a little bitch and take control of the situation. Acting distant or moody or getting snappy with people isn’t going to help you. Starting an argument or making your target feel bad for talking to another guy is certainly not going to help you. You are only feeling jealous because you don’t feel in control, or you are feeling insecure about what is happening and don’t know what to do. As such you will act in a very reactive manner and the results of this are usually poor. Re-evaluate the situation and take control; is it another dude hitting up your girl? Act intelligently and unreactively and everything you’ve learned about dealing with these guys will give you a clear idea of how to deal with him. AMOG the guy and lower his value, go off and open a nearby set, spike the target’s buying temperature and make the OTHER GUY jealous. There is no need to feel jealousy yourself, but there is plenty of need to make other people feel it. 
After analyzing the effects jealousy can have on us and how much it can change a social scene, don’t you think it can have the same effect on others? Of course it can, except the only difference is that the people you’re going to be pushing it on don’t know how to deal with it. They will act in the way every other jealous person out there does and if you can do it properly it will almost always work out in your favor. Make a man jealous and he is going to react in ways that’s only going to make you a heck of a lot cooler. Make a girl jealous and you’re only going to make her more attracted to you.
So always keep your cool, analyze any situation you’re in and NEVER let your emotions take a hold of you. You’re a pick up artist, you’re one cool guy. Take hold of any social scene you’re in and play your game to its best. And remember to always keep your smile on you at all times.
Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.
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