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9/5/2007 8:04 AM
INTRO
Why are they famous?
Mystery and Matador are two stars of the VH1 reality show The Pickup Artist. Mystery is heralded by many as the best pickup artist in the world. He has helped create a multimillion dollar industry around the “art” of attracting women.
Matador is the cofounder of the Venusian Arts and one of the top instructors of the Mystery Method.
Quick Bio
Mystery's exploits have been covered by publications such as The New York Times, Elle Magazine, The Montreal Gazette, and Saturday Night Magazine.
Exploding onto the pickup community in the late ‘90s, Mystery quickly gained underground fame for his groundbreaking contributions to the practice. Mystery popularized indirect game, canned material, group theory, and hoop theory, along with a wealth of useful tactics such as the Neg and the three-second rule. Mystery was the first to offer live, in-field instruction, and he has trained hundreds of students all over the world, including a who's who of the most respected pickup artists in the community.
Matador is an entrepreneur at heart and runs a successful real estate development company. He's Mystery's wing and has taught live boot camps and seminars with him all over the world. Matador was the first instructor besides Mystery to lead his own live programs.
Matador and Mystery live in the Project Miami mansion and enjoy winging each other night after night, refining their game in the process.
THE INTERVIEW
Q-1:You have traveled the globe teaching groups of men your “method.” What do these men want to get out of your seminars?
Mystery: Overwhelmingly, most men that come to my boot camps are looking to get a high-quality girlfriend. It’s not the quantity thing. They mainly want a good girlfriend.
Q-2:After years of crafting your method and creating the Venusian Arts, would you say your method is complete or still evolving?
Mystery: Just like the world, it’s always evolving. My method is complete enough to help people. No method is ever 100% complete.
Q-3:Will we ever see Mystery get married?
Mystery: Yes, absolutely. I faked my marriage for two weeks with Katia [a former girlfriend]. This was an eye-opener. One week into this so-called marriage everyone thought it was an April fools' joke, but we kept it going and it made me feel good.
Q-4:Who is a woman that you find sexy?
Mystery: I have a strong belief in leaving a woman better off than when I met her. When I draw a woman in my life, she has to fit my life not because she is beautiful. That is not reason enough, but because I understand the direction she wants to take her life. The way she wants to be viewed, her career and all that stuff. Do I want a girl that is in music or acting? Sure. Because I’m here in LA and I understand what it is to go off and do a project and then come back and see each other and have a good time. I understand the traveling and the nightclubbing.
I would say Megan Fox [from Transformers]. She would be at my speed and wouldn’t be riding my coattails.
Q-5:Who is the woman you admire the most?
Mystery: Oprah, for her power. I’m not attracted to her power, but proud of her for it.
Q-6:What is your definition of love?
Mystery: There is a parallel between love and magic. If you know the secrets, for some it becomes less potent and for some more potent. Just because you understand the laws of physics it doesn’t make the universe any less wondrous. Similarly, if you understand what love is, instead of that ethereal feeling which is a subjective reality, you can objectively backwards engineer and figure out what its purpose is and how it functions. This doesn’t mean that when you experience it that it is any less.
Love is also pair-bonding: Quite simply, we have a mechanism in our brain that is evolutionary-calibrated to align with those who have high survival replication value for us. When a man is with a woman, all that he has to do is prove to her that he will stick around and that way she can have sex, and sex equates to babies and that is wired in our ancient circuitry. It doesn’t mean she wants him to stick around, but that the choice is hers.
Love is magic.
Q-7:In your opinion, what is the No. 1 mistake average guys make with women?
Matador: They communicate interest to women without showing value first. For example, if George Clooney or Brad Pitt communicates interest it will work most of the time because we have a concept of a George Clooney or a Brad Pitt. We do not have a concept of the average guy until he communicates higher value. Women need to have data to figure out who the hell you are. That is why the average guy needs to demonstrate higher value before showing interest.
Q-8:Where do you see yourselves in five years?
Mystery: I see myself married and settled.
Matador: Married with kids.
The author of The Game, Neil Strauss, joins the interview session.
Q-9:Can any guy get their perfect 10? Or do they have to have some predisposition?
Matador: History has broken that stereotype. Just look at Lyle Lovett and Julia Roberts, Angelina Jolie and Billy Bob Thornton.
Mystery: As long as your survivability and replication value is up there you can get your 10.
Neil Strauss: A man’s status in some degree is an attractive quality to women. You can always get new status no matter how old you are.
Q-10:Does your method work on all women in all different geographical locations? Will your method work in all countries, all nationalities and ethnicities?
Matador: “Attraction is not a choice” -- that's a quote from David DeAngelo. A woman’s emotional circuitry and attraction switches are ubiquitous in that regard. Human beings are human beings. They have evolved a certain way. Just because you draw lines on the map, doesn’t mean people are different.
Neil Strauss: I’m going to give you an extreme proof of Mystery’s theories. I was in Bangladesh in a small village in the middle of nowhere. They had no TV and no internet. Not only did the game work on a girl that was completely Muslim and her family wanted to kill me, but because I was peacocking and wearing special earrings and stuff I had a bunch of girls attracted to me that were following me everywhere. Peacocking is universal.
Q-11:What do you want to say to your critics who say what you are doing is disingenuous?
Matador: What is disingenuous about it? Putting up with a woman’s unacceptable behavior because you are operating from a point of view of scarcity? Or being true to yourself and being selective to what you need? Women are far more genuine as they exercise their ability to say no more frequently. The Mystery Method gives people the ability to have higher standards for themselves and be selective.
Q-12:How would you save a troubled relationship from ending?
Matador: Things are not as they appear. Everything is transient no matter how great they seem. Over time, no matter how great the honeymoon was, a woman might see you as a threat if she thinks she is wasting her time with you. You have to always have value for your partner; it’s a way of being.
Q-13:What is necessary in order to develop a meaningful relationship with a woman?
Matador: It’s a real process and it takes time. Listen to what is positively unique about that person. Prove that you’re an attractive guy and that you are filled with positive emotions. You need to really like her for who she is trying to be, for her attempt to be a successful woman, which is what is needed for a deep, meaningful relationship.
Q-14:With all your skills and techniques, why aren’t you in a committed relationship now?
Matador: I’m evolving with this knowledge; I have yet to see what I can offer this world… I would like to chase this notion of love and pair bonding to the point where I’m consumed by a women. And I’m not going to FAKE it. I have no agenda when it comes to women; I don’t go out with a girl because Hollywood says she is hot. I want to be so attracted that I lose myself in her. I want my woman to be my muse.
Q-15:One may argue that because you meet so many women on a regular basis, you should have met your counterpart by now?
Matador: At first glance, your logic seems to be right, but as a man that has choice… REAL choice, [I am] not forced to be so optimistic when it is not deserving. You don’t take any girl and make her your girlfriend because you don’t know when the next will one will come by.
Some girls are so beautiful but do drugs. Some girls are so beautiful but are shallow and they have not invested in themselves. Had I not been a man of choice, I would have given them the label of acceptance from the beginning.
Yes, we are all looking for that special someone, but now we are operating from a non-scarcity mentality. That makes us more pure than others… we have the power to say no…
Mystery: When I meet women, I have no apologies for being Mystery. There is dissatisfaction when I realize this girl I spent time with is not worth spending any more time with. If I would stay with her I would be pulling her down the wrong direction as well.
Q-16:What do you want to have written on your epitaph?
Mystery: “The pickup arts enrich my life but they do not define it.” “There is more information in my head that is of great value to others… please revive me!”
Matador: “Life is about creating oneself and not waiting to find it.”
Q-17:What is next for Mystery?
Mystery: I have always been fascinated by magic and in magic there is a particular specialty area that is called Attraction Magic. Having completed the VH1 show, I know I can pull off another show on “Attraction Magic.”
Yashar Moieny is an international entrepreneur, sales communication specialist and freelance writer. He currently lives in California.
Excerpted from Askmen.com. View full article HERE
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