About Mystery
Mystery is the alter-ego of entertainer Erik von Markovik, the star of VH1's The Pickup Artist and the world's foremost expert in the art and science of social dynamics. Mystery exploded onto the underground pickup and seduction scene in the late 1990s with his groundbreaking contributions to the art, and he was the first pickup instructor to offer live, in-field training. Mystery has trained thousands of students all over the world, including a who's who of the most respected pickup artists teaching today. Mystery gained international prominence when his exploits were documented in Neil Strauss' 2005 bestseller The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, and he has also been covered by a wide variety of media including CNN, Conan O'Brien, and The New York Times. Mystery's book, The Mystery Method: How To Get Beautiful Women Into Bed is the number-one book on sex at Amazon.com.
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Q+A with Mystery: Fall 1998
AFC: I was extremely nervous during the 50 day experiment. Even more nervous than I expected to be. I don’t doubt that it showed, at least a little.
Mystery: Then just keep doing this till you PERFECT this. If you can get this right, timing and smile and confidence and playfulness and on and on, then you can move onto other scripts. All the other scripts are just as unassuming sexually speaking as the Elvis one. If you are going to use a script INTRO thing, then tell us first so we know you aren’t fucking up with bad intros like complements or sexual innuendo intros.
AFC: I don’t understand what you mean here. How do I manifest ‘being into myself’ when using the Elvis script?
Mystery: hold a magazine and sorta be reading it as you perform the script. Now remove the mag and there you are. Sorta thinking about this Elvis thing and talking aloud to someone. Outgoing people do this BTW.
AFC: That was my first instinct, but I guess I didn’t stick with it for very long. As he was on his way out of the store and glaring at me with daggers in his eyes, I smiled and gave him a friendly wave. His reaction was to become even angrier.
Mystery: Your getting angry was (nothing personal here) the most pathetic ego driven behavioral non thinking thing you could have done. It was unsophisticated, immature, stupid, lame and un-intellectual. The way to win in this life is no longer by strength. It’s by the brain. Don’t REACT to people. PRO-ACT. Think and win. EVERY SOCIAL interaction requires gambits and strategies like in CHESS. Consider learning chess. You will obtain many insights for girl getting.
AFC: I wasn’t especially creative, but I was honest and polite. It was only later than I responded with the same kind of disrespect that he had shown to me. Perhaps I should just have let him walk away.
Mystery: You didn’t recognize HIS feelings. You didn’t have compassion for HIM. You didn’t attempt to connect to the fact that you are both guys and her COULDA been a buddy if this didn’t occur. Bull shit baffles brains and by just misdirecting their attention with bullshit talk (fake facial tics or make random guttural noises). It’s FUN to fuck with people this way if they behave incorrectly. Don’t give them the same talk back, go one step ahead … think CHESS.
AFC: I imagine if I had thrown myself on the floor and started bawling like an infant, he would simply have walked away, thinking he had ‘won.’
Mystery: And then you yell, ‘Nooooooo, don’t …. GOOOOO!!!!’ You are so fucked up man. WINNER. Who’s the winner - he got the girl fucker. Of course he’s the winner. Nothing you can do can make you the winner when HE has the girl.
AFC: I’m not sure anybody would have recognized it as a joke. What does that gain me?
Mystery: Not the girl, so then what you COULD have gained. You aren’t exactly thinking as a player or pick up artist. You could have done this so over dramatically that it would throw him greatly.
AFC: Maybe it’s different at the clubs that you’re familiar with, but at the ‘18 and up’ type clubs that I can get into, I just can’t imagine going to a club by myself. I mean, I would just feel absolutely humiliated.
Mystery: And you don’t feel humiliated by our knowing you don’t have the sex appeal enough to have a girlfriend? Does that not … humiliate … you? Alright, so you go alone. You don’t have to TELL anyone. Just say your friend is in here somewhere. Later, you can say you got ditched or something. Your friend went home with a girl.
Easy.
AFC: Everyone would be looking at me like, ‘Why are you here by yourself?’, because everyone, I mean everyone, goes to these clubs with friends.
Mystery: I WORK in clubs dude. This is Bull Shit. Go alone. You can lie. Make friends.
AFC: Is this not the feeling you get when you go to a 21 and over club by yourself? How you deal with this? Since I’m not much of a dancer, I know that I would just feel too awkward about the whole situation, I’d spend maybe 5/10/15 minutes sort of standing by myself trying to look ‘cool’, and then it would get to me and I’d leave.
Mystery: Go alone. Don’t dance. MEET. Go from group to group in there talking to people. Make friends of everyone. Be fun. How can a girl be interested in you if you aren’t INTERESTING in the first place dude. Don’t stand there with a beer you your limp wristed hand. Don’t try to ‘look’ cool. Be cool by chatting with EVERYONE. When I can’t get a friend to go with me (Like yesterday by good buddy Tal bailed out on going downtown with me) I go out alone. I went out alone yesterday. That’s right. Am I humiliated? Well let’s see … I got two girls #s. How many did YOU get?!! Ok, that’s said and done.
Ah fuck who I am talking to away - If you are so insecure about being alone, you will not have the guts to actually approach girls anyway. Stay home.
AFC: There’s something about having friends wit you that allows you to convey the impression that you’re not needy even if/when you get rejected.
Mystery: Girls want guys who are confident enough to go ABOVE this whole thing. In fact, I even TOLD them I came down alone when my buddy bailed on me. And I had a fucking BLAST. I made two new guy buds and got 2 girls #s. OH, AND I met about 10 chicks that night and chatted with them and I even got a drink bought for me. So there. All alone I went. How humiliating.
Naw, I’d really like have a competition for real. In fact last night Style and I had a little contest. He bet me a dollar that I couldn’t make out with the first set I opened. I wanted to do the 5 set challenge but I was holding a boot camp and it’s day one so I can’t take more than 25 minutes per set because I have to show them how to cold approach.
Here’s what happened: in total I did like 7 sets. All opened very nicely (not a single blow out) and I was in set with each anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes. I went into isolation and kino escalation (hand holding and embracing) in all of them except one (but she had to take a photo with me and held me tight for it shrug - I came in negging too hard I surmise though if it wasn’t a boot camp I could have worked more as I easily had maneuverability by then). One of them (a 2set) a student of mine and I bounced at the end of the night … I made out with one (and rubbed her down there). So overall, since every set opened and ran very well, I’d say this is promising for a competition. It’s amazing to be able to open a set and KNOW you can go as far as you want with it and the full monty if YOUR CHOICE. The hardest part really is getting it to OPEN and build enough ATTRACTION for solid kino escalation (where they comply to your wishes to be touched). Once you have that (3 to 5 minutes in) the only way to lose is to fuck up. Just don’t do anything to compromise the attraction you built and you can just baby sit in comfort (with entertaining kino escalation) all the way to full monty, based not on time but on her comfort with each step in kino.
Now the logistics of many of them may compromise a WIN because one of the sets which blew open (we were embracing and it was very on) was - we concluded…
She and her other hot friend (Style was in with and later we pushed a student in) may have been on coke or something. She kept cutting off my threads every 3 seconds like a speed freak though I got into kino with her and could easily have continued students agreed she was acting very jittery and that’s not my interest. you never know what you’re gonna get til you enter and maneuver within the set.
Anyways, as for the first set: I went into a 2set. Tall, cute girl. Worked her for 30 minutes. Holding her, hand holding, cuddling, picture taking, and overall a great response … though the obstacle (who later bought me a drink)
Was socially retarded and reminded me of the jumping bouncy yapper dogs in old bugs bunny cartoons. So I did a take-away for a bit (locked her in with props of course) and did my boot camp. Later I waved at her and she waved me over with a big smile. I came over and some guy without a neck was pissed and started to yell at her. I never talked to him before but it appeared a jealousy plotline with an ex was developed. As her retarded friend was buying me the drink the guy said, “If you know what’s good for you you’d walk away.” I immediately went to the bouncers and bounced him the fuck out of there. I WIN.
BUT: while the retard stayed and I got my drink, the target, in a yelling fight with the guy, went outside with him to continue the argument. Oops. I owe $1 to Style for not making out with her. As you can see, with yappy and ex-con as my obstacles, I would have had to have isolated to outside the club and into the casino (as I said I would have done if it weren’t for it being a boot camp where I can’t do that) before any of this happened. So … Am I ready? You bet!
Mystery
PS: boot camp day 2 begins in less than 1.5 hours. I could have gotten a hotel last night and full montied the girl (I said to her, “you’d spread your legs for me tonight if I could stay wouldn’t you” and I rubbed her. She said, “Yea I would.” So that was a win enough because it was 4am, I had a boot camp to go to the next day and my GF was in my bed at home who is hotter. I was only demoing the MM skill set anyways. I don’t want to have to pay for a hotel (as she was sharing a room with her friend) just to have sex with a girl of lesser value than what I already have waiting for me. Shrug QUALITY PROBLEM huh.
AFC: Last Saturday I met this young woman and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her since then. She’s the first thing I think about when I wake up, the last thing before I fall asleep and even at that I’ve been finding it hard to get to sleep because my mind is so full of thoughts of her.
Mystery: Please remember that realistically, she is only an OPTION. These emotions are not healthy until AFTER the relationship has started. ALSO, men who have many women vying for their attention would be USED to women and therefore would not go al GAGA over OPTIONS. This makes you look WEAK in her eyes.
AFC: My heart aches when I’m not near her and my head spins when I am near her. Ok…yes I’ve fallen deeply, way to quickly…but I can’t help myself.
Mystery: Unless you are willing to WALK AWAY, it is unlikely that you will obtain her. You will go through what most NEWBIES go through. You will pine for her and some other guy (like me) will slip in a take her from you. The best you can do is become a FRIEND - which hurts even more because you’ll have to become friends with her boyfriend too. Save time by PRETENDING to be used to women already. Be willing to walk away and give some neg hits once in a while. Trick yourself into thinking she is ugly but entertaining. Then you will not let her shit on you in any way.
AFC: And that’s exactly the message I got from her. ‘I’m not looking for anybody, I don’t want anyone in my life right now, I’m just here to have fun’ is exactly what she said to me. It was a good learning experience for me.
Mystery: It’s a good bet she IS looking for someone but if just fed up with the fact she can’t find someone who appeals to her. If you can CONNECT with her, you’d be in. Do 3 neg hits, a connection pattern and some humor like the pull my finger joke and she would change her mind and you would have a g/f who was a 10. And she’d have a b/f who was funny and had a connection with her and confident.
AFC: That’s all fine & good I suppose. But the one I approached had come alone, and had no noticeable friends around her.
Mystery: She came alone to be harassed by men? Don’t you see she’s lonely? No guys try to get past the beauty bullshit and make her feel a connection. 10’s have their own set of problems. It’s not harder to get a 10, only different.
AFC: Getting a flock of women around me in this early stage of my ‘playa’ development was out of the question as well. Maybe in the future.
Mystery: Yeah, this DOES take a considerable degree of confidence. I know, it took me a long time to get this shit together this way. I became a performing artist and this stage stuff helped me get confident with the girls even more. Thing is, I think I’m more of a pick-up artist than a performing artist. I just got good at performing to meet more girls I guess. More options.
AFC: Please….I’m begging for some advice here - I can’t let her pass me by.
Mystery: realistically, with this emotional approach, you ARE going to let her pass you by. Be willing to walk away FIRST. You are only excited about her as an OPTION. Before you met her she wasn’t an option. If another girl came into your life that was beautiful and pleasant to you, you would call her an option too and no doubt your emotions would go haywire. As you experience more you’ll realize there are TONNES of OPTIONS out there. You just have to MAKE them YOUR options. I wager you DON’T get her but if you follow my advice, you’ll increase your slim chances at least.
Good luck though.
Walk up to a girl and say, “Do you believe in ESP?” Remember to SMILE or you may startle her. “Just think of the first # that pops into your head from one to four. Don’t say it. Just think it … now take that # and imagine that it is drawn on a blackboard in your head. Have you done that?”
She says OK
“What’s so neat about imagination is … we both have it … On the blackboard, I see the number … three.”
Whether you get it right or not reply.
“Alright, lets try this one more time. This time think of a different # from one to 10. Got it? Picture it in white chalk on the blackboard … you are thinking of the number … 7.”
If you got the first wrong and the second right, you look like you finally got it … a 1 in 10 chance. If you get BOTH right (a 90% chance seeing as it is a psychological trick where most north Americans naturally choose 3 and 7 as their first picks) that’s a 1 in 40 chance … “and of course I don’t stake my reputation on mere chance.”
If you get the first right but the second wrong or both wrong, say… “PROOF! ESP does NOT exist!” Then start to laugh like this “Mooa ha ha ha ha ha ha! And you believe in ESP!” a good neg hit to start. If she mentions that most people pick 3 and 7 (most girls wont know this though) just say, “really? Hmm… didn’t know that … thank you Cliff Claven.” (From Cheers)
If you take the wording I have and do this EXACTLY as stated, you will be surprised HOW well you will do. When they ask HOW, tell them … I DON’T KNOW. Tell her you can SEE the #s on your imaginary blackboard. This is NOT a trick. You hate magicians. If she wants you to do this again, tell her … “don’t be greedy now.”
Speaking of greedy … if a girl kisses you on the cheek and goes to kiss your other cheek, tell her, “Only one … don’t be greedy.” This is a good NEG HIT. Mild but a neg hit nonetheless. If she says, “Yes, but I’m French”, you reply, “Are all French girls as greedy as you?”
“Do you think spells work?” Sometimes this will send the woman off on a long blab, but if the conversation needs to be kept going, the follow-up routine is:
“The reason I’m asking is because my friend over there met a girl in a club last week. He wasn’t interested in her sexually, because she wasn’t really his type.” (Here the woman might say “Sure,” in which case you reply “No, really!” and touch her arm or waist.)
“Anyway, she hung out at his house and after she left, he found a metal ring wrapped around a scroll and some feathers under his couch. Well, he took it to a magick store and they said it was an attraction spell. And now, the strange thing is, he can’t stop thinking of her. Do you think it’s the spell or just psychological?”
AFC: I am not a woman-hater. I don’t want to hurt anyone, and I don’t want to manipulate anyone into doing something she’ll later regret.
Mystery: Nor am I. Others MAY be certainly, that’s not MY concern. You don’t have to be nor do I. We don’t give a shit about the philosophical underpinnings of the WHY. The HOW is all we care about. Cherry pick what is best for you. Remember though, that many of things we talk about are written because they WORK. RESULTS.
AFC: However, I don’t think that sex with me is something that anyone should regret. I’m a decent man. I treat people with respect. I’m honest. I’m reasonably handsome. I have no diseases. I make a good living. I keep a clean home. I’m an attentive lover. I even have a large penis and good stamina (despite a relative lack of experience).
Mystery: You have realistically defined me. The concept of the ASSHOLE getting more girls than the NICE GUY is partly true though. It has to do with self-respect. Women will test you by shitting on you a bit when you meet her and you must not allow her to shit on you. You will WIN by ‘acting’ like an asshole and therefore not allowing them to shit on you. NICE GUYS finish last because they ALLOW the woman to shit on them.
AFC: Considering all the ugly, disease-spreading, parasitic jerks out there who somehow seem to be able to get beautiful women into bed despite treating them badly, I’m sure there are a lot of beautiful women out there who would be much happier sleeping with me instead.
Mystery: The Art of Attraction is an art of the mind. This is not a game of yatzee. It’s a game of chess. The ugly jerks you refer to may get a girl or two (usually ugly girls) but the smart guys understand that behaving like a ladies man gets more girls. By systematic investigation we discover what works and what doesn’t, share the info so we don’t have to reinvent the wheel and get results. This has nothing to do with being a dirty jerk. This is an elitist group. You need a brain. You need to be sober. You need to take care of your body. You need to learn how to be attentive. This is no easy game of tic tac toe. I am a perfect gentleman. Consider Gone with the Wind (Rhett Butler). He was a cool guy, but when the Scarlet acted up, he didn’t take her shit. Self-respect - is that being an asshole? Hmmm.
AFC: My problem is a lack of social skills, if not life skills altogether. (I think a big part of it is that I’m so afraid of doing anything that will offend or upset somebody that I end up not doing or saying anything at all.) I have a very hard time making friends or lovers.
Mystery: You seem to be suffering from NICE GUY SYNDROME. We call them LAMOs. Nothing personal. Here you are such a smart guy, all clean cut and purdy and yet you can’t consistently get women to find you attractive. See? This has nothing to do with natural looks. It’s all about behavior. How you behave weekly to allow the statistics to work for you and how to behave in front of a state changing beauty. NICE GUYS go home alone when the SMART GUY gets the girls. NICE GUYS call the SMART GUYS … ASSHOLES. Funny, isn’t it?!!!
AFC: Despite what I have said above (and I don’t think that this is a contradiction, although I can understand that some people will perceive it that way), I am not looking for a deep, monogamous relationship. I just want to make some friends, have some fun, and have some sex, preferably with a variety of beautiful women. (Preferably simultaneously, but I’m getting ahead of myself here.)
Mystery: That is an honest WHY. Happens to be MINE too. A little bit of QUALITY with QUANTITY. Not overly unrealistic. I suggest you begin by accepting the NEWBIE MISSION.
**SHOWCASE EDIT: For those not familiar with the newbie mission, it is to go out for 4 hours a night, 4 nights a week for a 6 week period, opening 3 sets an hour which will leave you 20 minutes for each set. Bouncing to a new venue at midnight will keep ensure fresh venues with continuous sets.
Living vicariously with Mystery …
Alrighty gents, I got a call today at 1:30pm from the voluptuous girl from the party last week. Her name is … um, Annette. Sure. OK, so Annette (A for short) calls me because my last email to her had her asking her to call me. I left my # with her. So she did. She talked for about 10 minutes about anything but sex - in fact, I chatted like she was my good friend and we just shot the shit. I then said, come over. So she said she would come over after work. I tidy’d up and then at 7:30pm she called saying she was on her way over while I was talking to my buddy Tal. So she arrived and came to my bedroom where my computer was. she sat beside me on the bed and I played her an mp3 file I ripped off a CD. It was a folk song and I made her listen to it with her eyes closed. This changed her state to one of connection … as the song was called The Turtle Valley Snow. I then played some depressing songs (but really good ones) like from Counting Crows and this made it all serious in the room. I then played some fun fast stuff.
We talked about my computer and my favorite music and then talked about science for a bit … cosmology and mortality. We enjoyed each others company. I then got real close to her and as we were talking I kissed her neck. It was very natural. I talked some more and kissed some and then asked if she liked getting her neck bitten. She said yes so I did. I then asked her to stick her tongue out and I sucked on it. Ok, so we goofed happily (top off tits sucks, my shirt off nippled bitten, I kissed her ass and licked her everywhere … but … and she was very embarrassed about this …she was on her period and didn’t mean for us to get this far. So I said, hey its natural and we just played kissy and bitey and touchy. I rubbed her pussy from the outside of her panties and kissed her stomach and tongued her belly button. We massaged each other and rubbed and scratched but didn’t DO the sex thing. It was ok though. I am a man of CONTROL!!!!!! I am the master of my domain. King of the castle. So at 11pm she got dressed and we had dry humped each other and really had some CLEAN fun. I would have LOVED to cock her but she wasn’t able to due to nature issues nor did I have any co0ndoms here so it was fine. I would have liked a blow job though but that’s a little one sided for the first time. I COULD have talked her into it I’m sure but I would like to set this up for some longer term fun. Im not a very selfish person. We enjoyed each other tonight. I walked her to her car holding hands and we were all kissy kissy. I mean kissy! We were very good together. It was all good.
As a side note to those who haven’t been with a girl in a while. It’s worth it dude! Just TRY and fail and try and fail and try again. And then when a girl DOES accept you, and you are with her snacking on her tits, your eyes all glassy and you are totally immersed in tits, your ego is satiated. You feel so good. It’s a woman. Feminine creature. Her smell, her softness, the feel of the back of her head - her soft hair, her belly button, taking a bite out of her ass. A warm wet tongue in your mouth. Fuck, its so … natural. EVERYONE should have this connection with a girl … every DAY! I need more. Too bad she couldn’t stay the night. Too bad she wasn’t off her period. Too bad I didn’t have condoms. Too bad it wasn’t the weekend. Good news is, I KNOW FOR 100% FACT that she and I will see each other again and YES the sex will be good. I KNOW this. We did almost everything except the actual cock out of pants pussy in open air DO! Another time. I want things to be right.
She drove off with a smile on her face. I went back into my apartment with a smile on mine 
Mmmm …. I LOVE women!
Ok, I went to an area of town known for bars and cafes and restaurants - I went by myself and had never gone there before. I got into some cool adventure but after several no-gos I ended up at a regular club right downtown. I got NOTHING. I went from club to club and while I had fun (I must have talked with 10 girls in the whole night) NOTHING panned out into COOL GROOVES.
So I ended up walking into a place and bumped into a girl from a year ago who was so happy to see me. I remember her and I not cutting the bacon ’cause while she is VERY PRETTY (I met her at a fashion show where she was modeling originally) she wasn’t very SEXUAL. Thing is, she her male friend and I (the male friend was JUST a friend) went to another club together. She was hanging off my arm and she kept touching my chest and stomach and was so flirty and she bit my cheek and nuzzled me and everything. I played VERY hard to get and she told me she had lost her book with my # in it and wanted my # again. I RELUCTANTLY gave it to her and she says she’ll call this week. Thing is, while pretty, I don’t know if she’ll copulate with me. That’s all I really want to do with her - if she would fuck me, Id hang with her - but if not, I wouldn’t want to just be friends and always have to ABSTAIN from my desires. That would get to me. I’ll tell ya what happens. I went to another club and nothing there and then for pizza and met a girl outside who I chatted with a bit and then a girl inside the pizza place. Point is, I didn’t get anywhere with them but I approached, met and chatted and left looking very cool. I was wearing a suit and the girls were CLUB girls so I looked a bit out of their range.
I would like to find my TYPE of woman. Where would I go? My TYPE is an intelligent model. A REAL model, not a wannabe. I’m a performing artist and want a model. It’s that simple. I don’t know where they ARE though. All the gorgeous girls today were soooo young. I like young, but they were sooo youth culture. I want class. Where are they? I looked and looked. Oh shit, remember the voluptuous girl I snacked on about 2 weeks ago? She was in one of the cafes I checked out. We talked for a brief time and then I took off playing “I don’t care, I’ve got better people to do”. I wonder if she’ll call me or email me or something. Who knows? She was a cutie but if she aint interested I can only move on, right?
Sorry for not being more into NG lately. I’ve had some stress from shows I had to perform the last week.
Oh, my HB friend (she is a 10!) on my birthday told me she loved me. I mean LOVE. She was crying and everything and we had a fight because her 3 friends (all 6.5 and UNDER) liked me and I was being flirty with them because it felt good and she got all pissed over that. It’s not like Id actually DO any of em, fuck! I mean ugs. Thing is we all went to her friends place and 2 of the girls took their tops off and got on the bed with me (I was just lying there watching) and the girls started to French kiss each other on my asking them to (I LOVE lesbianism). Then the 3rd girl came in and I told all three to kiss and they did. Then one of them started rubbing my cock through my pants (they were not beauties but 3 girls frenching each other 6 inches from my face will get me going I learned) and I asked her to stop and told them it was all good and that I just wanted to watch. Thing is, my HB friend was weirded out and called a taxi. She wrecked the whole scene. I left with her and we argued in the car. She was so in love with me (and to think I thought she and I had an UNDERSTANDING) and when I told her I want going to get INVOLVED with the ugs and just wanted to enjoy watching the lesbianism part (she likes lesbianism too it turns out) she said, “Why didn’t you tell me that?” I said, “Fuck, how am I supposed to know you needed me to TALK to you.” thing is we fought and haven’t spoken since. I’ve been busy anyway. See, I don’t fight. I never ever raise my voice. But she did to ME. That’s not acceptable behavior so I left.
Well anyway, it’s now 4:40am. I had a rather lonely evening. I met many girls but nothing really worth mentioning. Not great looking, or my type, or old enough, or mature enough, or into me enough. It was a fun game though tonight. at least I tried.
Alright gentlemen, at 9 p.m., I readied and went to meet my friend Tal and his buddy Action Fighter downtown. We ate at a cool food joint and discussed the chance of my meeting the famous Angelina Jolie from Hackers. We discussed and planned. It was my party invite and I invited my friends so I had dibs on Angelina. We agreed on that. They said that since I was the guy who worked his ass off to get good, it was only fitting that I landed her in order to complete my training as Action Lover. Se we get to the place for 11:20pm. Action Fighter couldn’t get in ’cause the ticket was for only 2 so I asked the guy if I could go up and find the film-makers to get my friend in and they let me in (I think it was my confident and PLEASANT demeanor.) We go in and I meet a couple of people I knew. We walked around and the place slowly picked up over time. A photographer I knew through a biz acquaintance was there and he took some pics of me. Me, Action fighter and Tal just waited around and nothing happened for the first hour. We just looked busy and chatted and hung which was tough to do. We saw Rosanna Arquette there but I didn’t intro myself to her. We were waiting for Jolie to come. I thought, when she comes, I have to be all set up to meet her. I figured, first, she must be intro’d to me, and second, I must have women around me to appear as positive testimonial to my coolness. So I intro’d myself to 2 women who were not my type at all just to get something going around me. This is known as BASING. This is where you start a BASE of women around yourself to DRESS yourself in female-atude. One of them liked Tal too so he enjoyed the yak. Better than hanging alone waiting for the cream of the crop to still arrive. Well, Jolie wasn’t coming so I dumped the 2 girl BASE and walked around. Jolie NEVER arrived which sucks because I asked the photographer to get Jolie to come and meet me. That would have been cool because she would have felt like ‘I’ was important enough for her to want to meet ME. He would say to her that he wanted to take a picture of the two of us and I would be surrounded by several people and the HYPE would be around ME. If only she were THERE. Mind you, I’m not pissed or anything. It was a long shot worth trying for. She could have had a boyfriend or been married but at least I went there.
Ok, so I end up meeting a couple cool black dudes and we shoot the shit for a bit. They were sort of a second BASE. Tal, Action Fighter (AF) and I go get a drink at the complementary bar. We only ordered coke because drinking lames out the brain for the sharpness required for the game. None of us drink. The ‘drink to loosen up’ excuse is invalid from a scientific standpoint. Playing the game is INCLUDES over-riding your emotions. See, beautiful women by their presence will create a STATE-CHANGE in you. They don’t have to talk; they just have to BE THERE. You will get nervous and horny and weird. This feeling will make you behave like EVERY other guy. This state-change is an indicator that the woman is WORTHY of your attentions. However, you can’t let this STRONG EMOTION alter your approach. This is an internal issue that happens on TOP of the external issue of attracting her. It’s a BITCH of an emotion too though because it makes you WANT her so bad that you will be NICE to her. What the NICE GUYS don’t realize is that only men who are around women a lot don’t have this state-change and therefore do not behave like horny-toads. So you must act like you don’t FEEL this inside and suppress the feeling. Good news is, when you ARE around women a lot, the feeling gets weaker. You can control this STATE-CHANGE as you can nervousness before public speaking and such. You just ignore the feeling. Only YOU know you have this internal issue. Hiding it is the big thing. When you are drunk, it removes this feeling, but it ALSO removes your sharpness and focus.
Ok, so Tal, AF and I go for another walk about in the place. We chat with our 2 girl BASE and Tal gets attention from one of them. They are not WORTHY but they DO invite us to their home party tomorrow. I could tell that this invite thing was designed for Tal. The girl must really like her. She isn’t WORTHY for him though. But hey, we plan on going. See, they actually had already written the directions for us when we returned to them. Weird but cool. The other one said, “There will be lots of single women there for Tal.” I replied, “I’ll try to convince Tal that that is important to him.” I was playing coy for him. They leave the party and we move on. There are 2 very attractive ladies near the speaker. I approach them and initiate my attack. Right behind them is a producer who was listening in and he gives me his card. In minutes I have the girls and this producer dude follow me to where my BASE 2 of the 2 black dudes are. We all chit chat and laugh and have fun for about 10 minutes and then I ask the blond girl (call her Tat here in NG) to come with me to a quieter area. I do this because it is a wonderful controlling and leadership display. I also got her away from the rest so only she and I could talk. But I looked cool to her because the producer thought I was cool and showed it, shaking my hand several times and the 2 black dudes were cool to me too. Anyway, we go to a quieter place but she asks if her friends could come. I say sure. So Me, Tat and 2 other cute girls go and sit somewhere else in the place. Oh by then, AF already left to go to his girlfriend at home. He’s not into the game, just appreciates what I do and watches me work. Ok, so I talk to Tat (who is at least a 9 if not more (24 yr old beauty - a therapist) and the other 2 sort of dissipate for a while because they know Tat likes me. We talk for an hour. Our talk includes connecting, how the mind is incredible, we talk about cosmology (an interest of mine) in an emotional way, and other stuff. She wore a black dress which was cut above the knee and her body was fucking awesome man! Fuck! I treated her like a friend. I did the pull my finger script on her and it really put me in control. Tal wanted to leave so I asked her for a ride home and she agreed so he took off. We will go to that party tomorrow. Ok, so I told Tat that I had a few rules in case she ever called me (I didn’t give her my #, I just told her my rules.) I actually TOLD her these. Swear.
1. If you call my pager, don’t leave a pager #.
2. If you call my pager, rather than saying via voice mail, “Hey, call me”, instead type in your # or I won’t call you.
3. If I call you and you can’t talk, don’t say, “Can you call me back?” I won’t. Instead, say, “I’ll call you back.” And then actually CALL me back.
4. If I call you, when you find out I’m ME, instead of saying, “Hey, what’s up?” I would prefer you saying, “Oh HI sweetie, how nice of you to call!” I told her I would do the same in return.
“Is all this fair?” She agreed.
I had the chance to make her friend like me too. I got Tats friends respect when she noticed I didn’t let Tat shit on me. I gave Tat rules and basically behaved like a man. I was confident and in control and lead the conversation. I listened and asked questions too which gave me valuable info with regards to her VALUES. Great insights I learned this week here in NG. Man, has NG helped me. Thanks guys BTW.
I also told her that I would NOT ask for her #. Why? I said, “Because I’m not like every other guy. You will have to WORK to get it off me. AND, if you say, can I have your #, I won’t find that creative enough so I will actually say NO. You will need to be creative, fair?” She says, “Ok I’ll need to think about this.”
Ok so we went to her car and I made jokes about her CLUB. You know, The CLUB, that bar on the steering wheel. Ok, so she drove me all the way home and that really allowed us to get to feel friendshipy comfortable. Her friend was in the back asking me questions. Like, she was qualifying me for her friend. I believe I passed all the tests nicely. Halfway home I mention, “You realize if you don’t ask for my # I will say, “Pleasure meeting you” and just get out of the car.” She says, “I was thinking about how I am going to ask.” When we got in front of my place she didn’t say anything but I could tell she really was going to so as a joke I said, really quickly, “pleasure meeting you” and opened the door and got out.
“Wait”, she said. I sat back down, door open. “Yes? What?”
She said, “can I have your number?” I said, “No! Boring. Try again.”
“Oh come on, don’t be difficult. Just gimmee your #.” I looked back at her friend and said, “If some guy said, “oh come on, don’t be difficult. Just gimmee your #.” Would you? She said no. “This won’t do. Try again. Be creative and sincere.” I was toying with her and actually making her nervous about losing me. “I would very much like to have your #”, she said.
I said, “Why?”
“Because I want it. Just give it to me.”
“NO”, I said, “why do you want my number?”
“How else will we see each other again?”
“Because I want to.”
I reply, “Why can’t you look at our time together as a fun time, a cool memory, and leave it at that? It’s like a nice package, we had a good time and that’s that.” She said, “Well, wouldn’t you want to OPEN the package?”
FUCK IM good. I WANTED her to say that. I MADE her say that with this game. I ‘permitted’ her to have my number but only AFTER I did the CREATIVE CLOSE script. It was awesome, I ran her through hell to get my #. She had to EARN IT! The girl in the back thought I was very cool and agreed with me and said to her, “you have to earn his #. He’s a man of value. He’s worth more than just a, “I’ll call you.”
We planned to see each other on Sunday (Saturday I have that party). After I got her # but before I gave mine I said, “before you get to have my number, you will agree to call me tomorrow, just to touch base. Is that fair?”
“Yes that is fair. :)” “Not too early though, I’m planning on sleeping in.”
They waved several times as they drove off.
I made her WANT me. I made myself WORTH it. In a way, I acted like a girl. I was coy and hard to get. Fuck girls are good at this. How the hell do they do it so well so early? Anyway, thanks to the SS newsletters and your posts, I have really gotten my shit together. I came upstairs and IMMEDIATELY began posting shit here. Its 6:05 a.m. now and there you have it. Oh, BTW: remember that 10s # I got last Wednesday? Well, I had called her 2 days later and she said, “I’m busy can you call me back?” That sucked. So before the FILM PREMIERE I called her again and she was getting her hair done. She was busy tonight (I had invited her to the FILM thing). She didn’t try to get together another time nor did she sound so interested. So you know what I did? Now this hurt. I deleted her # from my list. I figure: I did all I can do to attract her LIVE that night I met her and I remember doing very well. She loved me. But on the phone she wasn’t all that into me. So I gave her 2 tries and she just didn’t bite like as if she was interested. I won’t call again. If she doesn’t call, that simply means she doesn’t want to be with me. Simple and direct, yes? I can’t convince her any MORE by calling her. I did all I can do and it is now up to her. I will only lower my standards by calling again. So I deleted the #. If she calls, BONUS. If not, I did the best I can … oh, AND I got a # today from a beautiful girl that I would love to be a girlfriend. Wow … ok, now get THIS! Remember that photographer at the party? His camera was digital and he took a picture of Tat and me. I asked him to email it to me and he agreed. So, that means you guys get a pic. But only if you ask me privately and are cool about it. Don’t burst my bubble!
JIMMY the HuN BTW did NOT show up. He did NOT email me. He did NOT do anything. Of course I won’t call this a cop out on his part because I DID give him short notice. Besides, at $100 a #, I’d only have made $100. Thing is, it’s the only # I wanted! She is amazing and I am in LOVE! Wow. JIMMY, come out another time. Hey dude, honest, come out to the house party tomorrow. Or is that today? Saturday night anyway. Email me and we can meet up if you are up to a friendly game of The Game. Don’t let me down. I’m ready to uphold my reputation and nothing you can say but “OK, I’ll be there” will uphold yours.
Mystery
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We’re doing some bootcamps this year. These bootcamps, sold at VenusianArts.com, are the only Mystery Method bootcamps that I’m currently endorsing. I’m sure you have a lot of questions regarding where I’ve been, what’s up with my company, and so on. Unfortunately, for legal reasons, I cannot yet comment on what is happening with MM Inc. Lovedrop, who lives in Project Miami, will make a statement very soon just as soon as we are able to post more.
I am having a blast. I am working quite a bit. I’m traveling a lot. The book that I wrote “The Mystery Method” hits bookstores on February 8th, I’ll be doing some press on that and some book signings (please come down.) Thanks to everyone for your support during this critical time.
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